Ok, background...
I have a core group of friends from sorority. There is seven of us including me, we call each other the GNI girls. All of them are married or have been married, but myself and one other girl. We have monthly get togethers that we call GNI (girls night in). We have had them for over 5 years, they are every month at one of the girl's house and we alternate every month.
The last two GNI's I felt like no one cared about my wedding. Everytime I brought something up certain girls didn't seem excited. Really it's only two girls. One I will call L she just had a baby a year ago and is caught up in being a mom. I totally understand this too. I had L try on the bridesmaid dress and she is quite ample in the breast region. So it didn't look very good on her and I didn't know what to do. She was like, oh well. I felt like she didn't care.
Well the holidays went by and I never hear from L, I always have to contact her. When I bring up the wedding she has no interest, so I stopped talking about it to her. I brought up to the GNI girls that I was going dress shopping and no one said anything, so I didn't bring it up again. BTW - my MOH is in the GNI group, but is super excited about the wedding and calls, emails me all the time.
So I called L today to discuss the dress issue. She was very weird about it and just so uncaring. When I told her I got my dress yesterday, I could tell that she was upset that I didn't invite her, but I just said I didn't know you wanted to go.
After our phone call I was very upset and started to cry to a coworker. I just felt like L didn't care at all about my wedding or being in the wedding.
After lunch L called me and said she wanted to talk about the wedding and her participation. She said the reason why she has been acting lowkey is she is planning on getting pregnant again and didn't want to tell me cause it might stress me out. She wasn't sure if I wanted her to be in the wedding pregnant. I was so sad that she didn't tell me all of this earlier and that she spoke to the other girls about it.
We worked everything out, basically if she gets pregnant we will find a dress that will work for her. I told her not to worry about it. I was honored that her and her husband are waiting until April to try, so they will be able to attend. It just hurts that for the last few months, my best friends have kept something from me. She apologized profusely and said she is super excited about the wedding, but she didn't know how to approach me. Which makes me so sad that one of my closest friends can't talk to me.
Thanks for letting me vent.