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Quote: Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek Do you want to get married in the church before? or are you just doing it to appease your fmil? As a Catholic, it might help you later down on the line to be married in church first or to have a blessing done. I know they can sometimes give you a hard time when you have your kids baptised or if you want to be a godparent to someone else's kids. Oh and fi shouldn't have you handle it, it's his mom so that's his job. lol I don't mind doing it before if it can be done.. I am doing it to please her but you are right.. it might be best if I want to baptize my kids there also..

Quote: Originally Posted by Maura jenny, yes, they absolutely do that. you DO have to still go thru pre-cana. i recommend contacting your local parish and get it over with as soon as you can. its not worth it to fly someone down to cancun, and a catholic priest WILL NOT do a ceremony on the beach. sometimes a catholic deacon will (just FYI). if you do the little mass at home first, that can also be your legal marriage here in the US and then your DW can just be symbolic, which im guessing will probably save you a bunch of money to not have to do the legal shiz down in MX. you'll get your marriage certificate a lot sooner too and no translations needed for insurance purposes and whatnot. i'm well-versed in what you can & can't do as a catholic since we're dealing with it on two ends from the US catholic church & the mexican catholic church rules too. PM me if you have questions anytime! I don't mind pre-cana.. I'm going to get in touch with my church here.. maybe do it the week before I leave for Cancun.. So if I do it this way, anyone can do the symbolic ceremony right?

Quote: Originally Posted by Just Martha I hope you get it! Somedays you could even walk to work...maybe. ha! Thats what my FI said.. I'd rather get a vespa LMAO Quote: Originally Posted by monicabrandon2008 Yes, I do go out and sell. I do a lot of things. My company pays for advertisement in the local newspaper and real estate magazines so they call and I get those leads. I carry my business cards everywhere so anytime I meet or talk with someone who is interested in buying a home or refinancing their existing home I have a card to give them. I go and meet real estate agents and tell them how I can help their clients get financed. It can be exhausting always trying to get business but after a year or two you will have a client base that send you referrals and then come to you again and again for everything. That's exactly what the loan officer said.. he's always networking and he gets a lot of referrals that way.. word of mouth

Quote: Originally Posted by Jacqueline that is gr8 it went well. ah i always get so nervous at interviews. keeping my fingers crosses ;o) I get clamy hands lol lol It goes along with my anxiety

Quote: Originally Posted by JessicaLovesBrian Are you ok with doing a church wedding before the DW? I've been to a REALLY small church ceremony. I think there were only about 8 guests max, so I'm assuming it would be ok. I love my MIL too, but like yours once she gets an idea, she can be a bit pushy with it. I think though that if your MIL wants a priest so much, she should at least offer to pay for the costs... LOL, if she's doing her own research I hope one day she doesn't randomly book a priest for you! thats what I'm scared of.. and of course FI tells me to handle her! lol She offered to pay for his services but I don't want (i know it sounds selfish) whatever money she's going to contribute to the wedding going to travel expenses of a priest.

Quote: Originally Posted by Just Martha My best friend got married at a beautiful hotel in Austin then got her marriage blessed in he church later. Will she be okay with this? Yea.. as long as it has to do with church she'll be happy. I just don't wanna do the church thing in Cancun since my dream was to do it on the beach

Quote: Originally Posted by cancunbride SIMBASIM... Did you ever get a price quote on the lounge decor? Please let me know once you find out...thank you!!hee hee I'm also looking for a company that rents lounge furniture.

Quote: Originally Posted by lucy106 That is great Jenny!! Congrats! Cant wait to hear Monday what the word is!! Sounds perfect for you! It totally does.. it's what I need. A real career. Being an esthetician is something I can do part-time (as I am now) but it's not the full time job that I want. Plus, I only get paid cash which could be good but when I want to buy a new car and house, it doesnt work..

Quote: Originally Posted by Nrvsbride Jenny initially I was going to do this. James and I were going to get married at a church in NY and then have a symbolic wedding in Cabo. We did the pre-cana classes which we were able to do in one weekend. It really isn't bad, I actually enjoyed them. I had it set up so we had our church ceremony the weekend before our wedding. I think its better to do it this way so that you don't have to fly someone out to Cancun. FMIL's can be a little pushy to say the least... Do churches do that.. like small ceremony just to have it recognized? I mean I probably wouldn't have anyone there except our immediate family.

Quote: Originally Posted by monicabrandon2008 Of course! I will help you with anything you need. When I first started I had two great people that guided me and it is a lot to learn but if you are ready and anxious to make it you can. The money is good when the economy is good. Take this slow time to learn and then when it picks back up you will be rockin' and rollin' I have my fingers crossed for you! I bet you get it Thats what they told me and I don't mind that it's slow bc it does give me that time I need to learn. I'm really excited and ready for the challenge. I hope I get it Do you go out and sell? I just cant see myself doing that.. the Loan Officer I talked to says he's always out golfing with his clients and stuff..

