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Quote: Originally Posted by jreule OK quick question. When you fill out the legal paperwork in the US, do you verbally have to say your vows?? I dont want to lose the emotion and special feeling by doing it in the US first?!?! But it would be nice to have it all taken care of!!! no vows. you may have to say something, but I've heard it's very official. I'll let you know after friday. We started off keeping it a secret & then I stopped caring who knew. It feels much better to just talk about it. When people would ask about the legalities of the wedding I'd skirt around the topic. I finally just started to say we are taking care of the paperwork before we go. I thought we'd get some negative responses but it's all been positive. now I wonder why I was ever worried about it in the first place. We are doing it before. I want to be full on married after our ceremony. Also, we have to show the certificate to do the symbolic ceremony which saves us $1,000. Honestly I can't imagine anything could take away from how excited I am about our wedding day & how special I feel like it will be.

Quote: Originally Posted by amyrak "Hey you like what you see?? howza bout you, me, a glass of milk and some catnip and I'll have you purring like crazy..." I vote for no more wedding talk- only silly pictures & captions from now on.

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t18870 http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t9428

Quote: Originally Posted by Jen5372 Thanks for all the advice. I really needed someone who understands second weddings and dest. weddings! It seems like all people think is were eloping with ELVIS! LOL On with the planning............ any more advice or chit chat-please fell free elvis is $200! Check out some of the pictures from vegas wedding on the forum. they are so cool!

if you want thanksgiving 08 start contacting places ASAP. that is a peak time. good luck!

Quote: Originally Posted by Kat81 That is exactly how Fi and I run manage our money. It works great. We also have our own credit cards that get paid out of our individual accounts. That way there are no questions about money and what goes where. Good plan! so you merged before the wedding? we've been doing a roommates type split everything deal. But, over time we've stop keeping track so it's all merging anyway. I really like the idea of fun money because we have opposite interest in what to spend our money on. I don't want to answer to him & I don't want to feel like I'm judging his choices.

Cheers to ex-husbands and life insurance. Pushing the car into the river may now commence. I love it Jessica! Great captions

Quote: Originally Posted by LC_Rachel haha. "18 secs until Morgan slaps Mike." ha ha! He has a way of telling me to clean up super cute though.

Quote: Originally Posted by StephanieMN Our left over wedding stuff sat in our basement for a month! I told Chris I wasn't cleaning it up because I did all the work to get it together. I just found some of it stuffed in our storage area. I bet it will be nice to get all that stuff put away. we have a 1 bedroom apartment so its in the dinning area. very messy. I'll clean it though. I told him I got 1 year to take over the dinning area & then I'd clean it up. We like to eat on the floor anyway.

Merging money has come up several times today. Mike & I outlined our plans last weekend so I thought I'd share. I think it's important to have a plan, but it the plan would vary by couple. This is what we think will work for us. It can always be redone as things change. I just don't like money tension so I think a good plan will help. I drew up a chart (yeah, big dork) & we talked about it. We are still going over details more to make sure we are both happy with the arrangement. One thing we decided on was to be equal even if one of us is making more money. Right now he makes more, but we still get equal amounts of fun money. That way in the future if one of us sacrifices high pay for the other's career or raising the kids we are still even. Here is the plan: 1. We are opening a joint checking & credit card. The credit card will be paid from our joint checking. Things that come out of joint checking rent bills our retirement savings taxes insurance tuition (if he goes for another degree- my tuition is waved) gas groceries eating out together trips & entertainment together presents for family car payments if we have them 2. A set amount of money will draft out of the joint account to our personal account each month. This is fun money that we can do whatever we want with no questions asked. This ammount will change based on our incomes, savings goals, number of kids, etc. But, the ammounts will be equal. What comes out of fun money clothes personal trips eating out or movies seperately toys presents for each other presents for individual friends 3. As money accumulates in the joint checking I'll move it to a type of savings. Either a high interest account (once those exist again), a mutual fund, CD or another type of investment. This is a big benefit to this system. I enjoy managing my money & trying to get a good return. Mike doesn't. So my money has been making more money than his. Once I start managing our money together we'll get more interest. Also, it allows me to diversify investments as a couple. I will keep him informed of what I'm doing & if he takes an interest in investing he can take over part or work with me. I don't want him in the dark about our finances, but I am happy to be the manager because it's something I'm interested in. 4. What goes in to joint account pay checks tax returns gifts of money to both of us 5. what goes in seperate account Money earned from side jobs (he builds computers & I do design stuff). We'd both put that money back in to our hobbies. So that is the plan. We opened our joint checking to start putting wedding checks in. It's excited to be working as a couple on our finances. I'll let y'all know how it goes. I think it will be less paperwork now. I get tired of keeping track of everything so we can split it up.

