ErinB

Welcome! The Ritz is beautiful! It was definitely in my top 3 resort choices. I'm sure youre wedding will be amazing. Congrats and happy planning!

My parents have been divorced for 26 years. They do get along very well. But, because my mom and I are so close, I knew I would have been all blubbery and crying if she walked me down the aisle. If one of us cries, the other is right behind! I had my dad walk me down the aisle and my mom did the only reading we had. It was really pretty May You Always Feel Loved ... by Sandra Sturtz Hauss, Inspirational, Motivational, Spiritual, Religious Prose, Poems, Prayers. Inspiration, Spirituality and Alternative Healing Articles, Alternative Medicine, Health, Internet Resources, SKDesigns Both of my parents were included is special ways.

I too started off as a GL bride. I know 2 different couples who have stayed there in the past and loved it. It might be good for smaller groups. When trying to book as a group, I ran into tons of problems. I couldn't get anyone to answer any of my questions. I kept hearing we can't talk to you until you book. Well, why would I want to book if I don't know what I am getting? Aparently there had also been some negative reviews on Trip Advisor at the time I was booking. Several of my guests called me, concerned about the quality of the hotel at the price we were going to have to pay. It was embarassing! I decided to change resorts after all of this. I don't want to disuade you from chosing this resort, but simply share my experience with you. I sincerely hope that they have gotten their act together. This was about 18 months ago. I was told by someone that they had new managers and were still working out all of the kinks. Everyone I talked to in the FL SuperClubs office was wonderful, the communication brokedown when it came to the managers/planners in JA.

I'm thinking I saw some at Target. I'll check and post the link if I find it. You can have one made for about $50. It could be personalized and include your momogram, etc. You should also check on Etsy. They have a wishlist page where you post what you want and then vendors contact you if they can create it!

My big goal for the year is to put a big dent in the amount of debt we have. I want to only buy things that are absolutely necessary, stick to a budget, etc. I feel like we both have manageable debt that we can knock out in a year or two with some concentrated effort. So, I was wondering if anyone recommended a particular plan or book? I've heard a lot of good things about Dave Ramsey. A few years ago I had something from Suze Ormand but I wasn't really at a point where it could work for me. I'm also open to general tips.

As far as size, I would stick with something medium sized. With the new weight restrictions, you can get a jumbo bag and fill it up but sill have to pay more because it is over weight.

I know what you mean about phases. There were no Jennifers or Jasons or Erins. My name is Erin Elizabeth. It had all of this significance to my mom. My initials used to be eec and e.e. cummings is one of her favorite poets, our family is Irish, Elizabeth was a family name and the name of her best friend's daughter, the list goes on. Too bad that in the early 80's the Waltons were really popular and that is where most of the other Erins came from, the sisters Erin and Elizabeth.

I know that the actors are mostly over 18. It just bothers me that in one episode, there is the suggestion that B slept with Jack and Penelope is sleeping with her dad's business partner. I know the show has a mixed age base, but I don't think it's the best thing for a younger audience to see. Jessica I was uncomfortable with that Jenny/photog scene, too.

I don't really see anything wrong with having a friend shoot your wedding under normal circumstances. Let me quilfy this. I had a friend do my photos. I did pay for her trip so it wasn't 100% free. My best advice if you choose to go this route is to treat it like a normal business transaction. If she intends to start a photography business and you are to be a client, then you need to be treated as such. You need to have a signed contract stating exactly what you expect and what you will get. Is she just going to give you a CD with pictures or will she make a photobook? Also, be sure you have a list of all of the photos you want and have a copy with you that day. Will she have an assistant? Somehow, we managed to not get a single posed picture of the two of us, the bride and groom! The day was chaotic and exciting and they got overlooked. I was very disappointed. The pictures that I have are wonderful, but the ones that are missing are kinda major. I would be a little worried if your FI doesn't like her personally. If there is tension, it can very easily show up in your photographs. I think if he is only concerned because she is new at it, treating it like a business transaction might help him ease up. If she is with your for the duration of your trip, he might also relax. You always need to keep in mind what will happen to your friendship should something go wrong. Is it a situation that will get out of hand? Will it end your friendship and are you willing to risk that?

You can get married anywhere on the beach. The arch thing is very centrally located so I assume that is why they do most of th ebeach ceremonies there. The only thing nearby are palm trees, so it is relatively quite. They provided and set up the chairs. I did bring down my own sashed that they put on at no extra cost. I think you can arrange to rent them through the hotel but I'm thinking it's like $6 per chair. My invites were made by our very own Sarah Sproullie Designs | Custom Photobooks, Invitations and more! She rocks!

Ross/Rachel thing...That's funny! They sure did hint that Blair slept with Jack (who seems like Chuck 2.0) I'm confused at when this would have happened? It seems like they mentioned NYE, but that was before Chuck was back. So will Blair have done it on purpose or was she acting out? Not that I am on any kind of moral high horse, but all of this HS teenage girl sleeping with older men thing is starting to weird me out. It's creepy and illegal.

