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Those are *very* cute. Do you normally have a shoe bandit? I'd be so freaked out and concerned that the shoe bandit might turn into a wedding presents bandit. Have you had problems before with packages? -V-

Lisa used the Dreams Tulum photographer for her wedding. Here's one of the threads: http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...a+dreams+tulum Photography is also very important to me so I decided to not chance it and lucked out by getting a great price with Robin De Paula. -V-

Quote: Originally Posted by PaulaV Hey, I think Dreams provides sunscreen too. That could be another item off your list to add something else in its place. FYI, I think the Dreams provided sunscreen is only SPF 8 and I couldn't figure out if it was waterproof or not. -V-

Quote: Originally Posted by robindepaula Congrats on the job, Vi!! I guess you finally got your CV done even with me enticing you to add more photos to your website . . . Yes, no thanks to you.. you photo slut! j/k I mean that in the most loving way. Do you have *your* outfit yet? Quote: Your bridesman is your best friend and like abrother, so I'm assuming you have a frank, honest relationship with him. Just tell him straight out "Listen, I need the f'ing measurements. You're getting a free trip and a free suit, it's not that hard. Either do it or don't be the bridesman. I would.. but I can't get him on the freaking phone! I probably wouldn't cuss at him but I would give him a real guilt trip. I actually didn't give him much of a choice about being a bridesman. So I really do not want him to NOT be a bridesman. Anybody in Seattle with a tape measure want to go down to Half Price Books on Belmont to measure him? He's working this weekend. -Vi-

Quote: Originally Posted by JaimeLynne Your bridesman (that's totally cute btw) needs to get with it! Seriously, it sounds like you guys are doing a lot for him - sheesh! As for the Dr. titles, that just seems silly to me. Geez people, get over it. Yay for you accepting a job offer! What will you be doing? My bridesman actually wanted to be called "Master of Honor" since I have a matron of honor. I told that was too D&D. And yes, he's being a total flake about this! It takes several weeks to get the suits in so hopefully he'll get me those measurements in time. As far as the Dr. titles go... Yes, silly... My Dr. friends wouldn't be upset. New Job: Drug Dealer (the legal kind.) Maybe I need to send adderall to my bridesman so he can get with it, and valium to the rest of the folks so they can chill out. But then I'd lose the job AND my license. And on another bright side: my DH didn't make fun of me for being on the forum and actually starting a new thread. Thanks gals. It's nice to have my frustrations validated. -Vi-

If you call the airline company I am sure that will alleviate your fears about your sister-in-law's oxygen traveling needs. For an emergency plan, you may want to look into buying a traveler's health insurance policy. Some of them cover emergency medical transportation back to an appropriate health facility (a medjet back to the states for example). At the very least, it'll provide peace of mind in case something were to happen while in Mexico. -V-

OK, I've been on here since february and have seen everyone go through various frustrations along the road. We're down to 2 months and I thought we were doing pretty well - the only person that was giving me a slight headache was my 6 year old niece who didn't like the type of outfit I wanted her to wear. Until now... I have a bridesman - he's one of my bestest friends from high school and I love him like a brother. But right now, I want to throttle him (and my father too, but that's the second story.) We're ordering Made to Measure suits for the male members of the wedding party. I sent "Xavier" a form with illustrations indicating all the measurements I need to have for me to order his suit. It's pretty clear cut. Anyone with a tape measure can follow the illustrations and write down the measurements. TWO weeks later, after 3 reminder emails, I finally get 1/2 the measurements. Hmm... No sweetie, we can't make a suit with only 1/2 the measurements. He apologized for the delay and reminded me that he hates clothes shopping. There's no shopping involved! All he had to do was get measured!!! Oh, and if it was too much hassle to get measured, I also gave him the option of giving me a suit size since the tailors can do that too. He's getting a made to measure suit for nothing (yup we're paying for it), AND a trip to Mexico! All I'm asking for are some measurements. Does that seem like too much? Then there's my dad. I asked for his list of guests and addresses. I sent him a proof of the invitation before getting it printed. I asked him for his opinion on using his "Dr." title in the invitation since my DH just got his Ph.D. and is very proud of that fact. Now I'm communicating with him about the announcements which, since we're printing them ourselves, we can do in vietnamese for him (he originally wanted the invitations in vietnamese/english; I ended up doing them in french/english b/c we were sending them to the US/France/Canada). NOW he tells me that people are upset because we didn't use *their* "Dr." titles. Apparently he's gotten a few calls already (the invitations were mailed monday.) I'm sure he's blaming it on me (haha, my daughter didn't know any better...) WTF? How in the heck was I supposed to know who has a Ph.D. and who doesn't? But since we used the titles in the invitations, apparently we were supposed to put them in the addresses. The list he gave me only had Mr. & Mrs. even for my uncle who is actually a doctor (we did put Doctor on his invite.) Aaaargh. I'm just aggravated. On the bright side, I just accepted a job offer (which means my year long vacation is over.) -Vi-

