We aren't have a wedding party either. We started off wanted 4 to stand for both of us [my two sisters, his two sister, then three of his friends and one of my brother-in-laws] but then that started a lot of drama because he wasn't asking the other brother-in-law. Then the other three friends said that they wouldn't come.
We, just like one of the PP, decided a DW because we didn't want the stress of it, and we felt like this was causing too much stress, so we just veto'd the whole wedding party.
Everyone understands.
What we are doing though- to make the four sisters feel special, is we are giving them fuschia parasols, our moms pink, me green, and the rest of the female guests white ones. Then, they all feel 'special' because they got different colour parasols.
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