Jessica

Im sorry Jac. Let us know what they say after you email them.

Unless you BFF has done something really horrible to you and/or your FI, I think it's pretty unfair that your FI "refuses to let you" invite her to your wedding. I guess I'm a pretty dominant personality because it would be a cold day in hell if my DH ever refused to "let me" do something, especially if it was something this important (and it does seem important to you). Is there a reason - other than the fact that they don't get along - that your FI doesn't want her there? I wasn't a big fan of some of the people Brian invited to our wedding, but if it was important to him that they be there then who was I to deny him that? Does your FI know how hurt and torn you feel? I don't want to judge because I feel like I don't know the whole story (ie. if there's a bigger reason your FI won't budge on inviting her), but I think it's pretty crappy that you aren't able to invite her because it does seem like you do very much want her to be there with you.

I'm sorry your friend isn't able to come. As a mother, I can certainly understand her "excuse" but if you feel that she's just overall being a flake on your friendship in general lately, I can empathize with why you are hurt. Have you talked to her about how hurt and frustrated you are? If not, that might be a good place to start, doesn't mean that will make her change her mind, but at least you will put your feelings out there and be able to move on.

Loved this movie and actuallly loved the penis shots. We always see boobs in movies, why not a little peen?! I have had an obsession with staying at that resort ever since watching that movie. Looks amazing.

Happy Birthday Jean Marcus and glad to hear you are enjoying your dirty thirties!

So I was surprised at the eliminated girl based on the solos, but I thought the bottom 3 guys were a harder pick. I like them all! I was sad to see who was eliminated from the boys, but I really didn't want any of them to go!

Can't wait to hear all the details Ann! I love the new pic of Gwen. Awww. Have a safe trip!!!

Ooh. Sounds good Katrina. I love stuffed peppers.

I've heard the horrors before but I only change them once a week. I only do cold water washes, but I figured my sheets haven't killed me yet, so I'm not going to stress about it too much.

I like the relationship of the sisters (and how they are also super protective of their one brother), but I can't stand this show for some reason.

You can use the search info for specifics. When I planned my wedding gogle was my friend. I had my St.Thomas wedding 2 years ago and it was super casual, but there's a bit of info on my wedding blog along with some links. http://jessicalovesbrian.blogspot.com/

Happy Birthday Jenny, whereever you are!

I finally saw part 2! Interesting! I so hope the 2nd season goes through. I love it. I knew about the Dina and the wedding thing only because I get all excited when anyone from NJ is on a reality show and who could forget that wedding!? Definitely remembered her. I don't dislike Theresa, but does anyone else think her hair looks like a wig?! It's so weird. I think it's because her hairline is so low. It bugs the hell out of me.

It's amazing how the most unsuspecting things can trigger feelings related to traumas we've had in our lives. What you are feeling is totally normal because you are able to relate parts of this story to your own life. I can empathize with your conflicting feelings when dealing with a family member who has the emotional age of someone much younger. My SIL has impaired cognitive abilities and although she is 30 has the mind of someone much, much younger. It's hard to navigate between being understanding of this impairment but also not wanting to be affected by some of the inappropriate behaviors, etc that come with it. I'm extremely sorry to hear about your father and know it must be very painful for you to have to re-live this again so unexpectedly. If anything take this whole situation as an opportunity to continue to reflect on your relationship with your mother and what the next step you want to take regarding the relationship is. I wish you the best of luck on getting through everything.

I miss that beach. Are you getting married there (Magen's) too or was it just for the pictures? I like your dress. Very cute.

Quote: Originally Posted by Morgan this is what I was worried about. Was the spam so bad you had to change email addresses? It was annoying but not horrible. Luckily they all filtered to my spam inbox so deleting them quickly was easy. But surprisingly enough it died off at the end of the contest. Like I would get daily emails from the website telling me to vote for my friend, then get like 5 or 6 "Your Kid Should Be A Model!" and other baby related emails. But once this contest that she entered was over I didn't get anything else. Thank goodness I didn't have to change email addresses because this was my "professional" email, where send resumes from, etc. I would have been pissed.

"Cute Baby" photo contests are some of the biggest scams. My friend entered her kid in that Great American Photo contest and I got so many spam emails from them because she sent me an invite to vote. Obnoxious!

Ok, I am finally watching the elimination episode thanks to DVR and will post as I'm watching. Aww, how cute were those little kids?! I honestly thought they were all going to be a lot younger than they were because of Cat's reaction, I was "eh" about the older ones but the little boys were adorable. I thought it was amusing when Nigel made Toni state who of the bottom 3 she wasn't surprised about. He seemed a little aggressive with his "Name names!" demand. I can't blame him though. She annoys the crap out of me. I enjoyed Kaitlyn's solo the best although Karla gets points for using a Radiohead song. I heart The Veronicas so it was cool to see them on the show even though I usually don't pay attention to 80% of the musical guests. FINALLY!!! Asuka is gone! Good riddance Little Miss Stuckup. I'm glad V and Jason made it through. I was pulling for them over Jonathan.

That is funny. I'd totally print that out for the scrapbook.

Yes!!! I've been vegetarian since I was 11 thanks to my biology teacher and her obsession with telling us where meat comes from... now that I think of it, maybe she was a vegetarian/vegan too and that's why she kept telling us those horror stories. I do love my cheese, so I'm not vegan, but I do use only cruelty free products, am against the use of (real) leather and fur, etc. I love, love, LOVE vegetarian Mexican food especially. Yum!

Hmmm. IDK about this. I mean just because you were in a certain clique in high school doesn't mean you are the same way in adulthood. Are they doing like former geeks who still hold a grudge? Or high school geeks who are still geeks?

Quote: Originally Posted by Prettyhazardous During Pre-marital counseling the pastor said that he needed to mend to relationship with his mother and invite her to the wedding. As someone who counseled victims of abuse, I have to say I totally disagree with this. Brian has every right not to want to mend his relationship with someon who was so abusive to him. Sometimes when you have a family member who is toxic, it's in the best interest of the person to cut ties with him/her. I'm not saying that's the exact case here, but I think it's up to Brian to make that decision. He needs to heal from the effects of abuse before even considering mending his relationship with his mother (if that's what he choses). This idea makes me really uncomfy bc I think what if I do something wrong can he just kick me out of his life as well.. Unless you are being abusive to him, I think comparing the two relationships is unjustified. You are not his mother and you did not spend years inflicting physical, emotional and verbal pain on him. It's not like he kicked her out of his life for no reason. He has a very valid reason if he was abused. In my opinion it's not your place to try and repair the relationship between these two or push the issue. Is he unhappy not having a relationship with his mother? If he's not then I don't think you should interfere in that. You also shouldn't feel guilty... this whole idea of "allowing" his family not to be invited... if he feels uncomfortable or doesn't want to invite his family, end of story. I also think it's a little unfortunate that his cousin was pissed at not being invited. Disappointment is expected, but to be pissed? It just seems like there's a sense of dysfunction in the family dynamic and you shouldn't feel guilty for that. I would just take FI's lead on how he wants to handle this. Be supportive of him and his decisions. It sounds like his childhood was pretty rough.

Congratulations. She's a beauty.

Totally legit. I did this instead of renewing my subscription and I have been getting them ever since.

This is crazy. I had no idea about Farrah or Michael. I was out all day and heard this on the drive home. Surreal.