I know this is hard. I have similar issues during hoidays, but I have been able to split time equally. I don't stress too hard about this issue right now, but I do worry about when we have children because I know that all parents will want to share time with the kids that is going to be a battle in itself. I hope to negotiate time better when children arrive. Especially because my future moter-in-law i so demmanding. She is going to have to change her attitude somewhat.