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Quote: Originally Posted by imapepper Ladies, I am a size 14 (pear shape) and am in dyer need for a ahr dress. We are also getting "legally" married here in Delaware on Sunday and I am unsure about what to wear. I purchased a halter white dress from Jcrew, but I do not think it is dressy enough, I am also having problems finding a bathing sut. Please help a sista out! Amma www.ammaandlester.com Hey Amma! I see we share the same problem (again). lol I'm ordering my suits from Newport News most likely.Women's Clothing, Swimwear, Shoes, Accessories and more at Newport-News.com I especially like the fact that they carry so many mix and match seperates, even stuff that helps to minimize or hold things in Things are adding up and I figure the more pieces I can mix and match, the better since I'm not one to spend $50-60 bucks per suit for an entire week. I've had good luck with them before, but they do run a bit large, so allow plenty of time and be sure to check the size chart and measure yourself against it. I had to get re-measured after about six months and got pretty shocked when I found out my actual measurements (boob shrinkage, big time).

Hmm..no chance of getting in an email/convo with your WC before you leave? Fifteen minutes (in my book) isn't really that long. BUT, if you are worried about it, I'd simply write it up with all the elements you want, then adjust if necessary once you get on site and are able to discuss it in detail with the WC. I'm sure some of the post-wedding gals will chime in. In the meantime, don't worry (easier said than done, I know:). Even with 5 days, you've got time and can get it figured out.

How'd I miss this before? Let's hear it for the May-2010 ladies!! It's so nice to FINALLY be under a year and seeing so many other brides with our same timeline! Kittenheart & BostonBride.. I see we're date twins!

I'm sorry you feel so let down by so many. That's something a lot of us have/are dealing with and continue to do so as we plan and execute our DW's. I think, the important thing here is to perhaps change the way you are thinking about the whole thing. You are getting married. To your dream guy. Let THAT be your focal point and the source of your happiness. I can get married without anybody except God and FH in attendance and be just as joyful as I'd be with every person I love there. You can't control who comes and who doesn't; so why let it ruin your happiness during this time. You can never get these days back, leading up to your wedding. This is a time for you to focus on what's to come and becoming your man's wife. Don't make it about other's disappointing you. In the end, it's about the two of you and no one else.

