While I would normally agree with you, Ann... I just know what it's like to deal with office politics at its worst. I guess I'm one to avoid conflict though. At the same time, I will not be inviting certain family members that I KNOW will be offended, but (as sad as it is) they're really the last ones I want there. I guess it depends on the degree of the relationship. If they're there will it affect your day? If yes, then I'd agree with Ann... if you think that it won't make much of a difference then I'd casually invite them. Ahh - does this count as a conflict, Ann?! lol, Sorry!!! Friends?!