Great points JM.
I would really like to do a BD for out first anniversary gift. My photog from the wedding was great, she is a close friend, and I trust her completely.
However, I would like to find a male photographer. I am fairly comfortable with my body and I like to flirt. I think I would get flirtier/sexier pictures with a man behind the camera. I would be able to "get into character" a little better, and as Jean Marcus pointed out, a man knows what another man would like to see.