Ok I have been engaged since late 2005. We got engaged then shortly after we started planning our fairy tale wedding in the mountains of CT he received orders to report to Iraq. Ok so luckily all deposits were returned because of his orders. In the meantime, I was selected as 1 of 38 nationally selected fellows to study in NYC on a full scholarship plus an apprenticeship towards an MPA (I graduate in 2 weeks) So just to recap engaged in 2005, cancelled planning mid 2006, he went to Iraq early 2007, I enter my fellowship mid 2007, he returned from Iraq Feb. 2008, we purchased a house in NC (I'M STILL IN NYC) in May 2008, I graduate August 7th 2008, and our "everything reception"in CT is on August 9th (moving to NC, graduation, pre-wedding reception) .... so somewhere in the middle of all this we decided ok let's go the low stress route and invite everybody to Jamaica those that can't make it will send pictures. Both families were not happy and most said bad idea. So we move forward knowing that most wouldn't attend. So we budget for about a 40 guest reception just in case some of the complaining family members changed their mind and actually wanted to attend. Now at final count we are at 66 . OMG what to do? I definitely want a reception in Jamaica but with 26 additional guest maybe we have to cancel the night before ice cream social or cancel the everything reception on August 9th... but the invites are already out with most people attending. .. AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW