HELP!!! When my FI and I started planning a wedding, we quickly realized if we had one close to home it would be HUGE (and with a huge price tag). When we decided on a DW, i thought it was a huge relief, and we explained to all three sets of parents that we wanted to keep it small- just friends and close family. Everyone agreed, initially. NOW a few months later, my FI step-mother is insisting on a huge reception here after we return from our honeymoon. Thats great, but the only reason they want it is for their "friends" (aka business associates, political allies, etc...) We politely said thanks but no thanks, and now instead they want to throw us a shower. Ok, right? You would think. I got an email "Announcing" her plans for a shower for us, naming a date, time, place, and guest list. NOT ONE PERSON on the guest list do we know!!!!!!I politely explained to the MIL that I do not feel comfortable having a shower with guests that arent invited to the wedding. She responded with fine, it wont be a shower, their throwing us a "party" for their friends to congratulate us. IM SO FRUSTRATED. This has become all about them, not us, and they dont take no for an answer!! What do I do I wanted a DW to avoid all this, and instead, its blowing up in my face!!!!!!!! Help!