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getting ready to go to soolip! excited!

Yes you can wear a bra, but its not opitmal, if you have to, you have to but i think those stick on ones are best. the way the dress ties under your boobs is helpful for suppor and then you tie it tight around your neck, for even more support.

Quote: Originally Posted by deznchris2006 I understand how you feel...I'll keep thinking and if I come up with anything, I'll post it. Just make sure if you ask them, you aren't going to "unask" them. I had a friend who had to ask someone NOT to be in her wedding and it was the hardest decision and thing to do. Also, FI's sister got married last August, off the bat she asked me to be in it...then decided on just having 2 bridesmaids, her FI's sister and her bestfriend from childhood. While I understood, I was still a little hurt that she didn't think about it before asking. (although, she did include me in EVERYTHING) Thank you! absolutely, If i ask, it will be for sure, no turning back now! Its weird, because at this point i don't care about the number, (which i was worried about before-having too many bridesmaids) its more about the closeness of our relationship. Neither of these girls I feel like should be standing up there with me. but i Just feel bad I have been thinking about the small things for example the bacholerette party and Mary being the only one thats not a BM. And then at the wedding when we go take pictures she will be the ONLY one not going with us.

Quote: Originally Posted by Kat81 Maybe they can do something at the ceremony? But even if they can't it's your day... if you lose a friendship over it they weren't really your friends to begin with. Thats a really good point.... Do i have to explain anything?

welcome Kari! happy planning!

I thought about doing that. but, i want the ceremony to be as quick as possible. and i'm not having any programs.

Quote: Originally Posted by anacgarcia Here are mine, they were custom made where do you get custom made shoes from??

everything looks great! I need to start my shopping!!

they are so fun! and you used real photographs i love it! Looks like you put your heart and time into it.

LOVE IT! so romantic!

thats a good point...FI has 7 though, but 8 is only one more. I'm not sure if she'll buy it though.

they are both really cute! and I think it would look great if you had different kinds in the wedding. Let them choose and if they both wear the same, great and if different, thats great too.

this is long...sorry but i really appreciate feed back. Lets see if i can make a long story short. I finally decided on my bridal party= 4 best friends, my 2 sisters and FI's 2 sisters. Everyone is so excited and so happy to be BM's which is wonderful and I feel so supported. My 4 friends that are in wedding, are my closest friends 1 i have known since kindergarten. Another since 6th grade, the next since my first year of college and the last for 10 years. 3 of them are my "girls" that I always hang out with. the other lives far away, so i don't see hear as much, but when she comes to visit the she hangs with us as well. Now this is where it gets complicated. I hang out with these girls during the week and the weekend, and there is 1 more girl that I hang with as well, lets call her Mary. She is apart of our group and we all do stuff together, girls trips, friday dinners etc. but she is inconsistent. Meaning I hang out with her and I love her but we haven't always been the closest of friends and sometimes she is around and sometimes she isn't. She has done some not so nice things in the past and is often pretty selfish. Regardless of that I love hanging out with her and she is a fun friend. We all have been pretty close for the last 8 years. Now, there is another friend that I have that is pretty close to me lets call her Lori. We have been friends for the past 10 years and we see each other every week. she is not apart of this other group, mainly because there have been some differences between her and some of them. But i still love her and see her separately. I would consider her somewhat closer to me than Mary. Here is where I'm feeling confused. I have come to the point where i feel like I need to include Mary. I think it would be pretty hurtful if i had all our closest friends and she is the only one that isn't in it. its a pretty big statement. But I'm worried that Lori will look at the bridal party and think "she has 9 BM's and she left me out, what's 1 more" --this is the other thing, at this point, she will pretty much be my only girlfriend at the wedding that is not in the wedding. So i think it will be noticeable. I'm not that concerned, about her I think she will get over it, but another reason I'm nervous about it is she knows that I'm not really that close to Mary. I know she will be fine if she sees the girls that i have chosen that i currently have ( the and not think anything of it. but if she sees Mary in the wedding, i think she will feel a bit slided, and think "I'm closer to her than Mary is." If I chose not to have Mary then at least there are 2 of my friends that aren't in the bridal party. Here is another big kicker--I'm having an OOT bachelorette party and I don't want to invite everyone, just the people in my bridal party. Mary is the ONLY on that I have invited not in my bridal party. So I think this is going to be pretty awkward as well. I can't do that to her...right? that is just flat out mean. but I don't feel like were that close. I would die if my other 4 friends weren't at my wedding. but her, I wouldn't. Basically at this point, I would be doing it to make things easier, not because thats what i want. The other option i have thought about is having 10 BMs and having Mary and Lori. But I don't want Lori to come to the Bachorlette party as she doesn't get along with my closer friends. But i know she would come. So i feel like as long as i keep her out of the bridal party i don't have to worry about inviting her. UGH. i know that this sounds dramatic. and I'm really sorry if sounds petty. I just don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Any feedback would help. thanks Edit: I forgot to ask: Who ever i don't choose do i need to explain? or just let it go?

welcome to the forum!

great job!

congratulations and welcome to the forum!

welcome to the forum!

your dress is beautiful. I'm with both of you...I did the destination thing to avoid the planning and now i'm obsessed. oh well!

thats so great that you rescued her. its really important, as there are so many that need a home

A dog too!!!?? wow you're brave. he's a cutie.

OMG! they are buds! i love it

so cute!!!

Abbie! you look stunning and I LOVE THE CONVERSE! i wear mine every day!!! you will be so nice and comfortable!

thanks ladies! Its nice to get feedback. I was torn between the blue and the rosewater (tan). I'm pretty sure i'm going with the rosewater. I also like the yellow. but when the BM's were trying them on, they were'nt into it.

you will love them! i'm really excited about them