Hi Kayleena
My name is Guilyn. I can TOTALLY relate to EVERYTHING you've said. 'm going nuts-o too. I've thought about hiring a Wedding coordinator to hlp me narrow down my options, but I'd probabl drive the poor girl nuts, because we are having such a hard time finding a spot to stick too. All of the resorts are so big, and that's definitely no ou style. We found one cool spot in Puerto Vallarta Welcome to Playa Fiesta but I'm not sure about having it in Puerto Vallarta, and they have a 'clause' where if you want to rent out the entire hotel, all of your guests have to stay 5 nights. BUT it's affordable, and got GREAT reviews on Reviews of vacations, hotels, resorts, vacation and travel packages - TripAdvisor so you may ant to check it out.
Just a thought. But in the meantime, please let me know what you find out, because it sounds like you and I are on similar pages as far as what we're looking for, so I'd love to know what you decide on, or come across.
Look forward to talking to you!
Guilyn