This is YOUR day... This is YOUR day... it is the one day where you can do what you really want... would you ever tell anyone else how to live their lives or have their wedding?? Probably not... I have had to deal with a lot of crap from people too, and I break down and tell them like it is... I say, "Pretend we are eloping... and we are inviting you to witness it, so if you don't want to come, then don't".... Do what you want... years from now you will regret it if you do what everyone else wanted...