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At our AI resort I just talked with the wc and she arranged a farewell dinner for all of our guests. We just had her set up tables together in a alcolve, away from the other guests, in the main eating area, it worked out great we all had dinner together and then we tipped our waiters really well. For our welcome reception we met in the lobby bar, and had arranged for some hor douvers which was a minimal extra charge, but at least the drinks were included. We did this early afternoon when the bar was not busy.

oooh I think bright red peep toe, sky high pumps, my favourite!

I had a friend recommend "Wedding bells" but never really posted because I think the girls there are really mean so I just looked at a few ideas, but for the most part I found everything I needed here. I still find everything I need here I forgot to mention I believe this is a Canadian forum

Quote: Originally Posted by starchild Okay don't be mad but I'm taking Everton's side...kind of. Men have egos just like the sky is blue, that's hard to get around. I don't know all the details but just from what you've shared I think he feels really really bad. He's been working his butt off, sick, and probably scared about his health and what is making him ill. Then on top of that another man, a friend at that, is going to come into his home and take care of his family business since Everton obviously can't add that to the plate right now. I bet he wants to do it, but can't, and it has to make him feel like a little bit of a failure, you know? I know his daughter should come first and he should just suck it up and let someone else give him the help that he needs, but maybe he wants to take care of his daughter himself...you know? I'm going through something similar with a friend who is dying and she will not let people do things for her because she is so stubborn and wants to believe she can do them herself when she has the time and health...it is so frustrating so I feel your pain. Can you just let him have this one for now? Or maybe set a time frame to appease everyone, like maybe a month, painting 15 minutes at a time? I just think Everton feels awful already (why do you think he is unusually upset?) and taking this from him won't help. Sorry if I offended and maybe I'm wrong, but men have feelings too and this isn't any easy time for him either...good luck ) Jamy first off I could never be upset with you, I love that you tell it like you see it, it's one of the reasons we get along so well. Yeah I never thought about the whole sick angle of this, I was just frustrated because I want my damn house finished already:) I would never have pushed the issue further then our little agrument, and my stand that I think he is being ridiculous, but other then that we have this lillte thing called respect that we live by, so the battle was his to win! Yeah, yeah men have feelings, they just come out in the most unusual of circumstances, I will never figure him out, and he will never figure me out, a match made in heaven, lol. Oh and it will take alot more then that to offend me Jamy, lifes too short to truly sweat the small stuff, hugs to you! Quote: Originally Posted by JessicaLovesBrian I was going to say something along the same line as Jamy had said. Perhaps the reason he feels so strongly about this is because of the recent circumstances. He's been sick... and men have these macho egos, maybe he precieves getting help from your friend as a sign of weakness on his part. I think maybe he may feel that as the man, he should take care of his family and his home. He should be the protector, provider, fixer-upper. Being sick may have made him even more vulnerable to the fact that he can't "do it all" right now. It's just a thought. I think I would just let it go. I know you said one of the rooms has a really tall ceiling or something. Is Bria's room with tall ceilings? Or is it a manageable height? Is there anyway maybe you and Bria, and even a friend of Bria's can just have a girlie painting party type of deal and paint her room?! Jessica, Let it go I did, just had to vent and state the ridiculousness of the whole thing to you guys. As for me and Bria painting I am a perfectionist (wish I wasn't but I am) when it comes to my house so kids with paint, ahhhh NO. I think Everton and I will just pull an all nighter tomorrow nite and call it a day Quote: Originally Posted by lambert13 Hey there Kelly. I gotta admit....as irrational as it sounds......I would probably be the same way. It's not as much about the friend doing the work as it is about Everton not doing it. Does that make sense? I would feel really weird about having a friend come over to do something that I had been meaning to do for a long time. I would kinda feel like a failure and that I let Karen down. So, yes its somewhat of a pride thing, but more that he wants to be the one that gets the job done for his family. Nice to here the mans perspective on it, so what makes total sense to you, most women here see as crazy, hmmmm interesting:) You do know Jason that women don't care who does the work, all they care about is that the works get done. I would never look at Everton as a failure, he works harder for our family then any man I know. We don't expect the men in our lives to be Super hero's, well except maybe sometimes, wink, wink! We love you for all you do, and don't really care about what you don't do:) and for the record I don't think letting Karen down is something you need to worry about So take the freakin help when it's offered already Quote: Originally Posted by Nrvsbride I think this makes perfect sense. You know as much as I say I would love a cleaning lady, I think in reality I would feel like a failure. I guess its a pride thing and maybe this sounds stupid but I like feeling like I can take care of my FI in traditional female roles. So I thought it was irrational but now Jason and Jamy made me see the light and I agree with them. LOL. Glenda, in reality I want a cleaning lady Yeah Jason and Jamy always makes us see the light , they are the wise one's, we bow to them for they are the chosen bdw guru's

