BillysBride

Quote: Originally Posted by BBtoB Wow! That is gorgeous!!! Where did you get it? Ebay strikes again! It's one of the ebay manufacturers....gimme til tonight and I'll post the link to the store.

I think this is the one...got it for $20, so if it turns out I find something else I like better, so be it. But it's hard working with my colors, so I think this is it....

Just a quick update since I'm finally sitting down and upright at my desk. The surgery was successful. I can't say it went "well" since what was initially slated to be a 2 hr procedure turned into nearly 8. My poor mom, you guys....and ofcourse FH. I guess it was tough cuz they only updated them every 2 hrs and didn't say what was going on. The size of my thyroid caused complications....I was told the morning after that it was "as big as your heart". A healthy one is about the size of a walnut. Anyway, lost a lot of blood and they had to give me a transfusion. Because I was open for so long, my swelling and pain is ofcourse a bit more than usual and taking longer to subside. Don't worry..I'm on some good shit:) I go today at 1 for my first follow up since they sent me home with this...thing in my neck. It's a drain, and that's all I will say for fear of completely grossing y'all out. It should come out today as long as they don't see anything they don't like. I thank you all more than I can possibly say for your prayers and thoughts..might sound silly, but I honestly think they helped in that O.R. I'm really emotional right now (they tell me its the hormone swing), but just feeling so grateful to have so many truly decent people in my life who care for me and my well being. Billy is holding down the fort..he's been a real trooper with the kids. I didn't get to come home til Saturday night, and since then he's really insisted on me not lifting a finger. I'm so blessed. Mom has been spending the night too (this 69 yr old lady spent two nights in a hospital recliner and worked everyday) ..and still managed to jump up everytime she heard me move. OK, bawling in earnest now. So, so blessed. I will update more soon....probably tonight. I got to take a shower yesterday (woo hooo)and it totally pooped me out, so now I'm going back to do it again and imagine I'll be napping soon. p.s. on a side note, just to tell you how far this wedding stuff is embedded in my brain....the first thing I did when I could sit up and control my bodily functions was have 'em drag the pc next to my bed so that I could click/search with one hand. I THINK I FOUND A WELCOME DINNER DRESS!! hahaha Is that sick? Love y'all! And thanks again.

I know, I know...should have said something earlier, but I hate worry. Having a total thyroidectomy today at noon....long story short, I've had hyperthyroidism since the birth of the quads and it's caused some fairly severe complications over the last couple years. They tried controlling it with medication..no dice. I'm just ready to get it all over with once and for all so that I can begin the process of finding my sweet spot with medication/replacement hormone. I'll be at Memorial here in Springfield and they are really good, competant staff there so I'm feeling confident going into the procedure. I'll only be in over night, and y'all know me..I'll be online as soon as I can! Wish me luck and for you pray warriors, I'm definitely interested in a few in my name. It's a pretty standard procedure, but still major surgery so.... Love you guys!!

(sigh)...I think I'm in love... It's perfect...congrats on a great find!

Josie- You are COMPLETELY normal and every woman in the world goes through the same thing. Just to varying degrees. It's BECAUSE you two are so different that you're questioning it, I think. Here's something that helped me a long time ago...something I forced myself to remember and still pull out when I wonder if he would rather have someone who was more this or that. There are ALL TYPES of beauty to most men. In my experience, it's very rare to meet a guy who spends his life going for the same "type" start to finish. Two women can look entirely different, and still rate a 10 to the average guy. Short vs. tall, thin vs curvy....beautiful and sexy comes in all kinds of packages and just because you went for x at some point, doesn't mean you wouldn't go for y and think of that person as just as beautiful. I think we as women get caught up in...types. What's "his type" or not his type when some guys just like GORGEOUS, which you clearly are. And gorgeous comes blonde, brunette, tall and short. Ashley Judd looks nothing like Beyonce, but they are both still drop dead gorgeous. lol My FH is white and most of the girlfriends he had before me were too....what, am I gonna try to compare the way I look to them?? lol...Seriously, I'd drive myself insane trying to find a link between what attracted him to them physically and now me. There isn't a link...he just finds both types attractive. So I won't tell you to try not to compare, because it's natural and you'll do it anyway. What I'm gonna tell you is to stop thinking theres only one type your man can find attractive..you've got all the evidence in the world staring you right in the face that that simply isn't true!

