I missed this thread too! Yikes, hope you guys are both doing better.. I can't stand it when people don't take responsibility for their actions... grrrr!! Stupid driver.
Welcome to the forum.. I'm having the same problems with my FI's mom and dad. All they do is complain about travelling and money... ugh. Eventually they will warm up to the idea.. I hope!
I know my two best friends are coming to Maui (they wouldn't miss it for the world) so it was easy to just confirm with them about being MOH and BM. I didn't really think to do something more official with a card or anything like that..