Quote: Originally Posted by stefnicole Becks, do you regret that you caved in and let them come? Regret... isn't the right word. I really, really don't like it. I resent the fact that my father put me in the position in the first place. I hate the fact that there are about 200 other people I would have invited before I invited them.
That being said, it's not as if I dislike them. And I have plenty of other things to focus my energy on.
If it were a situation where I did not like/had a problem with the guest, honestly, I would have dug my heels in and told my dad that they would not be invited and if he had a problem with it, then he could stay home. And I mean that literally - and I LOVE my daddy. This is YOUR wedding day. You do not want to be walking down the aisle and see this person sitting there - it will cast a shadow on what ought to be a euphoric day.
You can't tell her that he can't come to Hawaii, but you have EVERY right to tell her he isn't welcome at the wedding events.
I don't know if you have siblings, but I discussed my situation with mine and was glad I did. Even though I caved in the end, they were ready to back me up and tell my dad he was being unreasonable - which was a nice position to be in.