I was in the same place when I got married. What we ended up doing was putting together a registry of things we really wanted but wouldn't buy for ourselves, so a Dyson vacuum, new dishes, a fancy garbage can, etc. Everything was more expensive, so people went in together to buy things. Sure, we still ended up with some crap, but mostly we got a few really nice things. Also, are you flying in a photographer for your wedding? Ask if they have a bridal registry. I have one for my brides. I have family members buy wedding albums, prints, canvases, or even just help pay for the cost of the photographer all the time. It's super awesome and what a great gift!!