Quote: Originally Posted by kitcatkit Maybe a bit off topic but how did you girls ask your bridesmaid. Also I have read that etiquette for DW is that you should pay for their trip are you doing that? There are all sorts of way you can ask. I just asked mine over the phone right after I got engaged cause I was so excited. They have very cute cards that ask people to. Oh, there was a thread yesterday (I think) that showed very cute ask cards...they were a DIY.
As for etiquette, I've read in quite a few books that it really is up to and your budget. The Knot destination wedding book says the bride and groom should be for lodging onlly.
I however was in a destination wedding a few years ago and I paid for my whole trip including the dress.
It really depends on you.