I get along really well with my FMIL. She's a sweet lil lady. My FILs live in FL so they're not around much to bother us with anything. From the beginning, I had wanted a beach ceremony and we all know that priests don't do beach weddings. Although I love my Catholic religion, church was just not an option and I'm fine with it being an officiant. MY FMIL insists on having a priest. My FI & I joke that if we get the officiant to throw in the word "God" a few times, she'll be happy lol I specifically told her it'd be a minister of some sort..just not a priest. We've been battling this since we got engaged in August! Today I get this IM from my FMIL: FMIL (8:57:05 AM): Hi Jen, How are you? I'm taking care of a priest at this time. I found out that there are some diocese that do allow priests to perform wedding ceremonies on the beach or anywhere else. Some do not. Houston, TX does. But they all require that the couple go to pre-Cana sessions. Mine & Steve's were once a week for awhile. Just talking and a film with other couples to be married. The priest didn't have info on Mexico, but said to check with that diocese. ME (8:57:59 AM): will he fly into Cancun? ME (8:58:11 AM): do we have to pay for his flight & hotel? FMIL (9:11:51 AM): I would think so. FMIL (9:12:31 AM): What I was getting at was the diocese for the Cancun area. ME (9:17:18 AM): Ive done research on this and priests will not perform any kind of ceremony in mexico outside of the catholic church or chapel..especially no beaches. What if we talk to a priest here, do a church wedding here right before we go to cancun? I'm sure in the winter months they're not as busy. FMIL (9:19:09 AM): Whatever you decide, it will be beautiful. That is a great idea. She's doing this research that I didn't ask for.. I don't want to pay for anyone to fly down EXCEPT my photog. It's just an added expensive that I don't need when there's plenty of officiants that can do the job! Has anyone gotten married through the church BEFORE your DW?

Quote: Originally Posted by cmmdee We were first going to go to a different resort but then decided against it. We're gonna stay at our resort, and plan on staying a little longer than most guests anyway. I love the resort where the wedding is, so I'm happy. Plus this is truly one of the only times in our lives that all of our family and good friends will be together. And especially in an exotic place. Makes it that much more cool! I think it will be neat. Weddingmoon! We plan on going to Europe later this year, just us two. you are doing what I'm doing Sticking around with fam and Europe later in the year!

Quote: Originally Posted by DougsGirl wow, could you sue for lost work $? that sucks for sure.. thats what I was thinking too lol Jill, is there any way the web host could compensate you?

Quote: Originally Posted by monicabrandon2008 I hope it went well! I am a mortgage loan officer and have been for 5 years. At the time I got the job I didn't know jack about the business. I loved learning this business. I must tell you though that I work off of commission. As mentioned before there isn't a whole lot going on good in the mortgage business right now because of all of the foreclosures. When the economy is good the mortgage business is good and you can make great money. It's a feast or fathom business. There are some positions though, for instance a mortgage loan processor makes a steady salary. Anyways, I love the mortgage field and I reccomend it to anyone that likes numbers, loves to help people accomplish their dreams (own their own home) and likes to be their own boss oh cool!! If I get the job I might lean on you for some guidance then This company is only in NJ, NY, & FL. They want to be small and not grow nationally.

ok I'm back! It went well!! I really hope I get the job. I was there for an hour! Met with the recruiter then he had me sit down with a loan officer to tell me about his job. They said there's two sides I can do - financial or sales. I hate selling so I might go for the banking. Unfortunately there's no base salary but once I get started, I get commission even when training with the bankers. The loan officer told me he made $100K in his first year.. I don't see that happening for me with this economy but it's a nice goal right? They said that my fluent Portuguese & Spanish really will help me bc they don't have anyone that speaks another language there. By Monday I should know if they want me back for a second interview with the partners of the company. And get this.. my commute.... 3 minutes!!! I make a left off my street and it's on that road hehehe It's less than a mile away from my house!

I never even sent an RSVP with my STD..? Should I have? I'm sending the RSVP with my invites which everyone's gonna get regardless if I've heard that they might not come.

do hydrangeas come that dark? That was my guess too but I've never seen then that deep blue

thanks guys! I'll let you know how it goes.. hopefully good..... ahhhh i cant calm my nerves. It's been FOREVER since I went on an interview where I didn't know if I got the job lol

Hi Ali! Happy planning!

welcome and happy planning!

Quote: Originally Posted by redheaney ... here at BDW. Is there a way to avoid this?! It's absolutely doing my head in! I go to reply to a thread - and have to re-enter my sign-in name and password... EVERY FEW MINUTES!!! HELP!! You can click the "Remember Me" and it won't do that

Thanks! It works

and I'm so nervous I could throw up! I've been applying jobs for a while now and finally I got a call back. It's to be a loan officer/mortgage broker. I want to be confident but I don't know shit about this field lol I really only applied bc It's so close to my house (literally up the street). It did say they'll train if you don't have experience. I just really need a steady income. As much as I love skin care, this economy is beating my ass. I need to do something until people start spending money again. Wish me luck ~

Quote: Originally Posted by LadyCheese I went thru horrible times with my TA...she basically was insisting that I have a "wedding planner" or as you said a "point of contact" that she can deal with instead of me directly (i'm no bridezilla, I was a bit offended)...then she didnt want people to call her, instead she wanted emails and she is a bit snotty with us and some of my guests...so rude!! I'm happy you are switching agents ASAP, I should've done the same. yea mine just wanted emails.. you sure we didnt have the same chick? lol j/k

welcome to the boards!