Thanks a bunch ladies...looks like #1 it is! I'm glad I wasn't the only one thinking what I was thinking ..lol. I was starting to wonder if I was being anal about something looking "elegant" vs. just fun. Since the std's themselves are so classy looking, I wanted the stationary to be more elegant. The rest of the stuff I send out, I'm gonna go for fun to get people in the mood to hit the beach!

Bah! OK, so I'm leaning toward Option 1, just because it's more "real" and for some reason that's saying more elegant to me. BUT...Option 2 is cute with the lil bridal veil and bow tie wafting in the breeze...plus I like that it actually has the words "Save the Date". lol Dork that I am. So...which one girls Option #1 or Option #2

Thanks, Shannon...I wasn't sure if people would get it with the wording...it's amazing how funny WE think stuff is, then folks don't end up "getting it". So I thought the different font on the pun words would be cool. I love finally having SOMEthing tangible! I've been trying to find the "perfect" stationary for the enclosure letter now, so after that we're good to go. If I can only figure out what the hell to say in the letter, that is. Blah. I need to take a look at some of the other gal's on the board. I'm sort of at a loss. Rare...me not knowing what to say. haha!

Sorry, Whitni! Just saw your post. I think she quoted me only like .10 per mug/glass. CRAZY cheap, and if I decide to do the decals that's definitely the way I'll go. The only thing holding me back right now is the packing issue. With the handles, those will take up more space than just tumblers which is what I initially wanted. I dunno....guess I need to do more research.

(sigh)....work like yours makes me swoon:) Welcome aboard....this place is great!

Quote: Originally Posted by miss di billysbride - they are adorable! quadruplets?? wowza. must be such a handful but i bet you love it!! i'm a 2010 bride! woootwoooot. can't wait to get a ticker...think i'm too early? hehe...maybe i should wait a couple of months... Heck no you aren't too early for a ticker, girl! You're within a year!! I see lots of gals with them up to two years out! I'm so happy to be officially within 12 months now...I want a ticker, but my siggy is already full. lol Maybe next month.

Quote: Originally Posted by claire.cw.watson Hey Ladies Im planning on getting married Feb 17th 2010 at the catalonia RM. Not got it booked yet, but have sent the email requesting the date. So fingers crossed it will get comfirmed soon.x Just a head's up...I was working with the "Cat" last year for our wedding. We decided on a different resort, but PART of the problem I had was this chick refused to book us until we were within 8 months. Now, that alone wouldn't have been a huge deal...but when you're trying to get STD's and such done and you want to be able to tell people you know where you're going, its tough. BUT...the info was inconsistent. Some girls she would book as far as a year out, but with us, she first said 10 months, then when I contacted her inside that range, she said 8. I just got tired of it. It's actually funny, because she emailed me like a month ago asking if we were still having our wedding there. A MONTH AGO. My original date was April 24, 2009....and she was just getting back to me in early April to confirm? Please. All of the coordinators at the resorts are horrible about responding to emails in a timely fashion...thats uniform across the board, so I don't blame her specifically. It's just something we brides have to deal with. Morgan, another lovely lady here on the forum had her wedding there and was very satisfied with everything. I don't doubt they can do a fabulous job for you...just wanted to give you a head's up about the problems to expect.