I'm about to keep it VERY real with this. Some of this, I agree...at worst was really tacky. But some of it, I feel like you are ...well, over shooting your importance or how much sway your opinion should hold over someone else's wedding. Again, some stuff..def tacky...to the nth degree. Quote: Originally Posted by KittenHeart This may come off as a bit of a vent... but I wanted to give you ladies perspective from a MOH and how to keep the wedding/bridal party happy (we know, we know it's all about you) but at least don't anger everyone I was MOH in my best friends wedding over the weekend, it wasn't a DW, it was local. #1 - don't be EXTREMELY cheap (there's nothing wrong with a budget but be sensible too) One person's cheap is another person's "what I can afford". Without knowing this girl and her situation, I don't know how many of us can actually make a judgement call on a lot of this. Each bridesmaid including myself was asked to pay for the hideous pink sash she made us wear which was $16.25... I even politely tried to get her to realize that it was ridiculous she was asking me to collect this money from everyone... she didn't get it, so I dropped it and collected the change. (I wouldn't have thrown hints; I would have simply said, I'm not comfortable with this" if I though it was ooooh so cheap. Depending on how many BM's she had and just how broke SHE may have been at this point in the whole shindig, things add up. When you agree to be a BM and do so knowing that you are responsible for the cost of your attire...you are responsible for the cost of your attire. ABSOLUTELY, it's nice and completely within etiquette to throw your girls a bone WHEREVER you can...but to dog her for this, I'm not so sure about. I threw her a Bridal Shower on short notice (1 week) because her family was complaining about there being no bridal shower. The bride told me she wanted a HUGE blowout in Vegas, a weekend with 9 girls and her having fun and she DIDN'T want a bridal shower. Once I came to her letting her know that her mother was up my a** about this Bridal Shower she backed up and didn't speak up letting them know she didn't want one. Then complained that no one got her anything for it off the registry telling another bridesmaid this (I just found out) even though EVERYONE bought her gifts for the Naughty and Nice shower I through. Then she didn't send ANYONE thank you cards or emails. TRULY bad etiquette and tacky of her not to send thank you notes. The rest? Sounds like someone who wanted to pick her battles, and who knows? Maybe she changed her mind and did want a shower. How she handles her mom, while it may not be the RIGHT thing to do isn't necessarily anybody's call but hers. You didn't have to do it..you could have simply said "Hey, ___ has told me repeatedly that she doesn't want a shower. Talk to her, if she has changed her mind, we will SEE what we can do at this late notice." Two weeks later was the Bachelorette party that cost $3k total... she hardly spent anytime with ME. Whatever... Unless there was a locked and loaded weapon to your head, I'm not seeing how this is her fault. Again, tacky..in the extreme to dis her MOH at the shower you threw for her. However..with that being said, HOW MUCH you CHOSE to spend on said shower was entirely up to you. You can blame her for her treatment of you..but not for the expense. The thing about gift giving is that you shouldn't do it if you can't afford to. And this? Was a gift. Hell, I WANT a weekend in Bermuda, child free, with some oiled up cabana boys attending my every need as my bachelorette...nobody will be giving me one. I told her after this Vegas Bachelorette that I had to cancel my hair appt. (that's how broke I was) and I could do it beforehand and meet her at the salon. She tells me to come and do it myself at the salon... thanks for not ponying up $50 to help me out... which is fine, she doesn't need to. If it was fine, why vent about it? It doesn't sound fine to me..sounds like you are angry about it. I'm not even sure I can call this tacky....again, not without knowing what HER bank account was looking like at that point. Did she realize how much expense you went to for her bachelorette? If so, yea..tacky. Friday was her rehersal dinner... which was pizza and beer. Neither of which is on most of our diets. Fine... whatever. So...now she's responsible for tailoring her rehearsal dinner to fit...dieting? For who? And where does it stop? Should there have been a full on selection for those who WERE NOT dieting? Sounds like this girl is kinda broke herself, which is certainly something many of us can identify with. This seems petty to me. She then gives us our bridesmaids gifts which was an empty frame (cheap) saying picture coming soon and a pen she got for free from her grandpa's company. Everyone got the same thing including me. Yea..this is pretty cheap. Again, wondering what this girl's budget/finances are. If she didn't have much to spend, can't really blame her. If she's rollin' knee deep in green, then yes, this was quite tacky. Wedding day - went well, went off without a hitch... until we were taking photos and noticed that all 120 guests were eating dinner. By time we sat down (it was a buffet) the food was cold and there was hardly any left and none left of some of the items. My fiance who attended said that there were these terrific stuffed mushrooms but literally about 50 of them... for 120 people. Bad planning and execution on the part of..whomever. Most problems that happen during weddings, happen during the RECEPTION. Food shortages, equipment failures. Things can be planned better, but you can't cover every eventuality. I had 3 minutes after I sat down to eat and read my speech... no one warned me about this. Again, an execution problem. But unlike the one above, chances are really good that this one just...happened. No one's fault, just a series of events that lead to a shortage of time. Someone didn't do something they should have early enough, or something else ran over....nobody's fault. It was a karaoke wedding... the BM's and me had been practicing secretly her favorite Beatles song to sing as a dedication to her. She stood there and watched the whole thing then walked away after we were done...!!! No hug, no thank you... walked away!!! Tacky and ungrateful. Plain and simple. Very. Fine, dancing, good times, didn't see her most of the night, fine. 11pm, I'm exhausted by now, about to leave and the Groom asks me to come tomorrow (the wedding was at his bosses house in their giant backyard) and help clean up... WTF!?!?!?!?! They asked the wedding party to janitor this f-ing wedding... I'm SO livid I can't even express it. This whole thing has left me with such a bad taste in my mouth I can't even believe it. I spent the entire night before my friends wedding a month ago, cleaning the sanctuary. I mean that, literally. We had rehearsal at 5 p.m., I didn't get home til after midnight. This fell under the heading of bridesmaid to me. When I agree to participate in a friend's wedding and hold this position of honor, I do so willing to do whatever it takes to be there for her during the process. When I know I don't have the time, or feel whoever is asking isn't deserving of that time and commitment, I say no. Period. There were six of us girls, and all six of us put our back's into decorating and cleaning that night. And I didn't even think about complaining, nor did I hear a single complaint, even though to MY way of thinking, all of that sh*t should have been done already. Not my call and it wasn't..so I helped. What her hubby did in your case..tacky, yea. But..thats about it. After the way she treated you, I simply wouldn't have done it. CHEAP, CHEAP, CHEAP. I would have let everything slide if they hadn't asked me to be a janitor yesterday... that set me over the edge. I just wanted all you brides to understand we are willing to go out of our way and help but PLEASE, I beg of you don't take advantage of the wedding party and please thank them... for everything, even if it's just verbal or a nice email. That's free and very much appreciated. Absolutely agree with this. You have the right to expect better. Thanks for listening

Awwww, how adorable! Really cool/sweet of them to do this for you!

I think it's been emphasized enough here (and everywhere for that matter:)-- as brides, we get to do whatever the heck we darn well please! I've seen one other all white wedding, and it can be striking! It's not something I'd do, but only for one reason since I don't necessarily think that other ladies in white takes the attention off of me (I'm far too fabulous for THAT to be an issue lol). My only issue is the pics. Even with an obvious bridal gown, a line up of all white on both sides makes it hard to distinguish the bride and groom in the photos to me. Otherwise, I think it all looks great, so really I'm just thinking about the pics. "Live" and in person especially, I think it's looks dazzling.