Quote: Originally Posted by TammyB Yeah your totally right Kelly. I do "eventually" tell Cain how I'm feeling, but usually it's too late. Like I already commit to something and then regret it later, then I pretty much have to deal with it at that point because it's too late to turn back. The problem, though is this. Say we agree to take in an aggressive dog, but then I realize it's way too much for me to handle. Well at that point it's already too late because every foster home is bursting at the seems with foster dogs and their are only like 2 or 3 people in the group that know how to handle that type of dog. SO it's not like we can turn our back at that point. I want to help, and with Bennie, he seriously got so much better after he was neutered and with some little training but those first couple of weeks I was so stressed. Who's to say the next dog won't be the same, better or worse? Just say NO!!! I think today this is where you find your voice, then rest and see how you feel when the next dog comes up. If the time is right for you to take on a new dog at that time then do it. From what your saying the time is off for you right now, I really think Cain will understand. Tammy give yourself a break, you are amazing and you just need to put your focus elsewhere right now and that is really, really, really, okay! Your big heart is making the decision of what is right for you hard to see, this time around talk to Cain before it is to late Tammy:)

Quote: Originally Posted by TammyB Thanks kelly.. That is one of my problems, that I put other people before myself. Cain is the exact same way, maybe that is why I get stressed over things, because I'm taking on more then I should. But it's a fine line for me to learn, like being supportive without just giving in. I mean I can stand my ground on stupid things but stuff that I know is important to Cain, I tend to just let him do what makes him happy, and in turn I end up really stressed. (IE prime example, saying it was ok for two of his cousins and his mother to move in with us) Yeah I kind of already knew that about you, just from getting to know you on here. It is great that you want to make your husband happy, but try and remember that he wouldn't want that at the expence of your happiness. I think you should change your mentality about putting you second and the person you love first and look at this from a different perspective. I think you should tell yourself that you are not being selfish and it is not you, your putting first, but you are putting first the hope and happiness that the baby you and cain are desperately trying to conceive will bring. Tell yourself this is not about you, but about a bigger, grander plan and just maybe this will help you find your voice in regards to the things that have added stress in your life. Tammy, I know Cain wants you to be happy, not stressed, so tell him how your feeling.

I think you should see if you could order some extra material and have straps made for the dress, then maybe she would feel more secure in the dress. The dress is beautiful, but until she tries on different styles you won't even know whether or not you like it on her. I think it's time for lunch out, a couple of glasses of wine and then on to dress shopping with lot's of ooohs and ahhhs from you to her.

Quote: Originally Posted by TammyB Cain would never put our future chilren at risk. But lets face it, if I'm all stressed out all the time that can't be good with TTC. ya know? Sometimes I just need a break, but when you have your house full with pets that need to be rehabilitated, that just doesn't happen because your guard is always up or they need your constant attention. Maybe we should just take it "case by case" sort of thing.. Tammy i think you tell Cain exactly what you just said here. The MOST important thing in your life right now is ttc, and your physical and mental health. Cain loves you so much that I think he would understand your fear of what the stress of caring for this type of dog could do for your ability to stay focused on your main goal. Tammy sometimes you need to put other things second, and you first, and maybe this is one of those times. As always I am wishing you faith, hope, and happiness.

Quote: Originally Posted by NYJen Kelly, if I were you, I would just have the friend come do it and tell Everton to deal with it. Hey, it's your house too. Everton already called D and told him not to come, the thing is E never, and i mean never get's upset about anything he is a whatever you want, kelly, is good with me kind of guy, so this is unusual about how strongly he feels about this, i will never get it, but this time i guess i have to except that a lost this battle Whoa that is quite the run on sentence:) Hey glad to see you back where have you been?

