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Jac -so funny, I bet peeps can totally tell we are friends. I been using the schm- in front of words this week. It made ma laugh out loud! Quote: Originally Posted by QuelMoffett church smurch It IS so wierd how so many of us are in the same boat! I guess that happens alot when you have a DW since the church doesn't recognize a marriage unless it happens in their "house". The price we pay for a beach wedding! Quote: Originally Posted by Jentwo Funny how so many of us are in the same boat! I too was just told by my fiance that it is important for my fiance to get married in the church. I'm not Catholic but he is...it's not definite but I think we will continue with planning our legal DW in Playa Del Carmen and then plan a separate ceremony in the church he grew up in when we get back (we're not having an AHR). I'm not sure how it works to have a legal wedding first out of the country and then to try and have one in the states. He's agreed to do the homework and talk with his chuch about next steps. I'm pretty sure we'll have to do some kind of pre-cana (perhaps in Chicago where we live!). Lizz - I will def let you know. The pre-cana peeps I called never called me back yet, but I am going to find out the deal and sign up, so that perhaps we can have our marriage blessed before out AHR. Quote: Originally Posted by Lizz When you find out more, let us know. I'm definitely going to have to get our marriage blessed when we get back from Jamaica. Both of our moms really want us to; and I guess I need to now if I want to be a godmother in the future! Thank you so much, Martha! I am still confused on what exactly happens, but you don't need to bother your friend with my questions since I should be hearing back from the pre-cana people shortly and I have lots of questions for them! I will post all when I find out... Quote: Originally Posted by Just Martha Okay Gina called me earlier! The blessing of their marriage was private with just their parents and a few friends that happened to be in town (it was Easter weekend) and it was on a Sunday after Mass. I hope that answers your question? Let me know if ya want me to ask her something else! Mo, honestly, Matt does just about whatever I want, when I want, so I try to make things that are important to him, important to me also. I don't know if things like this vary by church, but I'll check back in when I know more. Quote: Originally Posted by MoWife Carly, i'm glad you got everything worked out. it is so nice that you were willing to look into making this so special. I also would like to one day be a godparent and I am raising my daughter Catholic and she goes to catholic school so I think i should set a good example and get our marriage blessed. Yari - that really stinks! Feel free to vent away! There are lots of rules I thnk the church needs to update and this is one of them! As long as you begin a marriage with full intentions of 100% commitment, how can they hold it against people that it didn't work out? Sometimes people love each other and cna't be together, people change, people meet other people. There are millions of reasons why a marriage might not work and each one has NOTHING to do with whatever relationship that person enters into later. I am sorry that your are in this particular situation, cuz it really does stink. Quote: Originally Posted by yari2566 Caught this post a little late.. I am so sad and angry about this. I am Catholic and so is my FI, since he was married in the church for his first marriage we can not have a "valid" marriage. Ugh! I am being punish for his mistake, but according to that guy it is I who decided to enter in this type of relationship. I mean seriously are we in the stone ages. I am a good person, love God and been part of the Catholic community all of my life. Yes, I don't practice everything 100%, but I still believe. I wish they would change their old ways. Sorry for rambling, guess I just needed to vent.

Yummm, that sounds delish. I was too busy having a sleepover party with my niece last night to have a drink, but I can certainly try this tonight!

1love, scroll up or down to post #41 in this thread. You will see an example of a template there...

I picked #1 as well...

Trish, they look awesome!! Hibiscus is my theme as well... So, does your work always have great prices for paper, or is it just an employee discount. I haven't been able to find reasonably priced paper which is why I haven't started making mine yet (oh and the fact that i am terrified of messing them up.)

I am so sorry you are dealing with all this, Mo. Sometimes life just isn't fair when so many things hit you as once. My thoughts go out to you and your Mommom, and apparently everyone in your life right now!

Shelley, right now they are out of turquoise :-(

No problems there! Hahahahaa. But honestly though, I have no idea! I can't see why they wouldn't bless it. I think we just have to do pre-cana and then it can be blessed. I am waiting for a call from the church to find out more.

Yeah, if they aren't in stock when we are ready to order, I am going to wait and order on my own, cuz I def want all three colors!

CRAP! Two of my three colors are out of stock (orange and turquoise).

Lizz - the price previously was listed as... "I just read thru all 7 pages of the thread Ann gave and the price was $2.75, but it was only for a lump order. They are listed at $3.50 on the website. I only need 24, but perhaps over the next few months, we can get a large enough order together to get the discounted rate."

Something like $3 each if we can get the discounted rate bypurchasing 200 or 300. fashionUnic.com

Heidi - damn I want to read these articles, but I have so much work to do and only snippets to review threads occasionally!

Name - Wedding Date - Number and Color coreyphil 3/8/2008 15 total (5 each - brown, light yellow, light green) carlymcmullen - 05/17/2008 - 24 total 8 turquoise 8 orange 8 fuschia

Oh jeez. I forgot about these! The pressure of all the money being spent is getting ot me. I need a drink. Unfortunately, I am having a sleepover with my niece tonight, so no drinks! I don't think there is anything you need to do. I guess we just need to finalize our lists. I think I am not going to need the original amount of 24, but I am going to stick to it and use the extras at the AHR in case the AC is cold or something....

Yay - update - Matt doesn't want the church ceremony. He said we would just have to attend pre-cana and then they would bless the marriage or something like that. So I am glad that I don't have to plan a 3rd thing!

Drea - WOW! That guy made me mad too!!! "It is you who entered into an invalid marital situation, in disobedience to the Church. The Church is willing to make it right for you. "

If you wouldn't mind, that'd be great! I put a call into the church that we just registered at, but it is an individual's home, so I didn't get thru to anyone...

When he brought it up, I was so thrown that I just said ok without asking any questions, so I am not sure what specificially he wants. I wanted to gather information before I went back to him so I knew how I felt about it. Like if it doesn't cost much more to do the church part and that is what he wants, then that is fine. But if I found out that it was a HUGE amount, I would know that we really can't do that. So just trying to gather information really. If we were to do a small church blessing, I don't even really know that that means! If it were just us and our parents, that'd be nice, but how does that work? Is it a mass? A private meeting with the priest? I really have no idea.

Martha - I think that is fine. Once you and Jay are married, you would get your marriage blessed and then whenever your friend had her baby, you two would already be good to go for the god-parents. At least that is what I got out of my convo with him, but I didn't read any paperwork or anything...

that's great, totally copied it into excel to make a list. thanks!

Yeah, I had no clue either. Seems kinda silly to me, but I didn't make the rules!

I agree with the last few comments as well. If your cousin is considered your "friend", then by all means, invite her! Sometimes family overlaps into the friend category and that is great and she should be able to enjoy your day with you!

The teeny tiny box makes it hard to read what you wrote and check for errors! And my edit button isn't working. Oh wellllllll

Well without getting too much into it, I was raised Catholic and I believe is alot of the stuff, but I don't necessarily like the church. I tend to think they are more hypocritical then accepting and loving. He is a little more into it and I told him if it's important to him, then we can live that way, as long as he knows its his responsibility. I would be doing this just for his sake, if I did it, but he is doing Jamaica cuz it's what I wanted, so I wouldn't mind doing this for him if it is what he wants. And we already DO have all that other stuff planned, so I wonder how hard it would be to add on a ceremony.... Kinda babbling here, but he did jsut spring this on me!