Ana

Quote: Originally Posted by AnnR Well, I'm the type that would just let it be, and not do the rules or ultimatum - but then again, I've never been in your shoes! However, I will say I'd have more of a problem with FI that I would with her. He needs to have a serious talk with T and let her know where he stands. He should let her know that any kind of inappropriate behavior (like that obvious flirting) isn't welcome. He needs to set boundaries, and stick to them - otherwise he's disrespecting you. And if she has a problem with those boundaries, then it's her problem ... she can take it or leave it! Knowing girls like her, she probably loves that she's causing you issues ... which sucks. But FI can't talk to her and say "my FI doesn't want you to flirt with me anymore" or some bullshit. He needs to tell her that HE doesn't want that kind of friendship with her, that he loves you, respects you, etc. Just my 2 cents, for what it's worth! I totally agree! My biggest issue was with my FI and I told him that. Once I sort of reversed the scenario so that he could see it from my point of view, he understood and cut off contact with her on his own.

I wouldn't be friends with her. You and your FI can be civil and talk to her when you're forced into a situation where she's present, but for you or your FI to go out of your ways to be her friend, I don't see it as necessary. You're feeling the way you feel for a good reason and trust your instinct. As adults you should be able to be around one another and not want to fight, but I kind of think that should be the extent of it. I've been in your situation and I said no way to being friends. My FI and I's relationship is better because of it.

welcome back!!! I can't wait to see pics and read the review

Quote: Originally Posted by LC_Rachel I don't know about anyone else but my DH and I get our wires crossed like this all the time. He blames it on miscommunication and I blame it on him for being an idiot. haha I would just tell him you would like to do something to celebrate the anniversary and all these parties are kinda overshadowing it. He SHOULD get the hint, but since my man is typically clueless, I try not to beat around the bush. I don't think he's doing it to be inconsiderate and unthoughtful. It just sounds like he's been a little forgetful to take care of his woman. Just give him a gentle nudge and if that doesn't work, smack him. The last month prior to the wedding was really hard on us. We seemed to have little tiffs the WHOLE month. I think it was just anxiety and me being super stressed. After the wedding we have been in totally newlywed mood. Maybe it's the same for you guys? LOL!!! that's hillarious! u totally just described my relationship in one phrase. As for the CC, I think that if I was in your case I would be a little irritated. I would just sit him down and explain to him how I felt and taken it from there. You have every right to want to spend time with him pre-anniversary.

Congratulations!!! have an amazing time

I have a backless dress and this is all that I'm wearing, just in case - although the material for my dress is quite thick and the top has straps too that provide support...Hollywood "Cover Ups" Reusable Nipple Concealers

you look so pretty

my fingers are crossed too!

awww! they're so sweet

Quote: Originally Posted by jamisoncollette FI and I live seperately for the same reasons. We actullay won't live together until two months after the wedding! Jobs can suck but in the end it is worth it. I have my "attack cats" and my crazy cat lady mug which would totally knock someone out of they broke in:) Like Abbie said, we're here when you get lonely. that's hillarious "attack cats" unfortunately, one of mine is scared of people, we adopted him and who knows what his history was like, but when strangers come in the house he hides under the bed. The other one, would just love and cuddle an intruder to death....hopefully they'd have some sort of allergy and run out of the house screaming. I think I'll get used to it though, and I'll be on the forum 24-7 (if I'm not already)

Quote: Originally Posted by Christine oh that makes sense, thanks for the info, I teach Social Studies so I like to keep up on other governments and I have always been confused about Canada's health policies. that's so awesome, one of my best friends is just finishing up her teaching certificate and she wants to teach social studies too. The laws can be a bit confusing...but I find it a huge help that I don't have to worry about going to the hospital or getting treatment if I need it and am flat broke. Also, I believe that the government does subsidise some of the medication costs, bu they can still be quite high. I was shocked when I the pharmacist back in december told me the 10 pills that I had to take would normally cost $600! :S that's so crazy!

I really like the idea of a GTA get together too it would be really fun

Quote: Originally Posted by Christine oh Ana-Maria, I am so incredibly sorry, that stinks, its hard to be away from your FI. I have a silly question for you, you mentioned that your job gives you medical insurance, but if you live in Canada why do you need health insurance if you get it free from the government? Did I miss that somewhere? The government coverage is for things like operations, general checkups pretty much everything like that. Medication, however, dental work, vision care, etc.. are not covered. So for example this past winter I got really sick with this C Difficile super bug, it was a really bad gastro intestinal infection that landed me in the hospital for a week. My stay at the hospital, the tests they ran there including seeing a specialist, the medication they pumped into me (morphine antibiotics and so on) were all covered by the government. I didn't have to pay a bill when I left the hospital. They gave me a prescription there, which equated over $800 worth of medicine that I had to take after I left, and that isn't covered by the government. Luckly I had insurance through my work and Michael's that covered me for all the expenses. But if I hadn't then I'd have had to pay for it. Its the same with dental. Its not covered by the government. YOu still have to pay for checkups, cleanings, fillings, wisdom teeth extractions, unless you have medical coverage through work. Hope that explained it...lol! I don't know if I got any of that wrong at all We've done the long distance thing before and it was tough, really tough actually but it was ok. It worked and I know it will now too, its just that I'm going to miss him. Its strange having your bestfriend with you all the time, sleeping beside you, eating with you and then having them gone. Its nice to just fell that there's someone beside me on the bed, and when he's gone its usually so empty ...ok i'm making myself cry so thats enough