I would try TJ Maxx, Marshalls, or maybe Khols. They often have brands like American Tourister, Samsonite, Swiss Army, etc. for decent prices. Also check out outlet malls if you have any close. If the price is right, e-bay or craigslist might be an option as long as it is a good brand.

I had 3 showers (woo hoo), 2 for family and 1 with friends. They were mainly people who could not come to the wedding. They had been invited to the wedding and the AHR. I would suggest registering somewhere. You can contact your TA to add things for your honeymoon - excursions, spa treatments, nice dinners, etc. People will probably bring you a gift of some sort, at least for the shower, so you might as well get something you want/need. Don't forget about upgrades to things you currently own. I had a friend register at Target for all cleaning supplies and consumables, shampoo, toilet paper, etc. Target is good because you can get movies/books/games, etc. that can be tied into a shower theme. You can also register at Sears, Lowes, Home Depot. Your FI might like some new tools or it can help you get started on a redecorating or remodeling project. You can also

Welcome to the wonderful world of DW planning! I fine wine does a great job of calming me down. And the support of BDW is great therapy! There will be people who you think will be there that won't and then some others will surprise you. The most important thing to ALWAYS remember is that you need to do what is best for you and your fiance. Planning will have its ups and downs. Your family and friends will make you cry tears of joy and sadness. In the end, you need to be comfortable with your decision and focus on your wonderful day and the fact that you are joining your life with the person you love. We've all been through it! Gook luck!

I love the Bob Green approach. I'm not going to call myself a nutritionist, but am very familiar with lots of diets and how to cook various meals to fit those profiles. I can appreciate that it is a holistic approach instead of a "quick fix". Another good book to read for some good perspective (and humor) is "Skinny Bitch". Mike and I are supposed to start our diet on Wednesday and I'll probably borrow ideas and recipes from a bunch of different sources. I think Best Life will probably be easiest for us to follow. THe biggest problem we have is that if one of us fall of the wagon, the other is right behind.

I think I only have 5 or 7. It was an odd number. I got mine at Japanese Kimono, Chinese Paper Lanterns, Chopsticks, Chinese Dresses for about a dollar a piece.

Hi Kim! You are probably the closest bride to me! Let me know if you need nay help finding a vendor in our area. My photographer is actually based out of Cincy.

It's beautiful! Is it a Casablanca? If so you will LOVE it! I think it would look great on a beach. the most important thing is that you like it and feel special and wonderful wearing it.

I haven't been, but my DH and I are planning a vacation there sometime soon. It looks amazing! I'm glad to hear the food is good. That is always a concern for me, LOL Please post a review when you return so we can hear all of the details!

Yeah, Jack is his 30 year old uncle, Bart's little bro. And no one knows where Chuck is so they have to go find him. Can you tell I'm addicted to spoilers?

Thanks Kat. I have to pretend to work, and typing a bunch of stuff in Word makes me look focused. LOL We have a bunch of Newbies so I hope it is helpful. What do you think Mods? Should it be a Sticky?

