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Our vacation pay and sick pay are all rolled up in one. We also have to use those hours for holiday's off since we are open 365 days a year. I earn about 32 days a year. It goes quick when you want to take holidays off plus a normal vacation. Plus we have to use those hours for FMLA purposes as well.

I think your guests will regret staying only 3 nights. We had a few who did that and they were so sad they didn't splurge more. But you can't help that.

It will last a LONG time so stop feeling guilty. Granted you don't drop it like I have done. I lost my powder and bronzer during the trip- I dropped both and I was really pissed that it busted all up and it was barely used!

I like Harty's suggestion and Lisa provided a good alternative thought. They are much more helpful than I am. I didn't even invite my "real" father.

Crap- I've already posted some of my good material. I'm going to have to go searching for some funny forgotten pics.

Wow- so I have never heard of the printer you used and I'm somewhat still confused, but that's not surprising. I think your invites are great- I can't tell you did them hurriedly. I love the blue leaves and the sparkly pocket folds. Very pretty- great job.

Yah, I think the added perks will expire- not the actual site. BTW- I upgraded. I don't remember it being $50 though. I paid $89 and I didn't think it worth the money. People still called me about stuff all the time- or would call and ask what the websites domain was. At that point, it was easier just to answer the questions.

Wow. I love that email system! Good luck! I agree- getting married here might help so you can shorten your stay- if need be. Hopefully you don't need to!

I feel for him- I really do. My DH only had his mom and dad at our wedding and for the longest time, we even thought they weren't coming. It was pretty much all my family and he kept getting upset saying that no one would sit on his side of the aisle. I told him not to be silly because people wouldn't have the option to sit on sides. We only had enough chairs for those that were there. We had a VERY long discussion about the disappointment though. I didn't want him to feel that he had to go through with a DW if he really didn't want to. I think in the end he felt ok because I have a HUGE family and only my immediate family (mom, dad and sis) came along with my grandparents, one aunt and 2 cousins. This is 8 people out of 60. It's not like I had a huge turnout either.

Scary! I had a few aunts battle breast cancer- they just had lumps removed and I was younger so I don't know a lot of the details. I feel for your friend though. I would be freaking out. I hope it's nothing too serious.

Ok I think you should let bygones be bygones. I really know it sucks but you will KILL yourself worrying over this stuff. My aunt booked a trip to Cabo for the week before my wedding and told me they had to because they couldn't use vacation time for the week of my wedding. Total BS since she and I work for the same company, she blamed it on her husband. BUT he works for the same company as a few other of my family members and they came even though the time is "blacked out" according to my aunt. My family is pretty tight too so I was really disappointed. At some point, you just have to throw your hands up and just worry about who's coming- not who's not. It will help you keep your sanity.

Alyssa- I agree. I could read the panic between the lines.

I'm sorry but she is acting like the flower girl is some service she can charge for. WTH- I mean I know you want her in the wedding but geez- asking someone to pay for the trip is a little far fetched. Crazy crazy people.

Oh I am so sorry to hear that. I don't want to give false hope, but I have heard of so many stories where doctors are wrong in predicting things like this. I wish all of you peace- especially your grandma. I'm so so sorry you have to deal with this right now.

Morgan is it $5 each glass? Those are really cute though. All my drinking glasses have been breaking. I have some on my registry but we are having our AHR in like August- I know that's a long time AFTER we got married, but whatever. Life happens. My point is- I want new glasses but I don't want to buy them if I can get someone else too. LOL

They would have to be inconsiderate assholes to make you cancel your wedding. You are asking for time without pay- I don't think that's setting a big precedent. Stay calm- I'm sure it will get worked out. Some people are such B&W turds. Hopefully you can just go above the supervisor's head.

Can't you just contact the WC yourself?

Cute stuff Alyssa. I don't know what Bok Choy is so I can't get too excited. I need to get out more....lol You girls will have so much fun getting ready together!

Oh and I wanted to add, I didn't want to be all bridezilla like either so I went with the flow. However, I don't think there is anything wrong with having a vision how you would like things to look. You shouldn't feel bad about it.

They don't have to be dressed exactly the same if they are both wearing a tan suit. They can get it in different materials and wear different shirts underneath or different ties. I also agree that it will look odd for your dad to be wearing a tux and your groom in a tan suit. Think of how the family pictures will turn out? I know that's not the most important thing, but I'm sure you want some really beautiful pics of the family and I think your dad would stick out like a sore thumb. How to break it to him though- that's a tough one. I'm not good in these situations because I don't really have a soft way with words. I hope others will give you some advice in this area.

I can only think of Joey's agent on Friends. Wasn't her name Stella? I just hear some old woman with a raspy voice saying "Stella." I'm weird though. I think her baby will be super cute and totally girly dressed.

Well I'm glad we have helped you sort through some stuff mentality. As for all those comments about what you can and can't do because it's your 2nd marriage- oh boy I feel a rant. Seriously- they need to mind their own business and not be so judgemental. If you want to wear virgin white, blue, red or whatever color we can think of that is your business. If they don't want to buy you a gift cause it's your 2nd marriage, that's a decision their cheap asses can make. Keep your head up and dont let their shit talk get to you. You have NOTHING to be ashamed of or feel sorry for.

I have a feeling more states will follow. Oregon has been discussing this one for awhile now.

I wouldn't live by tripadvisor. In my experience, people are just a tad crazy. I only listen to the reviews that thoughtfully list the good with the bad. If they go crazy one way or the other, they probably are too easy to please or too hard to please. Our resort had TERRIBLE reviews before we left. People complained right and left of bed bugs and food poisoning. I didn't have encounters with either- not that I know what a bed bug looks like but I'm sure if there were some I would have known. And I also thought the food was good the two weeks we were there. Try not to panic. Plus all Dreams resorts are usually top notch.

Happy birthday Jaime. I hope you enjoy the week long festivities during Jaimepalooza.