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I shed a tear for kitty, she is a darling and I know how a pet can feel like a family member. WEll actually they are... I am so sorry for your loss.

Girls... All I have to say is Thank you . sometimes words can't express how far the feeling of a warm feeling an simple "I'm sorry" can go. You are all so fantastic. i don't even know any of you if I were to bump into you on the street but it is amazing that I feel like I can come here and find support. You have all been so kind. Tonight was the wake and it was so sad but amazing in a way. So many of my family were sad and hugged me saying that we have to stop meeting like this and that they can't wait for our wedding so that we have a reason for a joyous occasion to attend to rather than a sad one. that made me feel good. On the other hand it is soooo difficult to see a grown man, especially your father, break down into tears. Sometimes you just don't know what to do. Burying my Aunt on of all days 9-11 will be hard, and I feel blessed to see that I have a very large family that can find support in each other. Although it makes me open my eyes and see that i have to stop living this life in a rat race and to stop and smell the roses. Shame that situations like these make us realize this. My FI doesn't know what to say / do. He has been so supportive yet he feels so awkward... She was just way too young... I think of loosing one of my parents now and I can't imagine. Again thank you - and I know that she is with my grandmother and she is an angel for all of us.

Quote: Originally Posted by k_8ie Anyone try to waive the 300$ beach fee? Yeah I tried stating that I was going to have a beach reception also and they still would not waive it. Quote: Originally Posted by ariday333 Well originally i had selected the gazebo but then decided to change it to the beach and Lissette stated i need to pay an additional $300, but according to the website if you're doing the ultimate package it's included and she stated no that it is additional. So the next day i called again and spoke to someone else and she stated that Lissette was wrong that it was included. I wasn't aware that it is incl w/ the ultimate package... hmmm i wonder if that would be better financially than doing the "free wedding" package included in my stay and then a la carte for dinner

I think that we are definitly doing Linens n things. I was told that for whatever is not purchased on your registry you have a year after the wedding to buy stuff at a 20% discount. I don't know how true that is?! Also, most people get coupons in the mail for this store also so my guess it would help financially for your guests.

Fun Fun puppy playtime! Too cute!

I am so sorry that you have to go through this- just remember that you are not alone and that this will make your relationship stronger for sure.

i am posting this because I need a little support to get me through the next few days. This year has been crazy. As most of you know and my grandmother passed away in April and you were all so nice to me and made me feel like i had somewhere to express myself. I end up being the rock a lot and because of that friends and famiy think i am strong shoulder to lean on .... But behind closed doors sometimes I feel like I need a shoulder also. You were all there for me during that time and I thank you.... So just recently my aunt on the same side went in for a lung surgery and she was supposed to be home recouping in 4 days.... Well there were some complications and ended up in a coma and then passing away. My dad is a mess and i am in shock. The wake is tommorow and I have seen my cousins but am still in shock... This was not supposed to happen. She was onlyu 59 and I think that is part of my shock. I put myself into my cousins shoes and can't imagine loosing one of my parents at this stage in my life.... My heart goes out to her and the family.. On the other hand, Aunt Fran was close to me and she was so sweet and loving to everyone all the time. She never spoke bad about anyone and loved you unconditionally. I just feel like we just went through all this and here we are again a few months later burying my aunt. What a mess. Thank you for letting me get this off my chest. I feel so sad and so stressed.

I am glad to hear that the conversation went well and that you can sleep at night a little better. Word of advise, you will always be busy.... Maybe schedule nookie date on the calander and meet at a specific time like an appointment... That way there you are not just thinking about getting around to that, but you are making it a point. Even if it is tough to do. Relationships are work. But it is known that the longer you go - the less of a reason to get out of your "rut" because you are just learning to live another way with one another rather than fix it. Its like when you are mad at someone and dont take the effort to mend the issue, you stay mad and it gets worse. Go get some nookie and have fun doing it= you are getting married now is the time to have fun. Life is too short!

After seeing your teasers I am so pshyched to go and do mine with her also - Did you have her do your hair and makeup?

I go w/ #4 also!

Now that is weird!

Thanks for all the advise! It is so hard because sometimes I feel like reading something and being on the outside looking in you all come up with rational and wondrful advise which completely makes sense..... Then you add emotions and persons feeling into the mix and it is so much easier said than done! UH! Well she called FI and said that she would LOVE to read at the wedding so long as it was not a scripture from the bible since she didn't want to read that if she were not in a church so not to look like a hypocryte?! But she is excited to do it and I will give her the reading and hope that will be it for the drama. I hope that it will all be calm now. So much has happened this weekend and makes me realize that life is so short and that the people that you love and hold dear you should put first and show them the love rather than play games. Sorry for the emotions. My Aunt unexpetedly passed away this weekend at a very young age and it sucks. Makes you think

Thanks girls. I can't wait to wear it - I need to find a pretty brooch / flower with crystals now!

Quote: Originally Posted by Morgan I was going to mention the sticky to you, but I see that you now saw it. What you have posted so far is perfect for the blog section. that is the place for the work in progress planning journal. You'd probably have to repost it there. I don't think a mod can move this into a blog. then it's easy to copy & paste from your blog to make your final journal entry once you are done planning. Thanks for the info! I will work on doing that - it will most definitly help keep me organized and also be fun to do along the way!

