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I am SOOOOO happy for you. i remember you saying how worried you were about getting pregnant. Wow! That is so wonderful.

Quote: Originally Posted by AnnR I do really like it - but I wouldn't worry too much about finding a dress to be able to wear again. People always say that - but I have yet to see/have a BM dress that I'd ever wear again, and I"ve been in/to many weddings! lol But getting a non-tradtional dress definitely helps that if it's really a concern of yours. In all of my 9 weddings I've been a BM in everyone says that they picked a dress we could wear again & it never is. We started having a prom themed party just to have a reason to wear BM dresses again. I have a BM dress on the way that I could actually see wearing again. I hope I love it as much as I love the picture. If not, I'll throw it in the BM dress pile I have. I think its better to focus on something that looks good, isn't overpriced & makes the girls feel pretty more than something they could use again. I do like the blue dress. I think it's a little pricey for being so casual, but then I shop at target for my clothes.

Quote: Originally Posted by carly I had a similar situation (only in the part where some important people to me can't go to the acutal wedding), we solved it by having a bridal party, and then I have 4 honorary bridesmaids. These 4 girls I have known for between 15-20 years, and it didn't seem right to disinclude them just cuz they couldn't make Jamaica work. They are participating in the shower and everything and they will wear a different BM dress from my regular BM's at the AHR and will partake in the formal pictures and everything. You could do something similar to that. Since they are throwing tyou a shower, ask them to be your honorary bm, just as you would to be your bm. I think that is a sweet gesture that would ring true to your friendship. http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t16614 Then you can superimpose their heads onto a bridesmaids body.

Quote: Originally Posted by TammyB Thanks Jess.. :-) I think most if not all my cards have been open for awhile now. So when does too much credit effect your score? So say I have 50k in open credit but I make say 60k a year, wouldn't that be bad for your credit report? I think the difference is that leaving them open helps your FICO score. But, some banks might look at it & say you have too much available credit. You are still better off with a higher fico.

Quote: Originally Posted by mauraw rach, are you even doing a planning thread before you go? i feel like youve been so chill that i dont even really know what you're doing! i cant believe you do the deed in 2 weeks! I have a theory that rachel isn't a bride getting married in 2 weeks. She is just someone that wanted to be on the BDW forum all day because it's so much fun so she faked a fiance and a wedding. That isn't really her in the pictures. Has anyone met her? Does anyone have any evidence that she is who she says she is? She could be a dude for all we know. Too chill for a bride with 2 weeks to go.

i might be able to help you if you want to DIY. I am just starting to learn how to do stuff like those invites. i'll pm you.

I don't think it matters who throws it. I have thrown a bachellorette party when i wasn't MOH, & I didn't do it before when i was. I think it just depends on circumstance. If I did have BMs (I have honarary BMs) they would not be the ones throwing my bachelorette party. It's hosted by 3 other girls I'm close to that like to throw parties. I think it's nice to spread the jobs/ fun stuff around. These girls asked if I'd like them to do it & I was excited. So I don't think traditional roles really matter. Just do what works for your group. the time I threw the bach party, it was because the MOH was her sister & all the rest of the BMs were friends. Her sister didn't really know us all so it made more sense for me to throw the bach party. She hosted the shower. I imagine it was good for her. She had so many other wedding responsibilities that it was probably a relief to not have to mess with the party. It was great for me because it was all I was planning so I got really creative with it. The other BMs pitched by bringing alcohol & snacks. it was so easy & we had a great time.

I love your pictures, you dress, necklace.. everything. You hair is how I planned to do mine. We may have seen the same inspiration pic. It's all over this place. So beautiful, thanks for posting!

Quote: Originally Posted by Aimless911 Just want to vouch for the durability of writing on these types of cups...When I was in college 10+ years ago (ouch!) my roommates used to decorate/personalize these cups as our drinking cups (I always had soda! hehehe), well, believe it or not, through many different moves, I still have my special 21st birthday cup from them. A little of the paint has come off a tad but 90% of it is still there! So maybe the guests will be able to bring them back on your 10th anniversary celebration too! hehehe That would be funny. I just wanted them to last the weekend, but now I want to see them 50 years from now full of champagne toasting to our anniversary

Quote: Originally Posted by verrow23 How are you paying the photographer? Wire transfer? Paypal? My photog wants me to deposit the money into his account. To be perfectly honest, I'm still trying to find the best way to do that. Someone else put it right in their account. I can't remember who, but maybe they will chime in. If they are reputable it's probably not a problem. Paypal takes a chunk of the money, which is why he probably wants it right in his account.