Ironic indeed! Wow. I think the thing to continue to remember is that regular, run of the mill viral infections are STILL running rampant across the country even in the midst of ole swiney. Each one of my kids got trampled by a regular kick ass virus this past week, one by one like dominos. High temps in the 103 range, lethargy, runny nose. I never once thought swine because up until a five days ago, they were still in pre-k running around with the same kids they have caught a dozen viruses from all year long. Since swine flu is the flu, just an uncommon strain of it, I think that it's understandable that we fear it more than a regular strain...but we still gotta keep our wits about us. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this and it says a LOT about your character and commitment to your students and job that you aren't one to call in just to avoid the risk. Good for you. Wish everyone had the same level head, work ethic and commitment to students.

It's BEAUTIFUL and looks great on you! I'd wanna wear that bad boy all day every day too!

Awww..here's hopin' you have a good one girl!

Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!! Mesita...TEN DAYS LEFT!!! Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!! Girl, what you doin' with the huuurrr You decide to go with the bun, or what?

I have it on DVR as well. I don't know WHY I bother watching...all of those chicks just end up pissing me off so bad I can barely think straight afterward. Givin' brides all over the world a bad name. Ugh. lol But it DOES make me feel better about the piddly stuff that I insist on.

Quote: Originally Posted by jerzygirl85 Here it is! Ooooh, it's beauuuuuuutiful! lol, definitely wedding'y! It's gorgeous and so flattering on you. Great choice! Congrats on finding The One!

Aaaaahahahahahaa! You kill me, Christie! NOT that you thought if this (truly, it's worthy of consideration lol) but the fact that you were worried about asking about it! haha..you sweet lil' thang! I'm planning on making sure the TA remembers the request, then I'm calling the front desk prior to our arrival to make sure THEY got it right. And if it's not right when we get there? I'll be raisin' a fuss too...right in front of the parents if need be. I have -0- shame. lol

Oooooh, I'm gonna have to ask him if he likes. That's just too good a price to pass up. Only thing I'd be worried about is transparency when wet since I think he would almost have to get the white and its thin. Hmm....

The problem it seems some of us are running into is the minimum order thing. When you only need a couple dozen, a lot of the larger sites/companies are outrageously expensive. If I order from discountmugs, I'm going to end up paying over $6 per mug! That's just insane. So maybe we should be thinking on trying to do a post for brides who want to combine orders on a more generic design...like "Mexico 2010" etc. I just can't see paying $6 a mug, but I really want my guests to have them.

Oooh, I am SOOO going to add a condom to my hangover kits now. lol Very cool idea. Thanks for posting!

I'll take all of the Spanish for Dummies..pm'ing now!

I found one. It's a size 6, in latte...in stock at a David's in Lincoln, Nebraska...so you would need to contact them and try to work something out to have it shipped I guess if possible. I know nothing of the condition, but it's full price @ $135.00 Here's the info: David's Bridal #5 Gateway Lincoln, NE 68505 (402) 464-3600

So, I decided to go ahead and do luggage tags which I'll send out with our actual invitations before the wedding. I'm wondering about letting the luggage tag do dual service as the room key/tip holder. Ofcourse, I'd need to check with our coordinator about the size of the room key, but if it's standard I think it should work. Just include a blurb in the Guest Welcome letter in the oot bags saying they can replace the loop on the luggage tag with the neck strap to carry their tip money and room key. I found metallic gold plastic loops, and also gold lanyards..thought it would be a cutesy convenient thing for guests. What d'ya think? Is this bad? lol

Hey Michelle! I'm from Central IL/Springfield. I know there's a Chicago meet up on June 11 (I think). I'm not able to go..too much going on here with the kids for me to get away this month, but I'm definitely planning to meet up with the other IL. ladies next go round!

I'm doing parasols for my girls, and a bouquet and parasol for me (I'll only use my parasol for pics after the ceremony). It shaved a nice chunk off our budget and so far the girls really dig the idea if for no other reason than keeping the sun off of them:)

Lemme just say that I think this comes and goes in phases. It's a TOTAL myth that men want it more all the time--like everything else in life, I've kinda found that it's not about being male or female, it's just about what's going on with each of you at the time. Or at least that's how it works for us....in fact, come to think of it, I think most of my relationships have felt that way. Either of us can be complete and total horndogs one week, and barely want to be bothered the next. lol

Aww, glad it went well! I think that your first trip out can definitely set the tone for how you feel about the entire process of picking/buying a dress. Glad things went well and you seem like you know the type of style you want. Don't feel pressured due to the sale. The beautiful thing about having time is that those things always come back around again! If you fall in love a gown, get it, but don't feel pressured!

Awwww, Monica!! It looked like it was TRULY everything was gorgeous and magical. Love your attitude about the little stuff - it's little stuff that in the end didn't effect anything and doesn't matter. You had a gorgeous day, and the two of you made a beautiful couple! Congratulations! Now I'm going back to look some more!