What kind of printer do you have? And which issues exactly are you having with the envelopes? If we know these things, we might be able to help you better. -V-

What heel height do you need? How about something like this? -V-

Oops.. just saw your last post. Those are *very* pretty. Use your chest measurements to determine your size. Those style gowns are very forgiving on the hips. -Vi-

I didn't try on different manufacturer's wedding dresses so I don't really know the american sizing. However, I am smaller than you (not even 5'1" on a good day unless I'm wearing my stilettos) and I've always ordered the smallest size bridesmaid's dress (2 or 0), and then had to alter them down several (more than 2) sizes. Definitely get measured by a tailor (maybe not at the bridal store because there seems to be a conspiracy on alterations) and then compare your measurements to the manufacturer's chart as oposed to relying solely on the salesperson's opinion. I am normally a european 32 or 34 and my wedding gown is a 34 (which had to be taken in.) If the gown is not corsetted or does not have any boning to help support a strapless style, definitely go tight on the measurements and/or find a good (reasonably priced) tailor. Happy hunting! -Vi-

I'll second that last post. I think it's very generous what you already have. I'm sure the bridesmaids will appreciate having their hair costs taken care of especially since they'll be getting their hair done for you. You could buy the starfish earrings and save them for christmas presents. That way they'll get something else several months later. -Vi-

We've never had any problems with Vistaprint but it seems you're not the only one that has made that "mistake." Here's another thread about it: http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...ght=vistaprint -Vi-

They could probably arrange for you to have the wedding anywhere on the property but I'm not aware of any other specific "wedding" locations besides the chapel and the beach. Dreams Cancun has a gazebo overlooking the ocean - it's windy but it's all concrete and lawn. -Vi-

That's the closest so far! It's still a little pricey for what it is since I would have to tweak it so that once it's on it doesn't shift. I've got it bookmarked now. Thanks!!! -Vi-

Thanks for doing the search on Etsy.. I've tried looking on there but get discouraged (impatient?) because they will only show 15 items per page on searches. After leafing through 30 pages, I usually give up. Sundance has some great jewelry, unfortunately not what I'm looking for. But again, thank you for the suggestions; keep them coming! -V-

Thanks! I'll go check it out. -Vi-

Quote: Originally Posted by carlymcmullen I hear ya, who wouldn't rather have 3 carats then fake jewelry! Oooops.. what I meant was that I like the style of the diamond necklace better (but yeah.. of course I'd rather have the real thing.) -Vi-

I actually used to dabble in making jewelry. But it's been 8 years and I'm a little out of practice. I'd rather not have to make it. The second necklace is nice, and I could make it (probably by ordering real gold chain and real gemstones from rio grande) but I'd rather have the 1st necklace! -Vi-

Need your help ladies! When we picked out our wedding bands I took the opportunity to try on some necklaces while at the jewelry store. This one necklace was so pretty, not too heavy, understated, and didn't overwhelm my small frame. Because I have an asymmetrical neckline on my dress I can't do a single pendant type of necklace. So, anyways, I tried on the necklace and loved it! That is, until I took a look at the price tag. $6,000!!!!!! Apparently 3 carats worth of yellow diamonds cost a lot of money. That picture doesn't do it justice. The strands actually criss-cross each other when it's worn, giving it an effect sort of like in this necklace: I really like this second necklace too but the gemstones aren't sparkly enough. Please help me find a cheaper alternative to the diamond necklace. I would like it to be gold colored and to have either clear or blue gemstones (or crystals), and to cost much less than several mortgage payments. Thanks! -Vi-

