Congrats! I always say that if you can think it, it can be done, so what you are explaining sounds totally doable to me. However, having said that, I have no idea how you would go about it! My first thought would be to either hire a DW TA that might be able to assist you in finding the right places, but I think you might even benefit more from a wedding coordinator. Even the WC at your resort might be able to assist you, b/c you are getting married off resort, but having the reception on it. I think what you've described sounds beautiful and I kinda want to go to your reception with the BBQ and live reggae band!