Quote: Originally Posted by staceysbride Billysbride- Random question that popped up when I noticed you had a new pic of the fab four in your siggy- will they be traveling to your destination in Mexico with you? I don't have any children yet, so I wasn't sure whether people take their kids down there with them or what not... Didn't mean to be prying or anything either, please don't take it that way Girl that is sooo not prying. Anyway, anyone can feel free to ask me anything they want. I'm not the shy or quiet type in case ya haven't noticed. lmao No, the kids aren't coming...for a few reasons. a.) they are little and even by next year, they will still only be 4. Little kids on beaches freak me out without them even being MY little kids on beaches. I just dont think, under the circumstances, it would be really safe for them. Yea, we have some peeps who would volunteer to look out for them....but everyone coming all that way is entitled to a good time. Not babysitting duty. b.) I can't turn off "Mommy" and just be "Bride" anytime they are around. It just doesn't work that way and no matter who was there trying to take care of them, I'd still be "Did they eat? Oh, thats not enough/good enough. It's bath time, lets go. Don't hit your sister. Hey--stay over here by mommy and papi!" You get my meaning. lol And again...the safety thing. I'd spend the entire time worried about where they were. Keeping track of four is a lot different than keeping track of one naturally. c.) the airlines don't care how tiny the butts are that are going in the seats. It would mean an additional 4 airline tickets, and even best case scenario, that will add over a thousand bucks to our total....and anytime we can save a thousand or more, it means a lot to us financially in this family. I think with older children, it's different than it is with toddlers ofcourse. Theres just too much care and worry involved on a trip of this nature. It's just not logical to even try. We're gonna try to take them to Disney in 2011. They will be 5 and better able to LISTEN and actually take things in and enjoy it.

I'm ordering mine from Zazzle.com. They have a whole slew of tropical stamp stuff appropriate for weddings in tons of colors. They even have some stamps that SAY "rsvp" on them that come in a lot of different themes and colors. If you haven't yet, check 'em out!

Thanks girls! I'm just waiting for the paper to come in for the jackets...I decided to take a stab at doing them myself since I did NOTHING else thus far. haha! I'll, ofcourse, post when I get them done.

I've been thinking of these...but I don't need that many either. HOWEVER, she did tell me that they could sell just as many as I need, but not personalized, so what I've been considering is getting clear labels with our logo on them...just to personalize ourselves. It's a solution..not sure if you would want to go that route, but I'm thinking on it.

So sorry to hear this...my FH actually got laid off for almost four months RIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS! So I do feel your pain. I don't think a DW has to be expensive. I'm pretty penny pinching normally anyway, so the biggest advice I can give is SCALE BACK. You can probably do everything you planned, you just might not be able to do it on the scale you planned. For instance, we aren't having a formal reception, just a cake/punch/champagne/cocktail hour. My girls are using carrying instead of flowers and I scoured the net til my nails broke off in search of a photographer whose style but was inexpensive. Just make a list of what you want to have....and then go from there finding ways of having those things either done yourself, or via lower cost vendors. The ladies here are amazing and if you post a specific question about needing help finding something, you'll get it! Good luck!

My sitch is different, but I have a similar problem anyway. My friends are very scattered due to the nature of how I've spent my life the past few years. Having four kids at once SEVERELY cuts down on your social time, and truly focuses your attention on people and choices that may have been impacting you in a negative way. Not to mention, people who aren't "real"...you figure it out pretty quick because they stop coming around. My biggest circle of friends has ended up coming from the sites I run....these are girls I've had an opportunity to physically hang out with at most 2-3 times in the past few years. Not a lot. But we talk all the time, and email daily. They are no less my friends just because we don't live in the same cities. Of my bridal party, I have one person I've known for ten years that I used to work in my old office with, then my cousin. The rest are women I've met via my online business. lol Some might think of that as strange, but these girls have been AMAZING in the ways they have been there for me when people I know who live virtually down the street from me haven't. I say...don't feel self conscious or like you're lacking something just because your friends are guys. So what? If you ask, I'm sure they will come through for you. And ...asking your gay friend to be a part of your celebration and planning isn't rubbing his face in it. I know he's going through a rough time, but I'm willing to bet he would be horrified if he knew you were...stifling your own excitement to keep from hurting him. Have a little faith..and you said it yourself, it's a transitional time for him. He'll wake up one day realizing that while his life won't be traditional, he still has options when it comes to getting married. If you leave him out of this just because you don't want to hurt his feelings, you may both regret it forever. As far as bridal showers? Overrated. lol I have no idea if I'm having one, and to be honest, if nobody throws one for me, I don't think I'll be terribly upset at all. MAKE YOUR OWN TRADITION...do a night out with your guy friends and celebrate your upcoming wedding in a way that fits your group..not something that is just "supposed" to be what you do.

