My heart really does go out to you. What does your husband think/say about everything? I mean at this point I don't honestly know if you could say anything, since MIL obviously doesn't think she did anything wrong. I know I would never ever miss my kids' wedding either, and it is so sad to me to think that some would, but it really is all about you and your husband, so try to focus on how much you love him and your children!! Sorry you have all this hurt inside