Hartyt509

God i'm so mad I can't see the bigger picture so i'm hoping someone can either say yes I have a point or no i'm being a selfish cow lol So when we were trying to decide where we were going to get married, FI said well it has to be somewhere with kids because one of his best friends has 3 kids, I said yeah ok, even though I would have loved to go to an adults only resort as his friend was the only one going with kids. Anyway we tell him the resort, give him a rough idea of price and say look it is going to be expensive but its one of the best places for kids. He said fine no problem. So when it finally comes to it we all book he hangs back a few weeks and then surprise surprise he said i've had a quote for the 5 of us and its just too expensive!!! wtf did he think it was going to be cheap for 5 of them!!! Then the best bit he says well we're still coming but we are going to pick a different resort thats cheaper. Luckily for FI (lol) he said thats fine but if you don't stay at the hotel you are paying the extra $ to get in because we are already paying for a reception. So i'm furious that i'm now stuck at a bloody kids resort when I don't have to be, other people have booked so its not as if i can change it wahhhh!!! Am I being selfish? lol

I haven't got any sisters so for me its quite easy to say don't back down like i did before. FI has 2 sisters, one he gets on with one he doesn't, she isn't being invited to our wedding no matter how much FMIL kicks off and if she doesn't watch it she'll be uninvited lol point is FI always says "she's my sister I love her, but I sure as hell don't like her", so if you don't want her involved don't involve her

Quote: Originally Posted by redheaney I like your attitude, H509! It's all in the delivery, I guess... lol Yeah especially with this accent lol i just don't like people presuming they should be whatever - like FMIL presuming her new bloke will be invited to the wedding lmao

I wish, we're at Dreams Cancun for 14 days with everyone that is going - no choice just no more cash to have a separate honeymoon

Yeah tell her to get over herself and grow up, if she has something to say to say it to you not your FI!! that really bugs me lol

This is seriously making me think I want to sneak a differentphotographer in for my wedding lol patience i do not possess and FI is going to Afghanistan shortly after we get back so it would be nice for him to have something to throw darts at while he is away lol

I've given up with mine to be truthful, don't contact them just let it go and move forward its all you can do. Then when they ring and ask if everything is ok give them it between the eyes lol well thas my plan anyway lmao

Quote: Originally Posted by blinkgrl119 so far everyone is saying they are coming to the wedding, but no doubt next year when it comes to booking some people will be in a different financial situation, so it depends how many people can't go. Get used to being let down lol, all of our guests said they'd def be there and that was only in Feb, now when they have been given prices etc and asked to book, 3 people have done it!! YES I SAID 3!!! and one of them i booked myself for my aunt - furious but hey it may work out for the best lol

Yeah my closest friend has done the same to me. Its her little boy's birthday next week and so I rang her a couple of weeks ago and said when are you in, she said "sunday i'll let you know for sure"! so text her a week ago no response! i'm not at the point that if people can't be bothered with me then shite to them Back off and see what happens she'll probably end up on your doorstep! people are weird when you tell them you are getting married, its as if a switch gets flicked that says "be an obnoxious annoying distance arsehole" lol

Sorry i only know the UK law on this but I would think its not going to be drastically different in the US. You take the death cert to the bank and send copies to everyone that had contact for financial reasons to your gran. You won't need a power of attorney, the account is in joint names so all you need is the death cert In the UK we advise to get a solicitor because there can be big problems if there is no will with intestancy. I'd maybe make an appointment with a solicitor, its worth 30 mins of advice just to make sure you are on the right track. Sorry I haven't been much help x

I'd flog it on ebay and make sure he knew i was doing it lmao I once split up with an ex and there was a shit load of stuff in my house so i threw it all in black bin liners, i'm sure stuff broke, then went to the freezer and took out his vegetarian pies(!!!) and put them in 2 lmao left them in my car for a few hours until they thawed nicely, drove to his mother's house and told her what he'd done and left them all for him lmao I said now not sure he'd like you raking through his stuff so best leave it for him to get home, it must have been minging lmao I am going to hell lmao