Eeeeeeeeeee, MarieSam....47 days!! ARE YOU SHITTIN' ME? I'm freaking FOR you! hahaha~

If you are TRULY ONLY worried about her health, then no..you aren't being selfish. Thing is..your initial post didn't come off that way, hence the reaction of the ladies here. The health concern seemed to be more of an after thought. I think, maybe you should ...do a little research regarding travel to Mexico? It's not as if you'll be asking her to go drink water from some river where they bathe cattle or something. lol It's a tourist mecca for a few reasons, one of which BEING that people go, have a great time and don't have to risk life or limb in order to do so. I think if you're really concerned for her health and that of an unborn child she may be carrying by then, then great. But....make sure you have good reason to be concerned, then trust you friend enough to believe that if YOU are concerned, SHE will be WAY more so...it's her child. I'm sure she'll get her physician's approval and discuss any concerns with him/her prior to traveling. Better yet, change your wedding location. That would be more acceptable than changing her family planning I bet. lol I mean, if you're really worried about her health...... In the end, if the worse thing that can happen is her not being there due to some unforeseen complication...you're wedding still goes on. You sort of act like her being there and the numbers being even are of paramount importance..they aren't. Lots of people don't have an MOH. It's not the end of the world, relax and hope for the best.

To be honest....I think maybe you're being just a teeeeeensy bit ..sensitive. Hear me out. Here's the reason. While we ALL consider our personal lives the most important thing in the world, that is not true for every acquaintance in our day to day lives. People who know one or both of us don't always absorb hearing "fiance" once or twice in passing. It's easy to forget if someone mentions "Oh, so and so got engaged" or even if that person says "Yea, I got engaged last week/month/year." It's HUGE to us...but people who don't necessarily know either of you that well probably don't always file the info away to pull out later whenever they might happen to see you. I think everyone gets it. Hell, it's been a year since we got engaged and even my FH will catch himself sometimes calling me his girlfriend like if he has to call somewhere about something for us. lol It's just an honest mistake that comes out of spending years with someone as boyfriend/girlfriend. As time goes by..people will remember. Especially when fiance turns into WIFE. Believe me, they'll file that one away for future reference. lol

I'd just tell her exactly what you posted to us here. That you felt the division between the two of you and have been hoping that her being your MOH would bring you closer together because you miss her friendship. Focus on that, vs. the fact that she's been a royal bitch and pain in the ass this past five years. lol Sounds funny, but I'm sure you get what I mean. As the old folks say, you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. Since this IS such a..sensitive situation and you don't want to upset the family and your brother in particular, approach her from the stand point of trying to get close and see how she reacts. If she gets touchy and doesn't meet you halfway, I'd probably just end up telling her. You may not end up having a BM who can do all the bridal stuff with you, but maybe it will bring things to a head and you'll either be able to spend the next six months not having to fake it or having the air cleared.

Excerpt from an interview with Jeanne Cooper (Katherine)..thought it was an interesting spoiler. "Katherine will be involved with a character coming back to Genoa City who has not been on the show. And, through that character all hell will break loose; business wise, relationship wise… you name it, it will happen. It will affect everybody, and it’s not John Abbott! It’s a real human being. (She laughs) It will shock the shoes off of you on how the person comes back, and why!" Could the character be P4? Will he try to reclaim the Chancellor name/fortune? The link to the entire interview: http://michaelfairmansoaps.com/artic..._article_id=90 And, for the week of 5/18 Devon is in for a shock. Jana becomes suspicious of Daniel. Olivia and Victor fear for Ashley's sanity

Same here..no traditional/formal reception either. We'll be having a cocktail hour with some finger foods and the cake cutting..then peeps are free to go back to enjoying their trips.