JennyK

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Here's my new dress! I posted it in the wedding dress thread too.. When I went in to try it on again and take pics, there was another bride that wanted to try it on and I think she was getting it too lol

So which was your fave? hehe

Ya know.. I was looking into the Gran Caribe Real way back when I was deciding and my FI and I called 2x and sent her numerous emails and she never got back to us. So we x'd them out of our list. There is another girl here thats getting married there and she had no problem getting in touch with the WC. Maybe try doing a search of "Grand Caribe Real" and you can find her.

Welcome aboard!

You looked so beautiful! Congrats Besty!

I'm a snot like that.. I even got this corset thing today to wear under the dress.. it's better than spanx.. it gives you the most nicest hourglass shape.. it holds all my flabs in place hehe It also helps you to not eat as much since its so damn tight. lol

welcome Eugenia!

Quote: Originally Posted by carly Yeah, Jackee and me aren't sisters, but both our sis's were there! Mine is the one in the middle holding my niece Bronwen, her name is Jill. (That was the bridal party, btw) And Jackee's sister Melissa is below. She's even shorted then me (I think), so her and Jackee next to each other is funny, cuz they look alot like, but like a huge height difference! ok wait you just answered my last question lol

Quote: Originally Posted by Jacqueline It was a great time! DARN I wish I woulda thought of taking a photo of the soap!! Where is my brain. I wonder if anyone else did..... ( Maybe take a photo of one favor to show. I have mine I will do it tonight. They are the best favors ever. omg I just realized.. you and Carly are sisters??! I never knew!

Quote: Originally Posted by DougsGirl yah exactly! like that! LMFAO are you getting your hair done?

welcome to the boards!

welcome to the forum!

nice you got everything covered!!! (including the blue )

awww at least you dont get frizz hair hehe

I'm really sorry to hear about your cousin.. *hugs* Hang in there and stay positive.

Welcome! Their gazebo is SOOOO beautiful!

Thanks for the advice ladies.. You guys are the best. It's funny how I had to get advice before talking to him. Now I got some good words for him I'll talk to him tonight about it since this wedding that we'll see her at is this Saturday. BTW, I got an awesomeeeeeeeeeee hot dress to wear.. i know i know.. I want her to look at me lol

Quote: Originally Posted by Christa Wow, that is a seriously sucky situation. IMO, if you are uncomfortable with her being in your lives (which you should be based on the background info), then your FI needs to respect that & stop allowing any friendship with her affect your soon to be marriage. I'm sorry, but being friends with someone you used to get naked with is virtually impossible without someone getting hurt - in this case it's you & it's not fair. Thats exactly what I tell him.. he has other good female friends who I absolutely love love love but its because they all just have a friendship, no past, and these girls all are engaged as well.. so they have their own lives and not messing with mine.

Quote: Originally Posted by AnnR Well, I'm the type that would just let it be, and not do the rules or ultimatum - but then again, I've never been in your shoes! However, I will say I'd have more of a problem with FI that I would with her. He needs to have a serious talk with T and let her know where he stands. He should let her know that any kind of inappropriate behavior (like that obvious flirting) isn't welcome. He needs to set boundaries, and stick to them - otherwise he's disrespecting you. And if she has a problem with those boundaries, then it's her problem ... she can take it or leave it! Knowing girls like her, she probably loves that she's causing you issues ... which sucks. But FI can't talk to her and say "my FI doesn't want you to flirt with me anymore" or some bullshit. He needs to tell her that HE doesn't want that kind of friendship with her, that he loves you, respects you, etc. Just my 2 cents, for what it's worth! You are right. He thinks I'm making it a bigger deal than what it is.. that I'm overreacting and jealous. But I've never been jealous of anyone. I feel I have good reason. The thing is, when he told her they couldn't be friends anymore, he probably didn't tell her why. He probably just said, it's the way it's gotta be. I've been told she's vindictive.