Here are a few points to consider when selecting a resort. I have also included a template for the pro/con sheet I used to help me make my decision. There are so many great options, it can easily be overwhelming! Making a list always helps me! If anyone has additional suggestions, send them on and I'll update the first page. Happy Planning! ~~~~~~~~~~ How to Select a Resort for your Destination Wedding Cost There are literally thousands of beautiful locations around the world available for your wedding. If cost is an issue there are a few things to keep in mind: 1) consider the amount of time it will take to reach your destination 2) A particular resort might offer great rates, but airfare might blow your budget. Of course Tahiti is beautiful, but to get there from the US or Europe, it will be quite costly. If you want to go to Mexico, someplace like Cabo or Puerto Vallarta will be cheaper and a shorter flight from the west coast. Those on the east coast might want to opt for Cancun or the Mayan Riviera. Look at current published airfare and hotel rates to get a sense of the approximate cost of your resort. Keep in mind that most airlines will not publish schedules or rates before 330 days out (approximately 10 months). These rates and flights are still subject to change. Overall Look Do you want a large resort with hundreds of rooms? Something modern or something that reflects the local culture and architecture? Do you prefer a new hotel or one that has completed recent renovations? Have you considered a private villa or a smaller property for a more intimate setting? Is there a minimum length stay or rental required? What about the setting? Is your resort on a beach, Cliffside, both? All Inclusive or Not? All Inclusives are nice because they offer “one stop shoppingâ€. Once your guests arrive they should not have to spend any extra monies for food and beverages and certain activities. This can be a major selling point and certainly helps you and your guests stay within budget. Adult Only or Kid Friendly? Will you have any children in your wedding party or will you or your guests bring your children? What are the age ranges of your resort, some are 14, 16, or 18 and up? Will your resort allow children on the property for the wedding ceremony or wedding activities if it is adult only? If you (and your guests) have children but are not bringing children, it can be a nice break, maybe even a second honeymoon. If your child isn’t there do you want to have to listen to someone else’s child by the pool? What amenities are important to you? Do you want lots of pools, restaurants – what kind of cuisine, a spa, beauty salon, golf course, room service? You resort should be a reflection of you and your fiancé and your lifestyle together but should also be comfortable and appropriate to your guests. Will your hotel provide transportation to and from the airport or do you need to make alternate arrangements? Will they have trouble accommodating a large group if you are all traveling together? What kind activities would you like to do? Are certain activities included at your resort? What is nearby – historical sites, shopping, excursions, etc? Are you dying to go horseback riding on the beach or swim with dolphins? If so, is there a place to do that and how far away is it? Does your resort allow outside vendors? Do you have a photographer or a particular photographic style in mind? Have you found an amazing bakery? What if your brother is a professional photographer and offers to shoot your wedding for you? How will the resort handle this, e.g. do they charge extra? Does your resort allow same sex couples? Not all properties will allow same sex couples and/or the corporate chain frowns upon such things. Do you have any friends or family that are in a homosexual relationship or do you simply have 2 female relatives that want to share a room? Do you have a personal, moral objection to such policies? *Note that when booking as a group you can sometimes get special permission to have same sex couples Occupancy Requirements You may choose to offer your guests several different lodging options to accommodate different budgets, children, etc. What does your resort charge for a Day Pass? Will you pay this or will your guests? (Keep this in mind for budgeting purposes) How many of your guests must stay at your resort? For example at the ROR you must have at least 80% of your guests stay on property to host your wedding there. Promotional Offers Some resorts have great rewards for group bookings. Check to see if yours offers free nights or rooms and what the requirements are to qualify. Example: Book 10 rooms, get the 11th free or Stay 7 nights get the 8th free, etc. The Wedding (the most important factor) What are the legal requirements for your country of choice? Will it be a legally recognized marriage in your home country? What kind of documents and translations will you need to provide? What are the costs and fees associated with your marriage? If you choose to get married at home first, will your resort allow a symbolic ceremony only? Does your resort offer religious ceremonies? Will they refer you to a Catholic church or Synagogue in the area? Can you have your wedding ceremony at an outside location and your reception only at your hotel? Does your resort have an on-site wedding planner? How long does it take for her to answer correspondence? *Disclaimer* Many of the larger resorts are busy with weddings year round. You resort’s planner might be very busy and it can take up to week to get a response. A 3 day window is probably considered a good response time. It will be frustrating now, but when it’s your turn you will want to be her first priority! How many weddings are held each day? What days/times are weddings available? Is there any additional charge for a wedding at sunset? Wedding Packages Does your resort offer a wedding package? What is included in that? How easily can you make changes or upgrade? *Note that many places offer “free†weddings but there will still be fees associated with your marriage license and filing fees. **Tip** Before upgrading, look at what the individual cost is for each item. If there are services you don’t need, it may be cheaper in the long run to go with a la carte pricing. Research: Try searching or browsing the BDW wedding review forums for first hand experiences. Wedding Reviews - Best Destination Wedding Forum See if your resort website has a wedding section and/or a message board. Look up reviews on Trip Advisor Reviews of vacations, hotels, resorts, vacation and travel packages - TripAdvisor ***Always keep in mind that reviews are subjective. Try to look for common themes or lots of complaints about the same exact situation before you worry or decide against a particular property.*** Resort Comparison Sheet.xls

I do $50 per person as a general rule, for the wedding. That is kind of a sliding scale depending on how well I know the person. When BIL got married, I spent about $500 on gifts for all of the showers and the actual wedding. This doesn't count the costs associated with being in and traveling to the wedding. I figure I need to budget $1000 if I am asked to be in a wedding. Where I am from, you don't usually see $100 or more per person unless it is family. I do have to say that I did feel a little "cheated" not having a traditional wedding. Don't get me wrong, I would NEVER change my DW, but I think because we didn't have a traditional wedding people thought they were exempt from the tradition of giving gifts. I had a lavish AHR so those that didn't travel could still feel like they were a part of the wedding. Luckily I am in the event business so I got a lot of breaks and called in a bunch of favors. One family member gave me a card with $20. There are 6 adults in this family! They can afford more. It felt like "Oh Sh*t, we didn't get a gift, who has cash?" Even at cost, $3 per person did not cover thier plate. Oh and BIL and his new wife gave us $40! Being a bride definitely gives you a different perspective.

I personally wouldn't take the risk. If there was some kind of delay, you could end up with no flowers and not be able to get a florist on short notice, or you would still be paying the higher price but be out the money for the fresh flowers. Also, where would you store the florals? I'd worry about the heat wilting them. Have you considered high quality silks/fake flowers? Since you are capable of DIY-ing with real ones, why not try with some artificals?

DVR everything, duh! And, I think they rerun Jon & Kate at 11 or 12 (EST) I'm sure it will be on later in teh week too. You only get one shot at GG! Did you go see the Twilight movie yet?