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Doug and I have been struggling with the idea of registering or not as well. We don't want to, we have so much already in our little house, what with having already combining two houses, and with us, the kids, dogs & cats we don't need a bunch of waterford crystal candlesticks and cuisinart blenders taking up our storage. Most places won't give cash back without a receipt (just store credit or gift cards) and we don't want to have to deal with returning it all anyways if we get things we don't want. Someone did bring up the idea of just registering for things we already have that could use replacing or updating, then donating the old stuff. We thought this might be something we'll end up doing, but not sure. We figure we could register for towels and a new bathroom set like shower curtain, rugs etc, and then all new bedding for us and the kids, (since our marriage is also us becoming a 4 person family, we think we can squeak by with registering kids bedding as well.) If someone doesn't like that, they can just not pick the kids stuff or something! We didn't want anything anyways, so we might only register due to all the people who are asking.

Haha, no that was Trisha, but too funny, cause I was totally thinking it's just like that, how they come up with an idea and you just have to do it that way, even when you think OMG.

Last night Doug and I are discussing wedding things and out of nowhere he says, "Can I be in charge of the favors? I really want to do that part." Like a lot of you before me, (and I know cause I've read your stories!) I have this feeling that because I'm doing all the work, then I should get to do things the way I want to. Doug has only had a few little things that he would like to have his way, so I try to incorporate his ideas, but for the most part he's let me have free reign on whatever I want. So when he does have an idea, I feel like how can I do anything but go with what he'd like to do? The problem I have with him doing the favors, is that we had already discussed what we were going to do (ok, I discussed making personalized CD's, he agreed!) and I really really want to do them! Doug is what I would call musically concious, he is very into his guitars and is in a band, he's totally into the music scene here in Seattle, and he said he is feeling bad about the blatant copyright infringement we would be making if we do 150 CD's full of music copied from out itunes. I get this. I'm not ignorant to it. I just feel ok about it given that we wouldn't be selling the CD's, or passing them out at some street fair or something. I ended up telling Doug that he can have the favor job, as long as he picks something that encompasses all the same things that a CD would, ie: ~It needs to be personal and something that has a part of both of us in it (like the songs we would pick) ~It needs to have a way to personalize it to our Hawaiian wedding theme (like the CD booklets would be full of pictures of us and Hawaiian styled graphics and what not.) ~It needs to be something that everyone can use, covering a broad base of ages. ~It needs to be cost-effective! (The CD's and booklets and jewel cases can be bought in bulk) Doug completely agreed with this, and then came up with a bunch of lame ideas like shot glasses (what's my 88 year old Grama gonna do with that?). I am totally going to "let" him do this, no matter how it turns out, even if it's not something I end up liking, because I'm excited that he wants a part of the planning. It's not a super big deal, I just like the CD idea soooooooo much. I want him to feel part of this whole thing, it's his wedding too, but I'm a little bit nervous to see what we end up with. Just wondering if any of you have any favor ideas that would be like a CD, but NOT! Any suggestions welcome!

I've got 2 hoodies in my cart, black with silver writing for Doug and black with pink glitter writing for me, Groom and names and date for him, and Soon-to-Be Mrs. Chalcraft, names and date for me. Very cute stuff!

Bali. Hands down. It's on my top 3 for Honeymoon Destinations!

Arrrgghhhh! Firewalls! I can't wait to go home and see your pics. But I know what one of them looks like because of Cali, and I had the same thing happen to me with that dress! Beautiful, but not for me.

Wow Lucy, that sucks! I hope that she didn't tell her daughter already without asking you. If worse comes to worse, and you get totally guilted out, there are more horrible things that could happen than to have a sweet little girl in a pretty dress walk before you down the aisle. But I completely understand, and hope she does too!

Quote: Originally Posted by LisaG There's some cute poems from Christine in this thread. http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t1973 For the record...this is my first time to paste a thread No way, Lisa! Good job, it worked great !

Here's a link to mine... http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t13446 I made them, very easy, just a little glue and computer work.

