Duchess

Okay, sorry to make a whole thread about this, but OH MY GOD MY WEDDING IS IN ONE WEEK! I feel like I need to shout that, so I did, in writing! Thanks for all the support this last year. I learned so much and wouldn't have known where to start if not for BDW!!!

If your company has an employee assistance program, they will hook you up with 3 visits for free.

Glad to know I can watch it online. I was bummed because it started last year and didnt figure I could jump in now. Is it on lifetime.com or elsewhere?

Oh, and most importantly, I am so sorry about your Grandfather, and I'm glad he is doing better now.

My advice, FWIW, I would stare him straight in the face, and say nicely but firmly, I want you to forgive me very much, because I am truly sorry, but I am done begging. When ready to forgive me, please let me know. I love you, and hope it doesnt take long for you to get past this, because every moment is painful for me, but I'm not begging. And turn on that heel, and walk away, girl! Thats what works on my hubby if he's being a brat. On the other hand, when he's furious, I stay the F**K away. He once wanted me away from him so badly that sat outside our front door (we live in a condo building) and ate a bowl of cereal!! Men.

Same here. I got started at Walgreens just looking at everything and trying all the different colors (buying then trying of course) and then I found Sephora, and it was all over...BTW Diorshow Mascara is the best IMHO! I get compliments on my lashes and I always say I will thank Christian for the compliment. I worked at Sally's in HS and I think that is where I got into that stuff, but then it was more like dying my hair all the time. Its fun to see how a new color can change you before your eyes. Yes, its obsession. Glad I'm not alone. ;-)

Illinois doesnt recognize common law, so to be married, you actually have to get married! I think the difference in my mind is that marriage means declaring your committment to the world, versus just staying in a relationship until someone else determines that your married. I lived with a guy for years and we were engaged but I couldnt bring myself to marry him. If it were common law, it would just be, and it wasnt right, just convenient. So peoples situations would make the difference, but I always want to have a love that is powerful enough to declare to world!

I packed everything in a separate checked bag. Some people might be carrying on and if you give them liquids they would have to discard at the airport. Check everything before assembling, and pack bags flat etc. Then assemble at the destination.

I actually wasnt even at that book club, but I guess a little fight broke out. People pick some weird stuff in my book club, but I did hear wonderful things about that book, and have been wanting to read it for a while. Thanks for the info re the husbands book, it also sounds great. BTW- Thousand Splendid Suns is finally out on paperback!

Makeup: Totally worth it, I am about to do the same thing. Nevermind the earrings, spanks, etc. Once you budget, figure in an extra $1000 for the things you need just to get everything in place. Anyway, I also agree about FI not being perfect on that day. I just got done writing my vows and was crying the whole time, and I know the day is going to be emotional for me, so I want him to be in that mode too, not open bar woo hoo mode. And he and his dad get bad when they drink together sometimes. Sometimes they get feisty, and other times they get blubbery and and get a bad case of the I love you mans! I just hope he is focused on me. I have waited so long, and worked so hard!

I found something called Vitamin String Quartet, and its classical music, but its versions of modern hits, including snow patrol, cure, john mayer, etc. You wouldnt immediately pick out that you were listening to just like heaven by the cure for example, because its really good string quartet music, but I like that it would be my own little chuckle. Its very pretty tho, and would be nice for dinner or cocktails if you are going for that type of music.

I think I might do just one. Somewhere over the rainbow by Israel K is about 5 minutes, and I only have 2 BM, 2 GM, and parents. So that should cover it. I worry about fading in and out, and then if I only walk down to this song, then I think only a short amount of the song will be played. And its so pretty. Unless...did anyone get to the "alter" and then wait out a bit more of the song before beginning, or at least wait until a chorus?

I dont know if it was on this thread or another, but Joanna recommended the song Daddy by Kendal Payne, and it is amazing. I can't believe how perfect it is, and have no idea how I am going to dance with dad to that song and not bawl my eyes out!

I am not an expert at all, especially about this stuff, which is why I always ask the forums, but I have been trying to do what I want rather that what is traditional. I would think something like Ladies and Gentlemen, it is with great pleasure that I present for the first time as Husband and Wife, Mr. Hubby Name and Mrs. Your Name. Would that work? I think it presents you as Husband and Wife but is very modern.