Oh yeah Everton and I vacation here every year and let me tell you it's not just clothing optional, it's anything optional, and the fun you can...... Just kidding, hehe, i have never heard of it but i am sure it is not an issue if your staying at dreams or it would have, I'm sure, been mentioned by the countless Dream cabo girls here on the forum. I think your mom will be heart attack free

Quote: Originally Posted by DreaW Glenda, Jessica, and Lauren, I know I would love to meet you guys....I think we would all get a long well. Geesh I think I need to go to New York Quote: Originally Posted by Yari I heart NYC, can I come? New York June 7th we will see you there girls, right!!!!! I know of a group of us no matter what part of the world we come from that could get in to some trouble together, I have my dream list of bdw girls (and Jason) that I would like to meet up with, and yes Jessica, bitch or not your on it:)

Quote: Originally Posted by StephanieMN That stinks! I am surprised he would be that offended by the thought. Did he say why another man can't come over to paint? Is he confused and thinks "paint" means "sex"? I bet that's it!! hehe, no, it has nothing to do with that. Everton, or I honestly don't have a jealous bone in our bodies. This friend is like a brother, he is our really good friend not just one of our random friends. it really is some sort of "I don't need another man to come over and do the job's I am perfectly capable of doing things" it has nothing to do with me and the friend being alone, hell he would have no problem if I said that D and I were going to go out to shop for some new sex toys and then out to see the strippers, he'd say have fun, no this is definitly an ego thing about guy stuff. As for paying our friend D would never take money from us, and hiring someone else i wouldn't do that because I can think of other things (like 5 kids) to spend our money on, plus this was just an unexpected nice gesture on the part of our friend paying someone would hurt his feelings. The thing about just having D do it whether E likes it or not is E would never do that to me, so I would hate to do that to him, unfortunately our relationship is built on this silly little thing called respect:) Everton doesn't take a stand on things to often, it's just frustrating when the thing he decides to take a stand against is just so freakin stupid!

I vote just use them, $1000.00 on oot bags I can think of other things to spend the money on. They are most likely not as bad as you think they are, let us see them and we will give you our honest opinion on them.

Ohhh Alyssa I am so sorry, I just looked at your location and was so impressed with it. Thank god you deal with stress well, for some people this would do them in. I am sorry about all of the stuff that is wasted, that would be really upsetting since the costs add up so quickly. Alyssa I know you will be able to pull this off and come up with a great alternative location, I hope your guests deal with the news as well as you guys are, good luck and I anxiously await news of your new venue:)

Quote: Originally Posted by TammyB Sorry Kelly. Men are a PITA sometimes. Cain tried and failed horribly at putting up crown molding in our home, so he wants to hire someone, so a family member has a friend that said he would do it for real cheap and a case of beer. I'm thinking "GREAT" but Cain want to hire someone and pay them real money, for reasons I still don't understand. Guys are weird... :-) Exactly, Everton would rather hire someone to do it then let our friend, it makes no sense to me. Our friend is seriously bored and wants to help and he thinks he is doing a good thing, never guessing the fight that entailed from it. I told E to deal with it himself that I was not going to call our friend and tell him no, for no good reason. I asked Everton if my girl friend came over to paint would that be okay, he said it would be better, I told him he was just being stupid and he said he doesn't care, and no it's not a jealous of another guy issue it's a can't let another guy do his job issue. He knows Bria has been upset about this so he says he will do it on Sunday, but we have a bunch of things like Bria's gymnastics, Tims football, and I promised the kids a movie. he says I can go without him and he will paint, so now i am even angrier because we have so little family time (read no Everton time) and now he is going to bail on that and leave it up to me to look after the kids stuff (as I always do) so he can paint a room that could be painted before the weekend leaving us with some quality family time, and men say women are not rational!

I don't really see the big deal, a 3 nite bach party is alot, I don't have 3 nites to devote my time to anything including my husband so I know I would want to spend one nite with my husband, and he would want that even more then I would. I would most likely choose the nite that we are all getting together and then beg off early for some alone time with my hubby. I would also still pay my share of the room for the girls. If my hubby and I got our own room for a nite it would be my problem to eat the cost of the other room. I don't think it is worth getting upset about, so many wedding's and wedding related things ruin friendships and I personally don't think at the end of the day it is worth it. If you go feeling upset and angry and your friend is upset, then no one is going to have any fun. I say just accept that we all don't feel the same way about things and have a really good time in the time you are together, jmho.