God you've had a shit couple of weeks!! Apparently things happen for a reason, and the fact they are both "reasonable" ok goes to show that maybe this was a good thing to happen because look what its done to your family - you're back together. And most importantly you don't think her hubby is an arsehole anymore! Sometimes it takes the unexpected to see whats obvious to everyone that isn't immediately involved. From now everything is going to be fab!! its your new mantra lol

Quote: Originally Posted by ethrondson So far no one from my FI side have booked, but still plan to come. Exactly the same has happened with us, prob is the flights from where we live book up really quick and if you don't get them you end up having to travel to one of the massive airports, so i think they may have probs! and you know what i don't care will make my life easier lmao God not long before FMIL is married again!!! and we have to tell her lol bloody dreading it!

M8 had just got a passport when she got married so she didn't change the name on it or one of her credit cards, she has just done it 10 years later lmfao

Don't feel guilty at all either lol if people can't come thats their decision,the wedding is about YOU and FI not everyone else that wants a party!

Just sent a reply with thanks but no i'm already engaged but thanks for the thought and leave it at that. She sounds like she's after a pressie if you ask me!!

Tell her to bog off and when it goes tits up laugh so hard you nearly pee yourself and don't fix it lmao people make their beds and have to lie in them as my dad would say lmao

Hi i'm getting married 2 days after you at Dreams Cancun lmao welcome!

We've get to tell the FMIL and when we do all hell is gonna break lose, she has a massive family and so is going to expect EVERYONE to get an invite and no-one is lol FI has been warned NO-ONE else is coming and if he bowes down to her he is going to Mexico on his bloody own - she won't approach me because she knows she get told to go screw herself lmao

Quote: Originally Posted by JODEY Hi Gyz nd Gals ! Just FYI - Any one getting married @ Dreams legally you DO NOT have to get your birth cirtificates appostlled before arrivel ! This was a gray are for me but both Daniella and my travel agent have said just make sure you take your origional documents and it is done there. Bugger done them already lol

I feel exactly the same ! just gotta hold it in for a little longer then you'll realise how worth it it was

Quote: Originally Posted by skye15 Hi All, Thats me just had confirmation from Claudia that our wedding is the 30th June 2009. No contract though, should I have at this early stage?? Not sure whether to get back in touch as I understand she must be very busy. Can anyone tell me what to do next or is it too soon to be worrying?? Thanks Tracy PS How is everyone getting on with there plans? Don't worry about the contract, when you get it you have to pay your deposit after so keep quiet lol

Quote: Originally Posted by JamaicaBride062108 How are you booking? If you are doing a group then I say go ahead and let the extra couple join. We booked as a goup and several people who swore up and down they would be there aren't coming so we were stuck trying to fill spots. In the end we lost about $3000 in deposits for people who said they were coming and didn't. If you do have tag-alongs just don't invite them to the wedding/reception. If they want to use the time as a vacation that is fine. you have to be joking!! I've told my lot to book it for themselves its not costing me if they back out - you're too nice lol

I feel it too lol The best way to handle it is to say, have the vacation you aren't invited to the wedding - thats what i've done with one of my good m8s girlfriends, he changes gf like his pants, so i'm not having it lol FI has no option but to agree. Don't get upset just stand firm

Quote: Originally Posted by mummergirl Through my travel agent, I was finally able to get a response from Claudia at Dreams Cancun regarding available dates in May 2009. My date was taken, but I already knew that through reading this forum (hi hartyt509! ). We are going with May 14th instead, so we'll see ya there Marie, unless we find out prices are too outrageous and are forced to keep looking elsewhere for the sake of our guests (I would be SO bummed out ... I've had my heart set on Dreams now for months!!). YAY!! you can come to my hen do in coco bongos lmao and help my family stop me drowing fmil lmao i get there on the 11th so defo meet up for a beer or several