I am high school teacher and I always say to them: there are no stupid questions... just stupied answers in some cases! In you case, you have very important questions that all future brides ask themselves when they start to plan their wedding.
Lets face it, we are planning a wedding that will be miles and miles from where we live ! Who knows what's out there ? Whe can't always afford to go to a few resorts before reserving the one for our wedding...
That is why this forum is so great ! People share their thoughts + experiences and those help alot!
Once you decide on the hotel you want, you can read about the reviews and even see some pictures of weddings and those help ! Also, ask the hotel which photographer they use. Most of the time, they don't always do pictures at that hotel... and most of them have an internet site so you can see their work (not just weddings).
Another advice, don't be so picky about the flowers... once you're there, what you want might not be available unless you pick commun flowers of the area ! Usually, once you are there, the WC will sit with you ask you what you would like (depending on what they can offer you).
Enjoy your planning !
Annie