Quote: Originally Posted by DougsGirl I think that if you feel you have to explain things, then by all means, do. If you think that it will just complicate things and get messy by trying to make them feel better by having to explain your choices, then don't, just let it happen and enjoy your day.
I would just have the original 8, and let Mary wonder. If she asks, or if someone else asks for her, just tell her thr truth, you were struggling with your decision, and decided that since even tho you hang out and have fun in a group, you are not that close with her and you figured she would understand.
As for Lori, I would leave it, and not ask her, and tell her the same if the question comes up, except tell her that you were struggling with the decision and you thought she would understand the situation, and leave it at that.
Good luck! Let us know what happens. thanks abbie, honesty is always the best policy. I still have to think....but i will let you know as soon as i figure this mess out!
thanks for all the help ladies!!