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LOL, I love this thread! Why is it that when people ask you "how are you today" they always expect you to say "great" or "fine", or something. If you say you are tired or stressed or sick, or just not that great, they are totally taken aback. You did ask how I was today, right?

Hi Ladies, I have been shopping around online looking for a veil, not wanting to pay ridiculous bridal store prices (especially since I already spent too much on my dress - oops!). I ordered my dress in diamond white and obviously I want to find a veil in diamond white to match, but it seems like many of the veils I do like only come in white or ivory For example, one veiI I found that I really like is this one: http://www.bridalfashionmall.com/weddingveils/v435_veil.html I can't seem to find anything like it in diamond white! So my question is: could I do a white or ivory veil, or does it have to be "diamond white"? Has anybody done this? I feel like it might be risky, but I'm not sure... Obviously the ideal situation would involve holding the veil up to my dress to see if it will match okay, but I don't have my dress yet (ordered, but still being made) and obviously shopping online for a veil means I won't see it in person until I actually order it. Thanks for your help!!!

I don't think you are being a bad daughter either. I think you've done everything you can do to try and involve her, and have her be there with you at your wedding. If she's not interested, then she's the one that's going to miss out. The last thing you should be worried about is dragging your mom along on this happy journey in your life. I don't think you should cut her out all together (though of course that's entirely up to you), but I think you are totally justified in not wasting your time on her anymore. Again totally up to you, but I don't know if I would try to convince her not to come, as you may regret that later (and in any case just expend more energy on your mom!) but I think it would be totally fair to say that the ball is in her court now, and you can be done with it - if she wants to step up and be a good mother then she will have to put forth some effort to be there! It may also be time for you to have a talk with her and let her know how her behaviour is making you feel.

Yeah I've been going crazy with online shopping for the wedding lately, lol! Sounds like you have a good offer from your aunt in Idaho as well, so maybe that will work out. The other bride I was mentioning said she has relatives in New Jersey she's actually going to visit soon, so she's going to have her maracas shipped there. She said she talked to the manufacturer about shipping to Canada and they didn't give her an exact price but said it was MUCH cheaper to ship in the U.S. So, I think I'll be sending mine to Blaine! I probably won't order right away though (maybe another month or two?), since I still don't have a final count of our guests, so if it doesn't end up working out well to have your maracas shipped to your aunt and you want to work out something with me to go in on my order, let me know

Definitely better too big than too small!

Quote: Originally Posted by Boo Thanks for the pocket mirror idea, they are adorable! I couldnt resist, the seller was super easy to work with, I told her our colours our coral/orange/ pink and turquoise blue with some starfish and orchid theme throughout and this is what she came up with, what a blast! Pocket Mirror Custom Name by SpotlightOnYou on Etsy Wow, super cute!!! Looks great!

Welcome to the forum Ange! And good luck in finding your location. I think most brides will agree that that is often the hardest part - it gets so much easier, and more fun, after that

Quote: Originally Posted by cathyandchin Does anyone know if the dress code is enforced for children? My TA and I can't get a straight answer from anyone about this. Also, does anyone know how you pay Ana for the wedding?? p.s. Some friends of ours got to DRC today and sent us a text. It said word for word: DUDE! THIS PLACE ROCKS! IT'S THE BEST PLACE WE'VE EVER BEEN TO!! I started jumping up and down in the kitchen and got all misty eyed. From what I have read on the Facebook fan page, the dress code is not enforced for kids. I know that you pay for the wedding at the resort, after the wedding but before you leave the resort. I assume you would pay by credit card, but hopefully one of our past brides can chime in here on the procedure!

Quote: Originally Posted by Angie1017 I was looking at those too, Angela! Love them! Do you know how much it is to ship to Canada yet? I always love things and then freak out when I found out how much shipping is! Apparently we are not the only Canadian brides excited about maracas! There's some discussion of shipping costs to Canada on this thread: http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...-canada-61894/

Quote: Originally Posted by Angie1017 I was looking at those too, Angela! Love them! Do you know how much it is to ship to Canada yet? I always love things and then freak out when I found out how much shipping is! I don't know because I have a mailbox in Blaine, WA that I get stuff shipped to! Then I just bring it across the land border. FI and I have Nexus so we go down quite often. It's been particularly awesome lately for all my wedding finds! Another bride PMd me a couple of days ago from North Van wondering if I would be interested in splitting shipping to Canada (she saw my excited comment on the maracas thread, lol). I'm not sure what the best option is yet... But I also said to her, and will say to you, that if it's cheaper, and we can all go in on one order, I could pick it all up in Blaine if you can cover the shipping and tax that would be charged to bring it all across (shouldn't be any duty, just HST, but I would need to double check that!). We'll have to all find out a bit more and keep in touch I guess if you are interested

