Hi Ladies: Thanks for your responses. I seriously don't know what I'd do without you. Group therapy has NOTHING on BDW.
I'm not sure what the additional $80 is for - I haven't talked with the WC yet. She simply described it as a "surcharge". There is already a charge for servers and setup, etc. during the meal, so I'm not quite sure.
As far as paring down the menu goes - I'm all in favor of a smaller menu - but the extent they want it pared down is very limited, so if we decide to proceed, we'll probably push back a bit and see if we can expand it a touch.
Just to lighten my mood... they want to serve a soup course. In Mexico in August - and the choices they gave us were a lobster bisque or a consume. I would have seen this point if it were gespacho or something. But somehow the idea of a nice hot soup (even lobster bisque which I LOVE) just cracks me up.
I'm still thinking I want the Paradisus. But I'll wait to talk to our TA and the WC before I commit to anything.