Quote: Originally Posted by xandrafaye I completely understand the sad feeling you're getting, but like everyone is saying it's just short term & is going to make everything even better in the long run! If it makes you feel any better, Mat & I did long distance for just over 3 years combined & it had it's rough moments, but it really brought us closer together! I'm kinda butting in here on the suggestion, but I think maybe we should organized a GTA get-together when you're in Ontario! I think that's a great idea! mmm martinis

Quote: Originally Posted by Saraha Oh Ana, Im sorry you have to leave you FI! But two months will fly by and before you know it you will both be living together... happily ever after ;o) yea i know...its going to be more than 2 months though. 2 months until he leaves, but then it will be a minimum of 3 months apart, maybe more. I'll be ok though I think. I"m planning to stay super super busy lol!

I feel like such a lazy pigglet right now! I have done nothing the last couple of days other than study study study. I can't wait for this exam on Saturday so I can just get it over with and get back to my workouts. Spending every free moment studying is not as rewarding. I'll kickstart my workout again Sunday with the Vancouver Sun Run! sooo excited! P.S. You guys are all doing so awesome! good job! you're my inspiration

the side plank is really good. I do this one alot and it works for me. Just hold it as long as possible, you'll feel a crazy burn. Also sit on an exercise ball with a medicine ball in between your hands. Twist from your waist, while keeping your hips firmly planted. Twist from side to side. Bring the medicine ball to the right and then left. Just do the rotation as many times as you can while concentrating on only moving the upper body. The dumbell from side to side to side like Lucy suggested is also really good. You can increase the weight as you get stronger. I would do a set of all three of these.

thank you so much for the info, I'm going to make sure with the vet that we don't get that

Thanks so much everyone! You're all making me feel better already. I'm sure I'll be fine, we only decided on Saturday so I think it will take a couple of days to really be ok with it. Most of the time I'm fine but then once in a while I remember and then I get a bit down. You have all been super supportive thank you! and its not like we're new at it...we did the long distance thing before but at least this time I have a ring...haha! yey! and the kitty cats totally help...i'll be the new crazy cat lady! I kind of wish I had a dog though, just because I'm a giant baby and get super freaked at night alone...the crim courses I took didn't do anything for my fear...its like with more knowledge comes greater fear. Its probably because I'm more aware of the crazy things people can do to one another, although statistically its very rare.

So my FI and I decided to move to Toronto from Vancouver a few months ago. We had discussed moving out there in the fall some time, more like around September 30th. We're moving because we're both career driven and for both of us the majority of head offices are in Toronto. Vancouver is great for the service industry, construction etc... but not so much for Trading and Business/Finance. So this weekend we discussed what's best for us and moving, and it made sense for Michael (my FI) to move out there at the beginning of July (July 2nd to be exact). He's going to be living with my brother downtown, free of rent which is huge. My brother works on the trading floor at RBC so he can help my FI enter the industry, network etc... So as for me, well I'm staying here with our two cats for now. At the moment my job pays the most plus gives us the best medical insurance, so this way I'll continue to support us. I'm also taking some certificate courses so that I can move up in my industry, and these won't be completed until the end of September. The plan is for him to find a job, find an apartment and then for me to move out there when everything is set. I'm super excited that we have a plan, and that ultimately this is the safest and best decision for us. But I can't help but be a bit sad too. I'm sort of looking around and realizing that we've only got 2 months left, and then I'll be alone again. Ok, thanks for letting me vent...I've been doing it all day!! (I think I'm secretly procrastinating working and studying for my upcoming exam..haha) I feel better already!

that's so fun!!! congrats

I love them all!! p.s. your hair is not orange! (I guess when you said it was orange I was picturing Ronald Mcdonald)

that's super pretty, I love the back

that's so fun! can't wait to see the pics

My mom doesn't really know for sure yet, she's waiting to loose a few pounds lol (aren't we all). Anyways, I was thinking for her though, that a cute cocktail dress would be nice. One that has maybe some capped sleeves and a puffy bottom. I'm sort of picturing Audrey Hepburn 50's style. I figured that she's only 47 so she should be able to pull off something cute like that. We're going to look together for something once I move to Toronto this fall.