Ohhh I am so frustarated with Everton right now. We moved into a new house just over a year ago and we have painted every room except for Bria's room and our hallway, it's a two story wall so it is a big job. well Bria has been really upset that her room has not been finished, the paint has been bought for a year, but her father just doesn't have time. Everton works 12 hour days, rarely takes a day off and with his health problems, painting is last on his lists of priorities. Well we have a really good friend who is laid off right now, and has been bored for the past 3 weeks so he calls last night and says he wants to come over tomorrow to paint Bria's room. Well I think this is great, yeahhh, when Bria arrives this weekend it would be so nice to show her a finished room, but no it isn't going to happen because my husband says no way is another guy coming into his home to paint. Omg get over yourself! I can't believe he would rather Bria not have a finished room, which is a issue for her because she feels less important then the rest of the kids, then let one of our best friends come over and paint. So I get mad and tell him he is absolutely ridiculous and it makes no sense to me, he says it's a guy thing, well I think it's a stupid ego thing! Uggg men!

Well my husbands boys brought him to a strip club, do I like strip clubs? No, but I just figured oh well I trust him and I wasn't going to make him tell the guys his fw told him he couldn't go. They pretty much had him up on the stage and got him really, really drunk, they also took lot's of pics and in the end I wasn't really bothered. One thing that most likely helped is my girls had my bachlerette party the same nite, so I wasn't sitting around worrying about Everton, I was out having my own fun. The boys also met up with us at the bar we were at later in the nite, and we all danced and had fun, the boys were missing us so they had to come and find us, so the strippers must not have had anything on us, lol! Relax if you trust your man, let him and his friends have their fun, and you go out and have your own fun it will make the time fly!

this was both Everton's and my second wedding and we had both done the big traditional weddings the first time around. This time we knew we wanted us and our children and nothing else mattered. We decided spending 20 thousand on a great 2 week vacation for us and our kids with a smaller intimate wedding was what we preferred our money to be spent on. I also knew how little time I actually got to spend with my friends and family the first time around and I wanted to enjoy everyone who attended and spend quality time with them. I also knew that Everton and I would have more quality time together. There is nothing like getting up swimming most of the day with your fh, and then getting married. The night of the wedding we were not tired, and therefore we enjoyed our first nite as h and w, instead of the "oh god i am exhausted let's just do it so we can get some sleep" scenario of my first wedding, lol. Even with the stress of a dw i really don't think it is more stressful then a regular wedding, and the bonus is the stress comes in the months leading up to your dw and then it's usually right into vacation mode when you arrive, where as at a at home wedding the stress usualy lasts well into the day of your wedding, just the opinion of someone who has done both:)

Jamy I am so impressed you are so on top of things that you are giving reviews for other people's wedding's and I haven't even written a review of my own yet, lol. Too bad you weren't at my wedding you could have written it for me:)

I think it is much easier to sell Santa then the easter bunny. At least santa is a person, but how do you explain a bunny rabbit with the ability to deliver and hide eggs? All of Liam's friends in sk, told him there is no easter bunny or santa. Liam argued that there has to be because his mommy and daddy would never get him that many presents or chocolate, because his mommy says it's bad to be greedy so she would never be that nice, lol. My standard reply is if you don't believe you don't get, therefore even the teenagers in my home believe:)

I had an envelope for her with a $100.00 in it, but she sucked so badly that I refused to tip her, (or pay for most of my wedding bill), you should only get a tip if you do a good job, and she didn't!

first thing I wore was lot's, and lot's of sunscreen. I wore cute strapless sundresses and tube tops with flowy skirts and sarongs. In the evenings, again, lot's of cute dresses. I hate hats so never wore them, I didn't get sunburned or tanlines at all I was just really dilligent about sun screen. I love summer clothes I always feel so good in them, but I have to say I packed probably 3 times the amount of clothes that I needed, twice the amount of shoes:)

how about a locket for your fmil with both of your pics in it and a pocket watch for your ffil you could then engrave thank you and the date of your wedding on the back, another idea is a beautiful piece of art.

Quote: Originally Posted by lauren c. i bring my lunch to work w/ me every day. on sundays, i go grocery shopping and lay out all of my food for the week. i measure everything and put salad and cold cuts in 5 tupperwares, cut up fruits and veggies, measure cottage cheese or yogurt, etc. my fridge is filled w/ tupperware, but in the morning, i just grab and go - rather than grabbing a can of fattening/high sodium soup or some microwave meal. hummus is also a saviour! wow Lauren I am so impressed, I wish I was this organized, I can really learn from you:) How long does it take you to organize that?