I am not having a bridal party just a MOH and she's in grad school so I know she's tight on money. I said NO to a shower but YES to a bachelorette party. My MOH, mom and friends will be planning that so I can't wait. You could casually bring it up to someone and help plan it, you don't need to know when it is but you could always help out with ideas. Maybe (like stated above) people aren't sure who's planning what so they're just waiting to be told what to do.