He is counting down the days until I can clean all the wedding junk out of the dinning area. I should make him a ticker. He just walked up & said "only 18 more days" all sweet. Then I told him our wedding is sooner than that & he let me know what he was counting down to.

I think we might need some censor bars on those for work friendly viewing. Do you know those people?

everything looks perfect, including your planning thread!

Quote: Originally Posted by Mandy Cute, Morgan. I like them. Now don't forget to supplement them with something tacky from Mexico - maybe some placemats? Or coasters? Don't forget to post pics! Wow, you leave so soon!! i need both placemats & coasters! Woo Hoo drunk shopping.

Follow these steps if you want to host your siggy in photobucket: When people have issues they are usually trying to put the code in the wrong spot. Those steps show how to get a siggy. You'd paste a ticker code in the same spot.

I knew all about the RSVP drama from friends wedding so I specifically planned my wedding with no RSVPs needed. People either booked or they didn't.

it's mtv real life. there is a thread on it. maybe a mod will come around & merge these.

Quote: Originally Posted by Opice34 And screw MTV for cutting out people my age! What's wrong with a 30 year old getting married in Mexico! Take it as a compliment that mtv doesn't want you. This is the network that made spencer & heidi "stars." Besides you don't appear a day over 21

I wouldn't want mtv at my wedding. I will watch it though.

I agree. I don't really like to be sent important stuff through facebook. I would prefer an email to a phonecall though. I don't check my voicemail as much as my email.

I wish uptight people would just pull the cob out of the ass and let loose a little.

Quote: Originally Posted by gkashmira I agree with Morgan here. I think etiquette says that the bride/groom should not put their registry info in with the invite. Maybe you could do this AND another place and put both on your website. that way people who would rather get you your pics can do that and people who would rather get you something else can have that option as well. I couldn't vote 'cause I'm sort of in the middle. Plus I refuse to call you a hog! She was talking about the shower invites to technically it's fine, but I think if you are on the fence about if it's OK, the website is the safest place. I think nicely worded & with your non-traditional group you can pull it off. I wish things didn't have to be so tricky, but you'd hate to offend.

Quote: Originally Posted by AnnR I actually thought about this - it does seem like some story you'd see on the local news, right? One of those "stories of interest" type of things. But 1) I just don't know who I'd contact, and 2) I have very little time during the day to be on the phone. Every 3 hours I get about an hour or two break, and that's usually spent eating or taking care of admin stuff. Like right now, I am sitting in the hospital cafeteria! If someone wants to take that on and try to contact media - I'm all for it! I am soooo not good at asking for help (this is probably reason #3 why I haven't done this yet). I can ask for ideas, and encouragement, but not for people to actually do things for me. I've been a lot better throughout this whole ordeal, I've had to be. And I try to put myself in others' shoes - if any of you, or a friend of mine was in this situation, I'd totally WANT to help. So that's what I am trying to remember. Ok, I'm babbling, and need some lunch ... Paul and I have started making our own today to save more $$ and we're a little sick of the hospital food. Yay for PB&J! I know we'd love to find a newscrew that would help you out. People love to help babies & it's the story a news team would love to cover. And you are right- we do want to help so ask away. Even if it's something specific like "will someone call these 5 RV places & get quotes." There is bound to be someone on the forum with some time to kill at that time who would love to help you out. BDW is here for whatever you need. You know we love to google stuff. What town are you in? That way people can start looking up the local stations.

Quote: Originally Posted by Alyssa This is a good question - Mark & Gwyne from the forum are our photogs and i was going to sit them at a table with our guests - they are coming for the whole trip! do you think they want their own table? i'd ask them. since they will be there the whole trip they might just be like part of the gang. *kristie, if you are reading this you can pick whatever you want to do for dinner except for snap pictures of me with food in my teeth.

ok mine are not as thick as my buckingham palace postcard, but thicker than a photo. They look as thick as the postcard, but are not a sturdy.