I know it's been said by every poster, but if you want a DW, have one.
My FBIL got married two weeks ago in a big traditional wedding. My FI was a GM. He was miserable the whole time! He was uncomfortable in the suit, uncomfortable with the super religious ceremony, and didn't understand spending all of the time, money, and hassle for a 12-hour day.
It was a very nice wedding, but not ANYTHING either of us would want.
This is a very special day and the foundation of your new lives together. It needs to be meaningful to you alone. If nothing else, it will assert that you two are a couple and are at the point in your lives and have the committment to each other to put the needs of your "new family" first.