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Quote: Originally Posted by Danielle Nevertheless my future MOL has been talking to the BM (fi brother) and she asked me if I realized the cost I was imposing and all of the people I was potentially excluding. Don't let her get to you, its YOUR Wedding if people don't want to pay they don't go its simple. Go to her and say if you have a problem I'd rather you spoke to me than other people in the wedding party - I'm about to get the same and my response is MY WEDDING - if you have a prob don't come lol

You'll get original photos for sure and none of that photoshop stuff which is good. Also when he becomes famous you got to him first lol I think its a great idea

I've thought about this 2. My dad lives on the other side of the world and so isn't going and my mum died 8 years ago. I thought I'll walk down on my own no great shakes then FI said that his mother's new hubby would probably want to do it!! After I stopped the smoke coming out of my ears and nose !! I've asked one of my really good friend's husbands to do it - he's got 2 sons so is happy to do it. If I had a choice I would walk myself but this seemed the lesser of 2 evils

You are never gonna get them all to reply and when they do that doesn't mean they are coming lol We had 35 say they were coming 3 have booked lmao I'm gonna worry about it nearer the time - budget for the majority and then you're in for a pleasant surprise when its cheaper lol

Quote: Originally Posted by ericaandsy I spoke with my TA today regarding hiring Cecilia Dumas for our wedding. She contacted Dreams Cancun and they clarafied that I would need to pay the $50 day pass fee for Cecilia Dumas and her staff members (if she brings any). I am just waiting to get the ok in writing!! Once I get the email I will let you know..it may be a while because I am not getting married until Oct 09. I hope it works out - I've been trying to get info out of them for months as there is a photographer I would like to hire but have been told no day pass no nothing only the 2 I already mentioned! If you do get it in writing I'd be really happy to find out because I'll go through them like a dose of salts. It seems to be one rule for one and one for another and well I'm not playing lol That being said I do hope you get who you want

Quote: Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek Maybe it's hormones. My mom thought maybe she was just trying to state her territory (not my moms exact words). Let my mom know it's her baby and she's in charge. Which is kinda funny since my mom never butts in until we ask her to. She's just not like that at all. Maybe but I still think its weird especially if they've been ok before. Like i said before I'd be no different than I am now with FMIL (usually bored looking) - who knows i'm sure you'll find out eventually. Lets up the rocket you gave your brother does the trick - they are going to miss out more because your parents aren't going to be at their beck and call now (I hope!)

Oh dear pmsl

I've just been asking my friend about this because she has 2 kids and she said that her MIL is lovely and the best person in the world but when she had her first for some reason she hated her and wouldn't let her anywhere near the baby and had a pop at her all the time. She said she felt awful afterwards but for a few weeks she just couldn't help herself! Maybe its just hormones (i'm hoping!!)

Happens with everyone - we asked over 30 and 3 have booked lol It's something you have to unfortunately deal with. I'm working on the basis that i'll pay the deposit for the big package and if we have to change it well then at least a lot of it is paid for and its less to worry about at the time

I'm the same I just can't be arsed lmao so i'm not i've got the hotel booked, got my dress the rest can fall into place lmao

Quote: Originally Posted by KLC77 Harty509, I have to tell you that you crack me up! I love all of your posts! They are totally honest and we think alike... I was just lol when I read this! Thanks for cheering me up! Kelly Sometimes I have to re-do what I type lol

Quote: Originally Posted by Lagen And, today I learned that she is going through all kinds of medical problems. SHe's lost 2/3 of her hair and her thyroid has stopped functioning. So, I'm sure her stress level is high. While this does NOT excuse everything, I am human and want to take that into account. Our health plays a huge role on our emotions and ability to functioning. So, perhaps I should re-evaluate the situation and talk to her some more. ANd, perhaps she's freaking out about being a bit bald in the pictures?!?! Maybe she really doesn't feel comfortable being in the wedding with what's going on in her life Don't mean to sound hard or callous, (but I am lol) but so what everyone has horrible shit to deal with - she needs to deal with and stop being a total twat to you - its also not an excuse for being an arsehole!! my mum had to have a kidney transplant and was ill for years she never took it out on anyone once!! Do yourself a favour and cut her off she is going to end up being a thorn in your side

Quote: Originally Posted by Lagen And, today I learned that she is going through all kinds of medical problems. SHe's lost 2/3 of her hair and her thyroid has stopped functioning. So, I'm sure her stress level is high. While this does NOT excuse everything, I am human and want to take that into account. Our health plays a huge role on our emotions and ability to functioning. So, perhaps I should re-evaluate the situation and talk to her some more. ANd, perhaps she's freaking out about being a bit bald in the pictures?!?! Maybe she really doesn't feel comfortable being in the wedding with what's going on in her life? Don't mean to sound hard or callous, (but I am lol) but so what everyone has horrible shit to deal with - she needs to deal with and stop being a total twat to you - its also not an excuse for being an arsehole!! my mum had to have a kidney transplant and was ill for years she never took it out on anyone once!! Do yourself a favour and cut her off she is going to end up being a thorn in your side