Quote: Originally Posted by amyrak So, he has a lot of friends who are girls?? or she has a lot of friends who are guys?? Shes got a lot of friends who are guys.. shes very tomboyish.. not the type to have boyfriends or ever settle down. I think that's the problem.

Quote: Originally Posted by amyrak Wow that is some serious shit!! There is no way I would put up with that! She's not invited to your wedding is she?? Well, she will probably weasle her way into it if they become friends again... Wow, that would really suck. I feel for you girl! No way is she invited lol All of her friends are though.. unfortunately all of my FI's best friends are also her best friends. I'll never win.

AHhh I didn't see the last episode but I had to come to the thread to see who he chose.. I've been so curious. I don't really like Amber but she was better than that tranny

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This is going to be long! My FI has been "best friends" with this chick since high school.. we'll name her T. We all went to high school together and even though I wasn't friends with my FI, I knew her and if there was one person that annoyed the living crap out of me it was her lol So when me and him got together 3 years ago, I though,"Wonderful.. now I have to deal with her now.." but I figured we've all grown up, we're adults.. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. Now here's the kicker, she was his first love. They dated right after high school for a few months but she ended up breaking his heart and sleeping with all of their friends. He told me that was why they never got back together but remained very close. I know they have been there for each other through rough times and all that bs. So it all started when we first started dating. She'd constantly be calling my FI. There was a time that he was on the phone with me and she called in like 3 times that he eventually said,"Hold on.. T keeps calling, it might be important." You know what it was? She wanted him to go over her house to look at her vacation pics from Hawaii! WTF..? Since it was so early in the relationship, I was scared to say.."no don't go." Months later, the FI took me to FL to meet his 'rents. Our ride back in NJ bailed on us so he called her to see if she'd pick us up from the airport. She goes,"I'll pick you up but I won't pick up who you're with!" I heard her saying it so I started screaming,"WTF IS YOUR PROBLEM!?!" And I tried getting the phone away from him to go off on her. He got mad at her and they stopped talking for about a week or so. Months later, our biggest blow up bc of her was when we went to a concert and she was there. He went to the venue early to tailgate with all of his friends. The minute I started to walk towards where everyone was..she saw me and started to wrestle with my FI. She kept grabbing his shirt and shorts.. I started to FUME. I grabbed my friends arm and started to squeeze it bc I couldn't decide on who to hit - him or her. To make a long story short, I FREAKED out. We faught til morning about it. I guess after he thought about it, he came to me and said,"You know what.. you might be right. She wasn't around me until you showed up. Everything happened too perfect in her favor. So again, he stopped talking to her for a few weeks. She emailed me and him an apology about it blah blah tryin to be friends with us again. I let it go... My last straw was AFTER we were engaged, I called him one Saturday last October while I was at work. I knew he had stuff to do so I was checking in. I was like,"What are you doing?" He goes,"I'm at T's house, we're just chilling on her front porch drinking beers." I FLIPPED out again bc I had already told him not to "hang out" with her alone without me. It's not that I don't trust him.. I just don't trust HER since it seems she's always trying to sabotage our relationship. At that point, I gave him the ultimatum.. her friendship or ME. Kicking and screaming, he chose me obviously. I just can't deal with her in my life at all. She'll always be a thorn in my side. Here's where I need the advice since I gave you the long background - He sat me down a few days ago and asked me if we can be friends with her again! WTF?!?! His reasoning is that she was a good friend to him (Which I don't see at all) and that bc we are all in the same circle of friends, we'll always be in contact with her and to not feel uncomfortable, we should be the bigger person. Also bc we have a wedding this weekend and she's most likely sitting at our table!! What should I do..? Make peace or continue happy that she's not around? P.S. Another thorn - my FSIL IS BEST FRIENDS WITH HER!!!!!!!! They got really close when T and my FI were dating 10 years ago. I'll never have T out of my life ever....... I've talked to my FSIL about the situation and she said she's not going to stop being friends with her. I said,"I'd never ask you to but I want you to see my side of the story."