OMG!! I feel your pain. I dont know what to say. I just let mine get out of hand. My friend is throwing us a shower (couple one) She has turned it into a big party and recruited people that i dont know to bring food and help her. Honestly, she is my friend but she is also my assistant and so the people she recruited are assistants to and really not apart of my "friend" circle. Im just not sure if my friends are going to feel comfortable. Its like partying with the "help" - of course I have no problem because I will party with just about anyone! Anyways... I think its getting out of hand but I feel as if I have no say because I am not throwing it...