I completely agree, Erika! Honestly, I told my husband to pick out whatever he wanted to wear. He didn't have any say in what my dress looked like, so why should I tell him what to wear? He chose a tan silk suit from Men's Warehouse, went barefoot for the ceremony, and then had dressy sandals for the reception and pictures not on the beach. Frankly, I think we looked good. (I'd post a pic, but I can't from work. Feel free to check out my slideshow though.)
By the way, who is expecting women to wear big, heavy, expensive gowns? Don't we do that on our own? Some people were shocked I wore a traditional wedding dress.