After what they have just done!! God your mother must be lush - can I borrow lmao I'd stay out of the way for a few days and then when they start asking for favours call them on it

No WAY!! the reason for a DW is to save money. Also if you are paying for his lot its only fair to pay for yours!! Stick to your guns I wouldn't pay for their travel expenses they either want to come or they dont lol

Whoooaa I don't have kids but that is not bloody normal!! is she psycho or what! I know you have to bond with a baby but christ so does its grandparents! I know I've said to FI when we have kids his mother can stay away for a few days but thats cause she's an interfering cow who couldn't even bring up her own kids lol oh and I can't stand her lol Considering what your parents have done for her how dare she!! and your brother I'm sorry he needs a kicking for not stepping in, I know he needs to stand up for his wife but if its one rule for one its one rule for the other! Can you not have a word with your brother and tell him how hurt your parents are? There again if she is normally nice maybe its her hormones?

I don't think you are unreasonable at all but its not worth fighting with DH about. My FI knows in no uncertain terms how I feel about his mother, only difference is this is MY house so its MY rules lol I find if you have to see her what you do is arrange it a weekend when either you're away or at work then its minimum, I managed 60 mins the last time lol at the end of the day you don't have to like her she isn't your mum. FMIL does the same to me unfortunately for her I tell her she isn't coming and that kinds of end it lmao she said to me once in a restaurant in London oh we are coming up (thats her new hubby!!) to yours one weekend to do your garden!! I said thanks but you aren't thats FI's job and if he doesn't do it I can do it myself but thanks for offering lol She said oh are you trying to do me out of a weekend at yours? my reply : YES! and kept eating not a lot she could say after that lol So really what I'd say is say sure she can come but make sure its a weekend you are busy and he isn't lol his mother he can deal with the clingy shit!

Quote: Originally Posted by redheaney Harty, I can remember the first time I heard an American talking about some guy smacking her fanny! I was like, "WHAT?!!" lol Cracks me up everytime lmao I'm such a child pmsl I wish I didn't swear but sometimes there is no other word for someone than a swear word lol I frequently find myself being very polite putting the phone down and letting rip lmao there again I am in a room on my own lol

Nope I think its up to the individual really. I'm not having one at all - people I find are unreliable so I thought why give myself the stress and extra expense so didn't bother lol Asked a couple of friends to be witnesses and that was me lol There again I'm a devil for saying no i'll do stuff on my own thanks lmao

Quote: Originally Posted by Jenn3878 She emailed me today to tell me she received my deposit! I rest my case!! lol wish there was a slapping a WC hard icon lmao

I don't know why they do it either -mine has just done the same thing to me - drives me up the wall so I just through right screw her and basically told her so lol Just don't contact her and see what happens she'll come crawling back mine has started to but I'm ignoring her because I'm a child lmao

Lmao my rotty ate 4 easter eggs when she was a pup she didn't have the runs but did throw up pure chocolate lmao The spaniel will eat anything I caught him eating paper the other day lol you can tell him off but you can't get it off him or he nails you!! I've now learnt let him eat it he is the one that'll suffer stupid dog lmao you can tell he is FI's lol

Quote: Originally Posted by LC_Rachel Why couldn't you just switch hotels or they switch hotels? Or even if the resort is big enough, just ignore each other? It's really easy to go incognito and have some time alone. Yeah I agree, thats what we are doing because everyone that is coming with us is with us for 2 weeks!! and I've got no plans to spend all that time with them lol

Its hard but it happens I originally had about 35 people say they would come to mine its down to about 7 lmao My dad won't be there but thats because he lives the other side of the world so just can't make it, FI's mother just re-married and he apparently HAS to come we can't stand him lmao So really you're lucky you won't have to put up with his "tribe" and you can relax, you'll be fine just take a deep breath tell him he's a prat and you'll feel so much better x

Quote: Originally Posted by jaymielee I'm getting married at Dreams Cancun in May 2009. I'm flying in Nathaniel Thompson (He's from Santa Barbara and is actually on this forum from time to time - Nathaniel Thompson Photography, Santa Barbara, Southern California, Destination Wedding Photographer, Photojounalist ). Anyways he will be with us for 4 days and the plan is to have him shoot us the day before the wedding, the wedding day and then a trash the dress session the day after. I'm really excited to have him there with us! He does great work! I'm not too sure where we will do the trash the dress session. I'm going down there for a site visit in October so I might take a look around the area for possibly a different location for that particular shoot. We'll see though. Are you planning on staying at the resort for yours or going elsewhere? Check that he is approved because I have been told NO outside vendors only Juan Navarro or Claudia Rodriguez are allowed. They've stopped all outside vendors. I'd hate for you to get there and be told you can't use him!