Good luck with your decision. FI and I wanted to have a back yard BBQ at my parents house, on the west coast, but I put my mom in charge because she wanted to plan it (and that way she would leave me along about the wedding). She decided within the last month to book a reception hall, hire musicians, cater it, etc. It is getting out of hand BUT I told her to plan whatever she wanted and they are paying for it so I decided to stop stressing out about it. Our second AHR is at FI's parents house, in the midwest, and is a BBQ in the backyard. So, I guess we get both although we will be tired of smiling after all of these parties!