Quote: Originally Posted by Opice34 Books that Jeff and I have both read and liked: The History of Love - Nicole Krauss (this is my favorite) Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close - Jonathan Safran Foer (Krauss' husband) Night - Elie Wiesel My Golden Trades - Ivan Klima The Giver - Lois Lowry (children's book, but a fave) (I know there are more, but I can't think of them!) Books Jeff has passed onto me that I haven't read yet: Under the Banner of Heaven - Jon Krakauer Infidel - Ayaan Hirsi Ali Also, Fugitive Pieces by Anne Michaels is another good WWII Fiction. My book club did History of Love and most of the girls loved it but a few didnt and it was some peoples faves and it got a little tense! What is the one from her husband about? That sounds familiar...

Switching topics a bit...My wedding is in 10 days and Brad just told me that he isnt doing the wedding, but Cesar is doing it. Does anyone know anything about him? I have heard such wonderful things of Brad, I just hope Cesar is as good. Any info would be great. Thanks!

Glad you liked it Andi. I did research on this site and decided on Las Caletas before I got there for the site visit. The day before LC I went out with a planner and hated everything and wasnt even upset because I knew LC was going to be great. Got there, and was never more sure of anything in my life! Doesnt the waiting get harder once you've seen it?

From my research, it does vary by resort, but there are a few other things to consider. I was told that a judge has to do it to make it legal in MX. And they dont guarantee an English speaking judge. So while you could make do, it might not mean as much if there is a language barrier. I got married in Vegas. It was so easy and private (we eloped in secret). We had a beautiful little ceremony and the one we are doing in Mex next week will look to observers just the same as a real wedding anywhere. BTW, anyone who got married in Vegas, wasnt it great? I love that they have a DMV type place but its open 24 hours and everyone is cheerful. And bam, minutes later, you are ready to go get married. So easy.

I just got the coasters. They are okay, kind of cheap, but overall fine. Shipping doesnt take too long considering they come from Hong Kong. But once you order they send tons of cool deals like I got an email saying 12 free photo books. That would be a nice follow up favor for parents etc.

I confess that I woke up seething today at my dumb boss. He pissed me off two days ago and I cant let it go. I had to put on a happy fun demeanor at all day meetings today, but I just really wanted to say at the top of my lungs, "SORRY FOR GIVING A F*CK!!!" I wish I didn't care about fixing problems with the systems, and then I could just leave work at work like my co-workers do. And then...my boss could stop saying, Jamie, I love your passion (while doing air quotes), but..." This whole industry can bite me. Thanks GM and Chrysler for making everything harder. <blush>

Ladies, I am wearing my 39 glasses as we speak. I did it a long time ago. They are perfect. BTW, I found a first time customer discount promo code so mine were actually $29. Super cute, pretty comfy, and I see very well. Great site if you want to have a few stylish options, or a backup pair. I wear my contacts most of the time but wanted cute frames to wear around the house. Oh, and my script is about -5.25, so I know what its like to have vision issues that arent corrected properly. Give a shot.

Yep, agree totally. First of all fighting is so normal, especiallly under big stress like a wedding. Plus, this is so much a priority for the bride. Sad, but true in most cases. Plus, the little things we do to make it perfect are insane to them. At least my FI thinks I am crazy when I talk about printing stickers and water bottle labels. Hes like why cant we just give them regular water? Uh...Good point but shut up! You know what I mean? I will admit he hasnt been totally useless, but its on things he is interested in, like getting sunscreen for oot bags. Not THE MUSIC PLAYLIST. Well, I guess my point is that you are in good company. But its nearing an end (mine is in a matter of days) and I cant wait to just chill and be done with it too!

I thought someone removed him way long ago because of his treatment of Alannis.

Quote: Originally Posted by JoLo908 Ahhh! I love Jason Mraz- I'm yours! I also love this one song called "Daddy" by Kendall Payne... ladies, even if you do not use the song, give it a listen! It always makes me cry! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU JOANNA!!!!!!!! I was desperately trying to find a song that was 1- Not cheesy 2- Meaningful and cool 3- From the daughters POV 4- Telling my Daddy how much his love has meant to me You rock. This song is totally amazing and unique.

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