kevsgirl

What's monkey bread We're the same way... I hope it won't mean that I eat too much bread! Maybe we can mimic weight watchers bread?

Quote: Originally Posted by Simistar Yay Kevsgirl! Going for a fitting! I am actually a little bit nervous about the whole getting-the-dress-altered-thing...weird, right? I'm just worried something horrible will happen...I've read some horror stories, and I really wish I hadn't, b/c otherwise I don't think I would give it another thought:-) I'm actually also worried about how much the alterations will cost! But $300 sounds about average...if I have to pay $300, I'm okay with that...it's if I have to pay $500 or more that I won't be happy:-) Kevsgirl -- did you just go through the bridal salon...? I was really nervous too (had also read horror stories). The woman was referred to me by the bridal salon. She does alterations from her home. They gave her major praise, so I was expecting great things! Even so, I was asking her all these questions. The great thing was that every time I was panicky, she was amazing. She answered all my questions so quickly that I realized very early on that she is a professional who really knows what she's doing. The bustles are a little nuts, so I think I'll bring both my BM and a friend with me to the second fitting, so they can learn how to do them! It's complicated! So I would just say ask whatever questions you need to to make yourself feel better and hopefully the seamstress will be able to put you at ease. She even cut the front off while I was there! (Just the tulle layer). She was so cute. She was like "do you trust me?" I swear you could have heard a pin drop in the room. Neither of us was breathing! LOL! If she had said more than $300 I think I would have died. As is, I'm ok with it. I think it's reasonable. She already spent 1 hour with me. If it takes her 5-6 hours, I'm paying her about $40/hr which is totally reasonable. YAY for your FI getting his stuff together!!! I was in the same boat with the pics of my dress. I ended up setting up our new tripod and taking the pics myself. He didn't wan tto see the 1st dress 'in case'... Quote: Originally Posted by amy706 KevsGrl - that is sooo fun! I would try to stay relatively close to the weight you are when you get your last fitting. I know! Eeek! I"m just worried because I started running about 3 weeks ago and I could see it all starting to pay off suddenly... I'm not going to stop exercising. But we'll see. Crossed fingers! Sounds like you guys are really ramping it up! Your tequila tasting and cigar tables sound so fun! Are you going to engrave your rings, Amy? I have just been finalizing our pre-wedding brochure and am hoping to do a 'meet the guests' page too (is that what you're talking about)? Morgan had a great one, so I'm using that as an example. GOOD LUCK WITH DT!!!!

So ladies! What's up I struck another huge item off the list yesterday: I went for my first fitting and left my dress with the seamstress (sob)! It took an HOUR for her to get all the pins in and it's going to cost a whopping $300. The skirt is complicated. It turns out the tulle over the train comes out like almost in extra wings... and there is lace on the tulle in pattern. To preserve this, she's making something ridiculous like 6 or 7 bustles (some under and some over). It looked gorgeous though! I go in for my second fitting on the 15th and she said I could pick it up on the 17th of November. I'm a little worried because that is nearly a month before the wedding. What if I gain weight? What if I lose a ton of weight AHHHHHHHHHHHRRRRRRRRRRRR Nonetheless it's done. And FI got his pants taken up today too. Lots to do, but something done. YAY! How are you all holding up?

Ooooh!! Yes, I love my KitchenAid mixer. FI bought me one last Christmas. It was a decadent gift. I love it so much. I just marveled at it for the first few days... I even took pictures of it mixing... and it's pink too! A blow-torch isn't on my registry, but is on my "to buy" list. For jewelery making, not food. FI is totally in though. You would have thought I'd said I wanted a chainsaw to see his expression. How about a bread maker? I was just at FSIL's shower and she got one. I went and added one to ours A girl I used to live with had one and they were so fun. It's great to know exactly what's in the food you're eating.

THANK YOU, DLyteful! That is a beautiful photo and you just all look great together. I think FI's suit is somewhere in between your DH and father's suits, but I'm sure now that what all you girls have said is true: since they're neutral colours, it'll be fine. Phew! Thanks girls! YOU ARE THE BEST!!!

Yay! I find it really fun FI couldn't really be bothered though. Think about room to room and have a plan before going in. Think about the things that you reall are missing. That helped me out - otherwise there is so much to choose from and you can feel a little overwhelmed. Have a good time! We were the same - we weren't going to register, but people/guests just kept asking and suggesting, so we finallly went ahead and did it. Now it turns out I'm having two showers in one weekend. What happened I'm a bit embarassed, but also excited and happy to be having parties

We are planning on this too, but probably not telling anyone about it! I may even see if one of my friend's fathers will do the ceremony for us. He performs weddings all the time... he's a bit theatrical though! I'm definitely getting my smooch! But I think we'll keep it casual and light-hearted. The Mexican wedding is definitely the 'real' one for us. The reason we're doing this is 1) cheaper (we now don't have to pay for all the documents to be translated and notorized). 2) easier (way less translation of documents - FI was married before, shorter time to get certificate, less stuff to do in Mexico) 3) safer (re: Heather above, blood tests) I remember that when I was researching resorts, I think it may have been DR that some places' packages were waayyy cheaper if it was just the vow renewal vs. the actual marriage. As it is with our resort, there's no difference. Oh well. (sigh). For us, we are going to have a preacher perform the ceremony though in Mexico. And both of my sisters (BMs), who are going to be 'witnesses' will not know and still sign a certificate.

What about a sexy drink mix package? Like for some kind of martini?

Just echoing all the same comments, but that's because all of us are right!: The colour really looks beautiful with your skin tone and you look fantastic!

