I don't think anyone was trying to offend you, they were trying to help you. This forum is full of brides that all have their own opinions, and we definitely encourage that. But when you label things negatively, as you did, it puts a bad taste in peoples mouths. They were just trying to ask you to be more careful with your wording if you wanted to get help, so let's try to keep it nice. I understand your need for a high quality cake, but to most people it's just not that important. So perhaps they weren't helpful b/c most people just use the resort cake. (I did too and honestly, I can barely remember what it looked like it meant so little to us.) Since it means so much to you, I would speak to your WC at the resort and see if they can direct you to someone that can make something more along the lines that you want. Also, perhaps the resort could customize the cake to what you want.
Oh and to be clear, your original post sad that the cakes were sad and cheesy, not anything about the "baking skills". So by acting like you were attacked for stating an opinion on the baking skills is just not true since that wasn't what was in the original post.
I hope you find what you are looking for though! I would def start with the WC.