Hi Trisha, It's really up to you what you want to do for your guests. If you think you might book 10 rooms or more, you may want to get with a travel agent to facilitate things and get a room block. Don't forget to confirm with Sandra your wedding date so that she puts you down in the book. Del Sol photography: It so happens that Matt Adcock and Sol Tamargo are members of this forum and they both do excellent work. Happy Planning! -Vi-

Annie, It's beautiful! Congratulations on finding your dress so quickly! So all you have left to do is find a veil and flip flops for the children? There's still 3 months until the wedding so we have to fill up your time with *something*! Lingerie? Hairdo? Makeup? -Vi- PS. Fannie, yes I do speak French. I think we're the 3 Frenchies. See my ticker below.

Quote: Originally Posted by MikkiStreak "Wow, I gotta say--- if that's the attitude shown to the bridal party, some brides are really lucky to even have bridesmaids. God knows that's the kind of thing that would make me look at the person and say 'fuck you.' . . . Would you really say that? Nevermind.. you would. In her defense (obviously she's still my friend since she'll be my MOH) she tried very hard to find something that would be flattering to everyone. I also don't have many body issues. She also accepted that I might retaliate and make her wear.. oh.. a bikini down the beach aisle. I am so glad that I don't have these issues with my BMs. I told them what style dress was going to get made and sent them off to find fabric that wouldn't clash with my 2nd dress. My flower girl, however, is having problems with her dress style (she gets to pick out her own color too.) She's only 6. She'll either adjust or.. well.. not be a flower girl. Back to the original dilemna, the more BMs you have, the harder it will be to please everybody. If someone is going to be unhappy or not completely happy, I'd rather it be a BM than the bride. And if your bridesmaids know that you're a control/planner freak and that you'll feel better knowing everything is settled and done, then they should make more of an effort to indulge you and look for a dress now. Give them a deadline. It's amazing how things get done when there's a deadline. -Vi-

No offense, but I don't think your FI is a wedding dress expert. If you can't find the dress (and it's from a past collection) it probably means that it was very popular! To ease his and your minds, you may want to go try on a similar dress with the dropped waist and ruching. It won't exactly be *that* dress but you'll have a good idea of how it'll look on you. Plus, trying on dresses is fun! (I only tried on 6 so I feel like I kinda missed out on the experience.) And you might even fall in love with another dress. -Vi-

Now for the other side of the coin. You said you picked out dresses you love. Understandably, you want everything organized as soon as possible and maybe by the time the other bridesmaids get into gear whatever you/they like might not be available any longer. Having not seen the dress nor the BMs, it's hard to judge how the dresses would look on them. On the other hand, if they have not tried the dress on, how can they really say it'll look horrible? Most of us have walked into a bridal shop with a specific idea of what looks good on us and walked out with something completely different/something we would never ever pick up. The wedding is about the bride/couple, not the bridesmaids. Ideally, they should be happy for you, happy to be standing up for you, and suck it up even though they're not going to be in model worthy outfits. I was a BM for my MOH's wedding and she flat out told me I was not a consideration in her choice of BMs outfits (she had BMs in ALL sizes - I was the smallest.) I said OK and went to the David's Bridal to put in the order for whatever she had picked out. Another friend several years previously had asked me to be in her wedding. She'd picked out emerald green for her BMs dresses. I declined. I didn't want to spend money on a dress in a color I dislike to be in a wedding for a friend to whom I was no longer close and who was marrying a man - well.. I thought she could do better. The point is, I didn't really care about what I was wearing to my MOH's wedding because I was truly happy for her and wanted to help make her day more special, and I cared a lot about what I might've been wearing to my other friend's wedding b/c I wasn't vested in that wedding. Now as a bride, I have threatened my MOH with a purple dress with green polka dots (that would look horrible on her) and she just said "whatever you want my dear." It would be inconsiderate for a bride to pick out something she knows her BMs would look horrible in, but at the same time, I don't think it's fair to let the BMs dictate how the wedding party should look if it's not what you want. I like the idea of giving them a month's deadline to allow them a final say so. With all that being said, when all the decisions are made, even though the BMs live apart from each other, try to have everyone order from the same actual store so that the dresses will ordered all at once and come from the same dye lot. Sorry that was so long. -V-