Quote: Originally Posted by DallasAshli We are doing a delayed honeymoon (6 months later) in Thailand. We wanted to see someplace new and he's done Europe a bunch and I've done lots of the islands, so Thailand was a great option for us. We are staying at our wedding resort for 8 days (5 days after the wedding) so that will be our mini-honeymoon We would love to go to Thailand too! Is any of yours planned yet? Where will you be staying? How are you going to vacation there? (cheaply? via cruise? on your own? in a group?) We both love travelling and there are millions of places we'd like to go, but Thailand could be our perfect in between

Hair flower pot of red lipstick hair feather some kind of a purse charm compact (glammed up version) Just thoughts. How much is very little? How much are the cigars each?

Quote: Originally Posted by Simistar I just wanted to clarify, in case I came across as sounding harsh about the possibility of a DT bride being moved to your resort...:-) As I said, I know the DT brides are going through hell right now and SHOULD be acommodated at another resort! My only point was, that the resort shouldn't allow two weddings at the SAME time....Sigh Simistar: No worries! I read it like that too! It was a good point - we do know that a lot of that is happening right now. If that's what's going on, they should have no trouble explaining that and arranging the relocated bride's schedule around the already booked wedding. I'm sure we'd all be a lot more understanding if that were the case. (RE: original poster) It sounds good that you have some people on your side to fight for you!

Thanks, girls!!! It's like a light khaki I guess. We wanted 'bone' (like very offwhite), but couldn't find anything that light. I guess when I think on it it's better that it was a bit darker... phew. I've been having a bit of stress tonight... thanks for your comments!

I absolutely love birdcage veils! When I was engaged before (last FI) I was totally going to go that route... but they were harder to find. I think you should totally do it! But I kind of prefer the white myself. Maybe you could do a black feather with it or some black accessories? And you could have dramatic makeup on too?

I just realized that maybe my dress and FI's suit won't work together! We bought his suit when I knew my dress was going to be ivory and now it's white (as in bright white)! Is that going to be ok? His is like a light tan colour... crap! It's being taken up nnow too, so I can't look at them together. Anyone have pics of a white dress with a darker suit?

Arrrrg!!! I made a monogram I really like in PowerPoint. I have even printed it onto transfer paper and made some really nice OOT bags with it. But I can't figure out for the life of me how to cut and paste it as a circle, rather than a circle with a square space around it. IDK if this is going to make sense to anyone, but I hope it will. I want to also figure out how to make it transparent, but haven't figured that out either. Blah! It's driving me nuts! I keep trying to get it to paste onto documents and it keeps being this square format. WTF! I hope someone understand my issue and can help. TIA!

Thank you! This is so fun! Just what I need. I'm at home for the 2nd day in a row with a wicked flu... and I'm just getting better enough to actually participate on BDW. Yesterday I felt so bad that all I could do was read posts. HA!

We haven't involved her in very much, though she did involve herself by making us change our wedding date No, in all seriousness, I really like FMIL. I've ended up involving her by accident - I had issues with my first dress, so she came and looked at me in i t and gave her opinion and she came with me when I went to find my dress (2nd and last!). She also apparently wants to throw me a family shower. This is funny because my friends are throwing me one, but she wants to throw one for all the family and instead of just combining. It's probably for the best, because if my friends want any say in theirs they shouldn't combine! She tends to take over...

Congratulations, Leia!!! You made a beautiful bride! I can't believe you've already been married... this fall is really flying by.

Quote: Originally Posted by arhoyaltres Am I over-reacting to all of this? I just feel cheated!! Nope. you are not overreacting. That is bs. I would be really pissed off. I think you should demand some kind of reimbursement. But maybe after the wedding You want them to be on their best behaviour, KWIM?

Quote: Originally Posted by BachataBride This was my thought exactly! Cancel your current wedding plans and do something small & intimate! With all the hard times you and your FI have been having I think you need this wedding to brighten your life - you need something positive to happen right now & what better thing than getting married to the love of your life! Good Luck with everything & I wish you all the best! xoxo DITTO!!! Wipe the slate clean. Change your wedding and make it for those who are committed to coming. Screw everyone else. Stop helping eveyrone with their plans. If they aren't adult enough to book their own damn tickets, they won't come and tough on them! It'll be beautiful and you will have a wonderful time together. Take verone else out of the equation and make yourselves happy first and foremost. If you want to please others, do it with an AHR.

I feel your pain too... Of my 3 best friends, one said she couldn't come from the very first phone call, which really hurt. All I wanted to hear was "I'd love to and I'll see what I can do". Since then she did say what I wanted to hear, but still will not be coming. It's more understandable now because her father passed away and she has had to make trips she could not afford. I will mss her, but I no longer feel like she's mean for not coming! My other 2 friends had to have my FI badger them and offer to 'hire' them to paint our bathrooms so that he would cover their stays. And one of these girls, who is the closest to me, came over about 2 weeks ago and told me she was thinking of going to the Caribbean this month (ONE MONTH BEFORE OUR WEDDING!!!) I honestly think it would have taken me at least a year to get over that and even be able to look at her again... Luckily all of them have now booked, though off-site. And she said to me the other day that she probably wouldn't see us too much because it's her holiday and it cost her 2x as much as if she'd gone now.WTF What it comes down to is that 1) They will feel SO sorry that they missed it. THEY will miss out and they WILL realize their mistakes 2) You will STILL have a great wedding without them. Honestly. 3) You never know who may book at the last minute. You may be pleasantly surprised. 4) Focus on the ones who are making the effort, not the jerks who aren't.

Wow, Heather. That is brutal... but I'm really glad to hear that you have a plan and are feeling more in control. Talking with the banker together is a great idea too - no more secrets! Good luck sorting it all out. It sounds like you are both really in love and want to make it work and that is more than half of the battle!