Quote: Originally Posted by Boo I would double check that cerfew is 11pm and not 10 pm, I recall her saying 10 pm onward is quite hour, but I could be mistaken. If you ladies find out that it is 11 pm please let me know, so far we have the DJ for 4 hours, but I would prefer to extend it by 1 hour then till 11 pm - that would be really cool actually! She told me 11pm. I REALLY hope that's right cause I already feel like that is kinda early - 10pm would just plain suck!!! We are adding extra hours on to our reception. My tentative (and very much still "in my head") timetable is: Ceremony at 3pm "Happy Hour" at 5pm (*scrapping cocktail hour but thinking of adding an extra hour of bar service at the start of the reception so that there's not such a long time between the ceremony and reception... people can gather for drinks and maybe we we have the mariachi or carribean band play here) Dinner at 6pm, followed by a few short speeches DJ starting at 7pm (the beginning of this would hopefully be using his mic setup for the speeches!) End at 11pm (*so this would mean adding an extra 1-2 hours of bar service on to the end as well) I'm not sure about any of this quite yet as I'm still waiting to hear back from Ana on a few points; my email was sent months ago... One thing I'm not sure about is whether I should worry about having music during dinner? Are you guys having music while you eat?

Well, I think I've decided on favors! I have been in love with maracas since I saw the personalized ones that Mishka does, but I just could not justify or afford the cost of those (though they are so gorgeous). So I was super excited to come across these: Large Maracas Assorted Colors Cinco de Mayo Favors & Prizes | Amols' Fiesta Party Supplies You may have seen them already on another thread (that's how I found them!). I think they look awesome and FI likes them too! And obviously we both like the price.

Oh my gosh, these look fab!!! I've been for maracas that are nice but not too expensive - I'm sold! Thank you SO much for sharing!!!!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by jszy10 Leoni - by Maggie Sottero Sorry I didn't post the actual pic, I'm afraid to put the pictures on my photobucket just in case my FI comes across it!!!! Oooh that's really pretty!

Quote: Originally Posted by barbiegirl_27 I really appreciate this thread also. The last couple days have been hellish for me. My two best friends have been fighting with me about the wedding....and just this morning the one told me that my expectations were too high, that we're not irresponsible 18 y/o's anymore and that they have responsibilities and to expect them to WANT to come is apparently too much. And that expressing that I was disappointed that they probably wouldn't be making it was really unfair of me to say. I'm done, I'm exhausted. I can't be friends with someone like this anymore. ahh...sorry for venting but I've spent the morning in tears. Thanks for listening! Yikes, sorry barbiegirl, that's just not right! My best friend since high school isn't coming either because "it's just not in the cards financially" (when in reality she is the only one of my friends who CAN afford it!), and I let her know that I was disappointed. I wasn't trying to be mean, or guilt her in to coming, but she's my best friend and I was honest with her. I think it's unfair of your friends to think that you're not allowed to be disappointed - of course you are!!! Quote: Originally Posted by SDSteph So I got my first 'wow thats really a great deal!' It was really refreshing! Hope all you ladies have one coming soon! I have only had one "wow that's a really great deal" and yes it was awesome - I almost wanted to tape record it and post it to my website! My guests haven't been too bad in terms of moaning about the price, but there definitely have been a few comments about why I have chosen such a "fancy" resort, etc. I want to tell them it's okay if they want to spend the same price and stay at some crappy hotel down the road... I've spent SO MUCH time researching resorts and pricing, and negotiating my ass off along with my TA for my guests, so it's a little insulting when people insinuate anything about this being less than a stellar deal - believe me it is! If you want to come, just book it now and thank me later, lol. Also, there's my one cheap ass brother that really ticks me off. He keeps saying stuff about how this wedding is costing him an arm and a leg... like seriously if you don't want to come FINE BY ME, but don't complain and make me feel bad about the fact that you are coming! Plus his two kids are free (one of the biggest reasons we picked this resort, cause I cringed at the thought of his reaction if we went somewhere where they weren't), so he and his wife and two kids are going for 11 nights and paying under $5000 CAD including airfare for all 4 of them (which I think is pretty freaking good!)... and isn't it weird how although he is bitching about the cost, they added extra nights on to their stay (most people are only going for 7 nights)?!

We waited until our close friends and family knew and then posted the change on facebook. I didn't want anyone close to me to find out that way. I also, in addition to changing my status from "in a relationship" to "engaged", changed my actual status to be an announcement of our engagement so that at least people finding out this way could feel like they were purposely being told, and not that they were just stumbling across this new "engaged" status. I dunno, online stuff like facebook is changing all the etiquette rules. You just kind of have to do what you think is right and are the most comfortable with, and hope for the best!

