So frusterating!
Yes, we paid for 3 rooms. It sucked, but we were over it once we got there and everything was sooo beyond PERFECT. But, I know that doesn't help you out right now. We had the same thing, death in family, layoffs.
Really frusterating about your wedding party though. I suppose that you told them that you'll be paying for the rooms regardless, so it isnt really taking your money?
You end up paying for the room minus tax. (D&E and breakfast are incl in room rate so that isn't subtracted.)
We also opened up to co-workers and people that weren't invited to the wedding at a lower rate- anything helps. No one took us up on it though.
So sorry you are dealing with this, been there. But, TRY to focus on the positives: You are getting married... and you are getting married in the most perfect spot ever! Wish I could help more.