We got FI's suit at Kohls for $95 bucks and it looks great... actually my man of honor and BM along w/ the 2 dads are wearing the suit also, just a different but coordinating shirt and tie. Here is the inspiration pic for FI's (again the actual one is at mom's!) http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/i...5698305573.jpg: Shirt is a cream / light color and tie is: (matches my sash) http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/i...e/IMGP2507.jpg Mom got her dress- here it is(although we ordered it in a LIGHT blue/ ice color with a hint of green in it. While FMIL's dress is a long dress w/ spagetti straps and it is a sag color. appropriate for her since she is close to 70yrs old. http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/i...tire/1037A.jpg And of course... here is my engagment ring (which I never posted in the other thread! I am a total slacker!) It didn't seem to photo well. http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/i...e/IMGP2803.jpg I am in love with it! he did such a great job! More to come!

Here are my possible shoes: http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/i...113137main.jpg OR http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/i..._041_ss_01.jpg I want something that isn't high and that i can slip on and off since the ceremony and reception will be on the beach itself.

I feel so honored to be part of this! I love being #4 with Becks Morgan and Erica! And it looks like I will be getting the starfish on our one year engaement anniversary.. How perfect is that?! I will be sure to take really good care of it so that it can hopefully make wedding #5!

Include them both.. It is meaningful and these days you can do whatever feels the best for you! And they will both be honored I am sure.

I want to be licious! I like Ferret licious also

1. How old are you? 30 2. At what age did you/will you get married? 31 3. Do you have children? nope 4. Did you think you would marry the person you are with now? not until I got into bed with him... HA HA! Yes I did 5. Were you ever engaged or married to someone other than the person you are with now? yes, married for about 2 years of hell 10 years ago 6. Do you want a garden wedding, beach wedding, or the traditional church wedding? beach definitly! 7. Where did you/will you get married? Dreams, PC- DR 8. First dance - classic waltz, slow and sexy, or fast and spicy? fast and sexy... a bit of both 9. How many guests did you/will you have? about 35 10. Do you want/did you have an extravagant wedding or a simple wedding? simple & easy 11. Vows - traditional or something you make up on your own? our own for the 2nd ceremony in PC, traditional for the 1st 12. How many layers of cake did you/will you have? no idea.. not too worried about the cake 13. Is/was your wedding/reception at a hotel? no 14. When did you/will you get married - sunrise, mid-day, sunset? 4:00 but I want sunset 15. Did you/will you have your reception outdoors or indoors? outdoors on the beach 16. Plan every detail down to the napkins or let someone else decide? let my WC decide 17. How did/will the bride enter? down the aisle on the sand with dad 18. Song to walk down the aisle to: looking for inspiration 19. Song to make your exit: again - not sure yet 20. Will you/did you have a solemn ceremony or a light one? pretty light 21. At what age did you think you would get married? 30 this time around! And I was pretty much correct! 22. Who to invite - practically everyone or a select few? a select few 23. Wedding menu - fine dining or simply delicious? simply delicious 24. Champagne or red wine? both! 25. Honeymoon right after the wedding, awhile after the wedding, or no honeymoon? right then and there! 26. Was your/will your honeymoon be at a place special to you both or somewhere brand new to you both? SAme AI as the wedding. 27. Who will pay for the bills? we split joint bills down the middle and pay our individual bills separately 28. Living together: Not before marriage or absolutely before marriage? absolutely, bought a home together 2 years ago! 29. Anything else about marriage you'd like to say? I Can't wait to marry mysoul mate!

O NO! Let us know what happens... How the heck did you do that? I hope it was a good story at least..

Become a stripper! Only kiddin!

......And they say "I have to think about it"........ I have been holding this in for weeks. We are having no wedding party. I am having my bro as my Man of honor, FI is having his bro as BM... For siblings that only leaves my FSIL.... We wanted to make it special for our immediate family to be the only "participants" for the ceremony.... So we asked FSIL if she would do us the honor of reading the sand ceremony at our ceremony in PC... Instead of the response we thought would be a no-brainer... She said that she had to think about it! When asked why, she said that she had to get over the drama and shananagans that went on at BM's wedding 2 years ago. (IT was a mess) But I am not her, and it was long enough where anyone should have been over it. Not only that - but she is blood.... So Fi didn't get upset, just told her to call when she made a decision. He was clearly upset though. As it is, she is not "allowing" her 2 boys, which are FI's only nephews to attend the wedding...Because it is not Holy.. Since we have been engaged it has been a question of weather we are getting married in a catholic church or not. Everyone else has accepted the fact that we are getting married on the beach. Even our parents.. But older sister will not. So she will not let her boys witness an unholy matrimony. And now she may not want to participate! She is the one that hates drama and she is the only one creating it for me! Who is she to tell us what we should and shouldn't do! And how can she cast that stone? I know she has a perfect life in a prfect house in a perfect neighborhood... But someday reality is going to hit. I feel like if she says that she will not participate there is really no reason for her to come to the wedding. She is not taking her family, and I feel like those actions are her not accepting me into the family. Yet when I talk to her on the phone she is so nice to me and acts as if she is happy for us. But it crosses with her morals. I don't get it and i am so upset. What should I do?

I am praying for you and your FI to find the strength to get through this. Good luck and I am sorry you have to go through such a tough time right now.

What a hard situation... Smart on FI's part, but hard. the way I look at it is that once you have a wedding get a house and start to have kids, there is no such thing as no credit card debt... Good luck to you - it will all work out in the end. Love will find a way!