We are not having one. After my mom came up with this elaborate AHR in my aunt's back yard, complete with tent, catering, porta potty, dancing (pretty much what we did for our engagement party, minus the dancing!)...which pretty much scared the crap out of FI. He pretty much shelled up after that and there was no turning back! I didn't really care one way or another, so now we are just going to have a brunch open house the next time we are back up in the northeast, whenever that may be.
We are inviting everyone to Jamaica. I also felt like guests would opt out of Jamaica if we had a 2nd reception closer to our parent's homes. I know this may sound mean, but there is a lot of drama surrounding this wedding, and most of the people who caused it are not even coming to Jamaica now!