Quote: Originally Posted by LC_Rachel Half look like they just ate a bird and the feathers got stuck in their hair. Actually it looks like they ate a bird, barfed it up, then stuck those feathers in their hair.

Congrats and have a wonderful time! Report back asap!

Quote: Originally Posted by Mrs.B 2008 Maui pineapples are infused in SKYY Vodka, Stoli Vanil Vodka and Malibu Coconut Rum. Shaken and served with a fresh pineapple. Oh God! That sounds sooooo awesome. I could totally use one right now!

Quote: Originally Posted by lambert13 If she had said something about lacing it up I probably would have figured it was something completely different than what she was really talking about. Thats what I'm hoping will happen. PS Jason, you scared me with that More Cowbell guy watching me!

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Thanks gals, and Jason, I was hoping I would pick up some male input! I just feel like given that minor detail he would know which dress I picked, since before I went shopping I showed him pics of ones I was thinking of, and my dress was in the pics (to show him the idea of the pick-ups, since at the time I didn't like the lace up part!). I showed him a bunch of examples hoping he would give the same reaction I was feeling about each dress. So given that was the only one with laces, I just concluded he would remember that

Quote: Originally Posted by monicabrandon2008 The second one is great. I was going to try it on but never made it to Alfred Angelo. Ditto, I found my "the one" before I could get to this one. I ADORE this dress. The coolest thing is you can also buy a detachable underskirt to make it more formal for the ceremony or AHR, and just use the top lace layer as your reception/beach ceremony dress, depending on how you set your wedding events up. I've never seen anything else like that. Love it!

I like the idea of a signature drink in the color, we are going to have all the regular B, W and L, but we will also serve a Blue Hawaiian, since our main color is aqua/turquoise. 1 oz Smirnoff Orange Vodka 1 oz Blue Curacao 2 oz OJ 1 oz pineapple juice 1 slice orange Enjoy over ice. Try theBar.com for searching drink recipes by event, etc. Cool site!

That's where we're getting ours too, kiahjane They have some fun stuff!

I am so upset with myself right now, last night Doug and I were having a heated discussion (not to each other, I was just a little riled up about the subject!) about what role my stepmom will play in the wedding, I was explaining to him that altho I love her dearly and I may be her only daughter, I have always been extremely close with my mom and there are just certain things that you want your mom to do regarding your wedding, like being in the brides room with you and lacing up your dress and ..................... OMG did he just notice that I accidentally gave a detail about my dress, when I have been super squirrel secretive about anything having to do with it, won't even tell him what color it is, what style, anything?!!! Panic, cover, keep babbling, maybe he won't notice, sneak a look at him.... Why does he have a sly, unexplainable smile, don't let him know you saw, just keep covering. I am freaking out! I know him so well that just by that little smile that he shouldn't have had given the nature of the conversation, I just KNOW he was paying attention (For once! Oh lord, why THIS time?). I know some people might not think it's a big deal, and really "they" only say that the groom shouldn't actually SEE the bride IN the dress, not that he can't see the dress, but I am so mad at myself. It just slipped out! I keep talking about it to everyone else in the world, and it is so hard to keep a secret from your best friend, the one person you tell absolutely everything else to. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! I was going to bring it up last night right before bed when he was all sleepy, just casually bring it up and see if he knew what I was talking about, but I lost my nerve. I'm probably making a way bigger deal than this should be, but I feel like I ruined the surprise of my dress The one good thing is that at least I didn't look over and see him grimacing or something that looked like he was thinking: "Yuck, why did she pick a lace-up dress?"

wow jeez! thats awesome! right on!

wow jay those are great! i love your style. all the vibrant color saturations are rad!

march1508, you probably need more points to open attachments. try replying to more threads/creating your own, and in no time you'll be able to open whatever you want!

Oh weird! But It sounds so good, and I bet the kids will love to try this. I'm gonna get some and let them have at it!

Thanks guys, they were so easy, just fill in the blanks, pick the color scheme, and done! For more $ you can customize more things, but I didn't really care. These will work for us.