Heather, I think it's wonderful that you have finally decided to post an honest review on this photographer. I think it's absolutely terrible that a vendor would put added stress on you. You might as well have the stress of photographing your own wedding then. That's ridiculous.
I'm very glad that you switched photographers, and I think that money lost will be considered money well spent to get out of that situation.
Again, I'm sorry you had to deal with that, but thank you SO much for being so honest and up front for other BDW brides. That is, after all, what we are all here for... advice and information.