LadyP

I am soooo late. I am glad that everything went the way you wanted and the starfish made it in time. Cant wait to see teh pictures and congratulations on becoming a MRS

Quote: Originally Posted by JPMO Oh cool! Well we can definately appreciate a man with good tastes !!!!!!! It'll come... when you least expect it. When it does? We'll be right here to say," I told you so!." You two sound like you have a very happy and healthy relationship it's going to be alright. It is very nontraditional though. We do some very off the cuff things but we like it so. I know it will come. I just want my dancing elephants and be able to say look girls my DIY this and my DIY that. I think 2 weeks after the proposal I will have it all finalized and be able to start projects. LOL

That is my goal. I am hoping to be a St Thomas bride. I found a wonderful package and with all of the ideas that Ihave seen here should be able to cut major corners.

Ok that sounds well and good but he is not the talking about feelings type. He is an action speaks louder than words type. All of the years I have know him and knowing his father getting him to express his feelings is out. I am going to ride it out until his birthday. (which means we will talk while I fall asleep tonite) Wish me luck

Quote: Originally Posted by Nrvsbride Catherine I remember you mentioning something about him not wanting to propose until all your finances were in order. Did he mean the money for the ring or did he mean other things like credit card debt and stuff like that? Have you ever tried talking to him to see what his main concern is? Is it b/c he wants to make sure he has enough money saved up to get you the ring that he feels you deserve or is it b/c he wants to wait to be debt free? He has changed jobs and his money is not where he would like it to be. So maybe that can be a part of it. But money will never be where we want it to be. It wasnt when we had our son and he wants for nothing. We are not broke but we dont live on the upper east side of Manhattan either. like everyone we struggle and we watch what we spend but all is well. Our credit has taken a hit in the last month so that could be it too. I just wish he would talk to me

Quote: Originally Posted by tvt I said the same things too then i when i was annoying FI would say i was getting negative .5 carats. have you two gone ring shopping together? that might help you both figure out what you're looking at price wise and style, etc. No we have not gone shopping together. We look at them online but never in the store our schedules have been crazy lately. We are together early morning or late night and Saturday is out our son's schedule is equally as time consuming. His birthday is next month. I am going to take him to dinner and just talk to him.

You know what maybe he doesnt because I alway say jokingly for all that I have put up with and have done I deserve a 4Karat ring. and he just smiles and makes a crazy remark

FOR THE RECORD I ID NOT SHOW HIM THAT RING he looked at it himself and I found it when I turned on the computer. i showed him one of the rings that you ladies had posted and then he talked about the tiffany novo.

wow i heard about that with the phendi and prodas

Quote: Originally Posted by JPMO I think your conversation about wedding and if you are showing him rings like the Tiffany may be placing unecessary pressure. If it's financial just ask! I asked Maurice how he felt about a woman proposing. Tell him how you feel about the union, not necessarily the big wedding itself. No Tiffany was not me. I would go to Walmart or sears. Tiffany was him. NOt me. I was shocked to turn on the computer and that picture was there.

Girl I live close lets go get them. I just read it again and I am mad for you. You put out money for them than your wedding and they have the nerve to complain and put on air. I am so hot right now fo ryou

Quote: Originally Posted by fogdog Not at all. I don't have a engagement ring and didn't want one. I just didn't believe that something as emotional and spiritual as a marriage should be marked by or a condition of a material thing. (I am also not good with material things and have lost every expensive item I've ever owned . The only people who seem to have an issue with this are strangers who can't seem to understand why a woman wouldn't want a ring. We have a strong relationship, just bought a house, got a puppy, and I have a new job that I love. My life is very complete without it! If you explain this to him - how you are so happy with everything you already have and don't need any more - maybe he can start to think about it differently too! Thank you. I would love the ring but at this junction in my life it is not that serious to me. I just want to share the rest of my life with him the way it was designed to be done.

I am sorry that you are experiencing such expensive drama. engraved Ipods. I'll be a bridesmaid LOL. Tell them how you feel about everything with out cursing and yelling. tell them now that if they dont want to be apart then step. You can return the ipod if you have not given them out yet. Sorry for the dramma

WELCOME TO THE FORUM There are a bunch of great woman here who will become long distance friends in the end. Ask all the questions you need to help you with your planning. Good luckk and Congratulations

ok I stagnant was the wrong word sorry. Have you ever looked at estate sales, or pawn shops for rings? Here in philly is Jewelers Row with hundreds of stores that seel rings. tiffany would be a dream come true but Cracker Jacks have rings in them too. do you two talk about wedding plans? We havent talked about wedding plans lately. I share your ideas to get his thoughts about them. He smiles. He has made comments on wedding pictures and guest list. there is something about being married to the father of your child that is important, and feels right. It also I think is important to the children as they get older, to have mom and dad married to one another. I know our kids wanted this for us, it solidifies the relationship in the eyes of others, even if it was already solidified for the two of you, this gives children a sense of security. Yes it has to be me being married to my son's father that makes it that more special. Cause when we talk we talk about each other in the future.

Quote: Originally Posted by AQHARIDER I LOVE the Tiffany Novo...that's an awesome ring. OK, Catherine. I hope I'm not overstepping my bounds here, but please don't think that if things are stagnant that getting married is going to make them better. Please don't make that mistake. I have 2 friends that have pushed their DH's into getting married, and things are still not going well. One is getting divorced. Not saying that is going to happen to you, but I just don't think that getting married will make a relationship better, if it isn't already doing well. What makes you say things are stagnant? WE are not at each others throats there is much much romance and date nights and things of that nature. I just feel that there is no where else for us to go. We have the house, looking at another, we have the kid and will not be having another, we still have spark we communicate so it is the next step.

Quote: Originally Posted by TammyB Kate that is soooo true. When Cain and I first started dating he told me he never wanted to get married because he didn't know of anyone that wasn't divorced. SO from the very start I pretty much thought we were going to be dating for the rest of our lives, the first time he mentioned to me "marriage" i was shocked.. My point is, all I cared about was that I was going to spend the rest of my life with the man I loved regardless if he was my boyfriend, or husband. That is where I am. Since is divorce he would never get married have children. Just a manwhore was his claim to to fame.. But when we had our son and he began talking marriage I been all and I can not contain it. So to keep peace in the house I chat with you all and save peace in the home

He wants to get the Tiffany Novo ring .http://tiffany.com/expertise/engagem...novo&ring=novo I would love to put this in the faces of all the woman sniffing around him but I TRULLY DONT CARE we can go to walmart and get a ring he can put string on my finger. I just feel like things are stagnant and that is the only thing it can be.

I thought it was just me. I want to be Lady P and for some reason he want to wait for ring. I dont care. I just feel it is time. I know he does to but MEN (scream) why is PRIDE such a huge thing to them? HSN has wonderful dominiques and I would wear it with pride.

I am asking all of these questions because I know that the reason he has not proposed is finances. and I feel that if we got married then some of the small bill would be alliviate. Like my insurance is wonderful and he pays out the A$% for his insurance. If he went on mine it would be money to save. I figure we could go to the justice of the peace or elope in St Thomas Honeymoon later. We have been together so long that it seems that nothing is going right because we are fighting finances. I dont care (at this second) about the engagement ring it can come later it just feels like it is time now. That maybe if we got married the the universe will smile on our union and things would get better. Am I wrong. Should I say something.

One can dream. thanx for the website.

you look fantastic. the flowers on teh archway are fake and your bouquet is real right? you look sooooooo happy. Cant wait to see the rest

Very Nice You Look Soo Happy

let me know if you want me to check our outlets nordstrom here in Philly

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