Thanks for the help! I did want to keep the wedding simple, I did not want to invite everyone and their many kids. Also, the thing with my family is this, they are always calling my siblings and i spoiled, saying we get whatever we want. so, in a way, no, i don't want them at my wedding and for that matter, not super upset if they are not at the shower. I am close to one of my cousins and she is the only one that i would want at either the wedding or the shower but i guess i cannot invite just one, can I? I just don't want to offend people more than necessary.