Quote: Originally Posted by Saraha OK just as a huge heads up this a STUPID STUPID question. But what exactly are the cups for (obviouly for their yummy drinks) but are they just going to ask the bartender to fill these up instead of regular glasses. I have seen a bunch of water bottles and stuff to and just wondering what the deal was behind it. I love the idea and would love to do them.... just dont know the method behind the madness! AIs tend to have small cups. Kind of like when all you can eat buffets have small plates. They think it will make you drink less. So if you give your guests a big cup they can make less trips to the bar. It's also fun for them to all look like a team.

dafont.com they are wingdings lots of great palmtrees

I have a bunch of smooth tanks from target. I think they are mossimo. They might be $6-$7. Often they have some colors on sale on a different rack. Sometimes ac moore & other craft places have cheap shirts. I get tshirts there for $2.50 when there is a sale (which is pretty often). I haven't looked for tank tops, but they might have them.

Quote: Originally Posted by timelsel Yep, I'm the mom that helps with the wedding stuff AND the tax stuff. Just marking things off my to-do list.........! I actually enjoy doing my taxes, but I didn't have 1 form when I started. So now it's sitting incomplete on my work computer waiting for me to do one little thing. I keep forgetting or I get too busy photoshopping. There are sticky notes all over that say "taxes" but they keep getting burried by other sticky notes. I'm worried I'll forget this year & end up at the postoffice at midnight.

Quote: Originally Posted by Mandy I would understand the shame were you trying to steal 50 points from tons of people, but donating the points, for whatever reason, can't be that bad. I mean how many people do you know that only donate to charity because it makes them feel good or helps them out with taxes? Just think of the karma as a tax refund! (Sorry, I guess I'm in tax mode today!) I'm going to come to you wiith al my guilt so you can explain it away for me Geez I need to finish my taxes. I've been so busy photoshopping.

I agree with all the advice so far. It really does depend on so many things. What's his website? I love looking at photographer's website. Oh, wait maybe that's not a good idea because then he'll find the forum once you post it & read this thread. PM me the website if you don't mind I'm a photo whore.

Quote: Originally Posted by Mandy I think this should go in the confessions thread! Really, I felt bad. The PMs would say "thanks you are so nice I really appreciate it" and I was so ashamed I had just done it as a test. Well, I did pick noobs because they need 50 points the most so I guess I was a little thoughtful.

Quote: Originally Posted by Yari Let's say you try to steal 200 points. You have to have 200 points active (not banked) and then if you are successful you get 200 points, but if you are unsuccessful the 200 points are taken away. Also know that it takes away Karma points too! I use to have three, now I have zero...boo hoo. I got my karma back pretty fast. But I lost 3 too. Not sure why I was able to get it back so quick. I donated 50 points to a ton of newbies. I thought maybe that would give me good karrma. Then I started getting these really nice thank you notes I felt a little bad that I had done it just to see if I could get back my karma.

It has to be paid in pesos (just incase you didn't know). There is a place that converts, but it isn't always open. I hope prices haven't doubled. I'm taking all my guests to Coba.

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t16548

Quote: Originally Posted by StephanieMN Ours is pretty similar. I had read somewhere to put your contact information for anyone who needs it but I would suggest NOT doing that! I actually asked my MOH if I could give people her cell phone number and she can deal with that crap. I just put a little note giving her number and telling people she would be happy to help out. This will hopefully stop people, who have YOUR number, from calling you. I agree. Don't give people your number. In the last wedding I was MOH in, everyone kept calling the bride. I finally just took her phone & answered it. They called to tell her a groomsman's suit didn't fit. What is she going to do? Why does she need to know that the day of her wedding? I'll find my welcome letter & post it...

Quote: Originally Posted by lauren c. is your song too fast? dh is NOT a dancer, and we were going to take lessons but he was so uptight about it that i decided not to push it. we actually changed our song from a quicker, more upbeat song to a much more mellow, sway-back-and-forth-to-look-like-dancing song. he wasn't stressed about the dance, and was able to relax, drink a bit and dance like a fool for the rest of the night. That's what I call the 8th grade rock. Arms around each other & rock back & forth. I love to 2-step being from texas. Mike doesn't. I really miss it, but it's just not his thing. I 2-stepped for the first time in years at a wedding with the grooms man I was paired up with. I had totally forgotten how because it had been so long, but it was so much fun once I got the hang of it agian. Mike & I found a compromise. He started taking swing lessons with me last year. Swing is more his style. I only wanted to do it if he was interested & would have fun with it. We had a blast learning. We just need to get out there & do it more often. Luckily some other friends are taking lessons so we'll have people to go dancing with.

Quote: Originally Posted by md_ocr no, I don't want to skip it.......it's important to me and I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable, but I really don't want to not have a "first dance". And as far as my guests or friends, half of them haven't even rsvp'd yet, and I'm not having a bridal party, so no BM or MOH.....and plus, there is no one else that I'd rather dance with other than my FI. I didn't mean skip having a first dance. I meant skip having it be a big production. If he is really uncomfortable with it you don't want to make him miserable on his wedding day. I've talked to many grooms who were so stressed about the first dance. I would hate to have something on my wedding day I was dreading doing. I like the seranade idea. Post some cool videos if you find them.

I tried to rep you but it said I had to spread it around first. Ha! You can tell I appreciate your help then

Thanks for the info! It have been so helpful having you around with your insider info. What does arizona do differently? I was actually trying to figure this out yesterday.