Quote: Originally Posted by carly If you read the post that I quoted in my reply above, you would see that is exactly what she said... Eta: here is the quote that I was replying to... Whoops totally my bad on that one, I'll take the heat... I did read all the comments before replying but obviously I did miss that person. Can I change my comment to say "I think MOST people aren't suggesting the whole week should be about you"? (By "you" I mean the bride, or bride and groom if you will) I don't think anyone can get me on that one... Quote: Originally Posted by miss_delerium *slowing backing out of this thread*....do not make any sudden movements... Uhm... me too!!!

Wow this thread is getting heated!!! I think it's great to have feedback from B2Bs and from the girls who are already married (seriously, helps to put things in perspective from those who have been through it already!), BUT... Quote: Originally Posted by carly Don't get me wrong, I'm all about it being tacky to get engaged AT someones wedding, but I don't see the problem with it before or after. And I'm kinda shocked at how many people really think that everyones entire vacation should revolve for the entire time around the wedding. You really think the entire week is about you (bride & groom)? Do you dedicate an entire week to every wedding that you go to? Then I don't really think it's fair to expect others to do the same. I don't know that anyone is saying that the entire week should revolve around the bride and groom, in fact most, like myself, have just suggested that he wait to propose until AFTER their wedding. Yes, it's not just a wedding, it's a vacation for people. But it's also not just a vacation that people are there for, they are there for a wedding. KWIM? I think this trip provides the perfect opportunity for a proposal, but after the wedding. Especially since most of the people going know this other couple quite well. I know that the focus will still be on the bride and groom, but on my wedding day I want to congratulations to be coming to me, not already jumping ahead to the next persons wedding! But certainly, after that, go nuts!!! A lot of the focus too has been on the fact that this is a vacation week, but let's imagine that this was an at home wedding. I don't care where it is, who proposes the day before you are going to someone else's wedding? And if I was the one being proposed to, I wouldn't want this either because I would want to share the news with everyone and be joyful but I would feel like I would have to restrain myself from doing this until after the wedding in order to not steal the "next day bride's" thunder.

Quote: Originally Posted by cinny726 Also...to any brides with more than 20 guests: Our guest list is growing and I am really worried about how high the bill is going to be if almost all of our 75 guests happen to decide to come. Is there a rate for groups larger than 50 or anything? Or is it the cost of the wedding plus roughly $100 per person after 20 guests Eeeek! As far as I know (but I don't know for sure), there is no discount for really large groups. Yeah we are going to have something like 50 or 60 guests so it is going to add up. Thankfully we have the sixth room free promo for our group, so that money back should really help with the wedding costs. Also, you might want to consider scrapping your cocktail hour in order to help with your dinner costs. It sounds like with the higher packages that Ana will give you an additional 20 dinners at half price if you don't do the cocktail hour. So no paying for cocktail hour and your dinner cost becomes a little more reasonable. I love the idea of the cocktail reception so that guests will have something to do between the wedding and reception while pictures are happening... but it will save me a lot of money not to do it and my guests won't even know they are missing it! Besides, it's not a huge resort so they can go back to their rooms or whatever, or hopefully just congregate at one of the bars for a free cocktail hour!

Girl, I don't think you're being unreasonable!!! I don't want anyone stealing my thunder! I definitely think the proposal should wait until AFTER your wedding if it's going to happen during, or even close to, your wedding trip. They are there for your wedding and shouldn't take away from that. After it's over, then go nuts! I do agree that it's their holiday too but really there's no reason that it couldn't wait until after the wedding, and then everyone's happy! That being said, if your friend proposes before the wedding anyways, regardless of what you think, try not to be too upset because really this will only ruin your day as much as you let it. Have an awesome day and comfort yourself with the knowledge that their wedding day will never be as amazing as yours, lol

Hi Melissa, I'm also a December Dreams Riviera Cancun bride!!! Congrats on your upcoming wedding! We will be at DRC until December 18th, so maybe we will cross paths there. There are a couple of threads on here for December brides, and of course the DRC thread, so I hope to see you around and look forward to counting down with you

Hi Michelle!!! I'm not getting married at the same resort, but I am a December Mayan Riviera Bride! I look forward to counting down with you

Quote: Originally Posted by AnnR ummmmm ... lol

Congrats Jill, looks like you've chosen a fab resort, and you've certainly come to the right place for help with all your other destination wedding planning details!

Welcome Jenny!!! I love seeing more December brides on here! We have a couple of threads floating around on here just for us so hopefully you will stop by and say hello - it's nice to all stress and be excited doing the count down together